Let's face it: seducing guys ain't that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge is making your moves really memorable. What follows are seven classic approaches to seduction that you can make your own -- and have fun doing it.
1) The Detective: It's the quintessential seduction technique: Show up at his door in a trench coat, heels and not much else. It's a bold move that takes nerve and confidence. But before you bust it out, just be sure 1) he's home, 2) he doesn't have company, and 3) you've got a backup outfit in your purse in case of emergencies. And don't feel obligated to wear the traditional lace garter-belt ensemble underneath. An oversized "Go Mets!" T-shirt, especially if he's a fan, might work just as well. What's sexier than a sense of humor? And try these 16 Sexy, Sneaky Acts of Seduction.
2) The Anaïs Nin: In an email, text or--get this--a handwritten lust note (yes, they still make nice pens), tell him what you want to do to
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- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Fri, Nov 21, 2008 10:12 PM EST
We have an article in this month'sGlamour magazine called "Guys' Weird New Habits: Why? Why?" One new habit we looked into were vasectomies for the under-30 -- it seems a small but growing number of men are doing it. So we spoke with "the King of Vasectomies", urologist Dr. Douglas Stein, who performs about 2,000 a year. And he had an interesting take on how vasectomies are, in part, just the green thing to do:Read More »from Is getting a vasectomy the best way to help save the planet?
"Forty percent of pregnancies are unintended. Yes, some of that is teenagers and you're not going to sterilize them, obviously. But a lot of that 40 percent are people who wouldn't mind if the wand of infertility touched them, but something fails (like their planning or their contraception) and they accidentally get pregnant and have the kid.
Almost a quarter of women switch contraceptives at least once a year. Use this quiz to narrow down your choices, then call your doctor.
You have to keep in mind you can recycle every newspaper, Coke bottle, and battery until you die, but
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I am a 31-year-old male in California and have been married for 6 1/2 years. Back in March, my wife came to me one night and said she would like to discuss something with me...I knew it was something serious but never imagined she'd say, "What do you think about an open marriage?" She is conservative by nature so this took me by complete surprise. I have dated her since she was 18, she is now 28, and we have two kids. She says she doesn't want to leave me or the kids, but admits to feeling trapped -- like she never lived out her early 20's. We have discussed it over the last couple of months: she is persistent in wanting this. What are the positives of this and can it be healthy for a marriage?
First, can we just say we love that you're concerned, cautious and confused about your wife's request? The cliché male response would be to immediately jump at an opportunity like this. "I can get a free pass from my wife to sleep with other women?!? Hells
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For those of you who voted in favor of one-night stands yesterday, here's a little refresher course on how to make said one-night stands as nice as possible, in every sense of the word. Just because you're never going to see someone again, doesn't mean you can treat them unkindly. Because if today we're rude to our one-night stands, tomorrow we'll stop holding elevators for strangers in a hurry, and by the weekend we'll be answering our cellphones in church. So here are ten good rules to follow:
1. Always lay your cards on the table before the strip poker begins--we like to call this the "pre-nook." Confirm that your date for the evening has no delusions of grandeur about a future together. Too many people out there--including, yes, some men--think that when you sleep with them, it means you care. The responsible cad or cadette weeds these persons out of the mix by being up front about his or her intentions.*
2. That said, it's just plain rude to beat off a dead horse. Let's say you
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Tue, Nov 18, 2008 7:50 PM EST
Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week, dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tackles a mysterious reappearing ex.Read More »from Sex Dream Analysis: "My Ex-Husband and I Are Having Crazy Sex"
I have been having dreams about my ex-husband lately. I am kind of confused because I keep wondering if leaving him was the right choice and now I have these intense dreams that are so real it scares me. All the dreams I have about him are different but they all involve sex or heavy petting. And sometimes we do crazy things during sex that we never did while we were married. I would really love to know what is going on here because I am in a relationship now that I have been in over a year and it just all of a sudden started happening. (Have you ever had a hard time getting over an ex?)
Should she go back to the well, or is she just dreaming in rose-tinted glasses? Find out after the jump (right after you send us your own dreams!):
Lauri Loewenberg: Your uncertainty over the end of your marriage is the cause of these dreams.
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Tue, Nov 18, 2008 7:35 PM EST
Okay, so we know that you can't believe everything that a celebrity (or a celebrity magazine or a celebrity flack) says, and we know that it's hard enough to figure out how and why your own relationship ended, let alone that of Joe Jonas and Taylor Swift. (Or, say, Matt Damon and Minnie Driver: We once believed that Matt actually dumped Minnie on The Oprah Winfrey Show--but looking back, we now find ourselves squarely on Team Matt.) Also, we know that teenagers can't always be expected to act maturely when even fully grown adults screw up breakups on a daily basis. Hell, even yours truly have been breakup biotches in our time, and we literally wrote the book on how to do it nicely.Read More »from Is it ever ok to break up with someone over the phone?
That all said, we feel it's our responsibility--being that we, you know, wrote the book on it--to speak out on how Joe Jonas may or may not have dumped Taylor Swift. As Taylor told Ellen DeGeneres (and really, who wouldn't want to get a little empathy and a big hug from Ellen after getting dumped?) Joe did
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Mon, Nov 17, 2008 7:22 PM EST
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You will think you have found love--or at least really good sex--this week, but it won't last, because they're lying to you. Hate to make you feel like you've been kicked in the nuts now, but it's better than feeling like your heart's been ripped out through your esophagus later, right?
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We have one word of relationship advice for you: Google. It's not nosy--we all do it. And in your case, you might just be very glad you did. Just remember: don't believe everything you read...unless it's written by us. Video: Would you Google a sex partner?
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Easy come, easy go. Who knows what the heck is going on with your love life--the revolving door to your bedroom is spinning so fast, everything's a blur. You might want to consider changing your sheets.
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You'll have a veritable poo-poo platter of romantic options this week, but none of them will taste quite right (and if we're reading
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Fri, Nov 14, 2008 8:02 PM EST
We have an article in this month's Glamour magazine called "Guys' Weird New Habits: Why? Why?" One new habit we looked into was "brozilians"--the male equivalent of the Brazilian bikini wax. Yep, guys from Jay-Z to Diddy to perhaps your cubicle mate are taking it all off down there. So we spoke with Enrique Ramirez, the owner and the lead esthetician of Face to Face NYC--Day Spa:Read More »from Why your next boyfriend may feel your bikini wax pain
So is it true that more and more men are waxing down there?
Yes! Men's waxing, for both gay and straight men, is growing at a rapid number--probably at the same rate as our national economic debt!
When do you think this trend really took hold?
About five years ago, after the metrosexual revolution began. For many years men shaved or clipped, but these two methods only provide minimal results for up to two or three days, which can get tiresome to have to shave constantly. Waxing provides smoothness for up to two to three weeks.
Is manscaping necessary or a no-no?
What kind of waxing do straight guys tend to
- Em and Lo | Work + Money – Thu, Nov 13, 2008 6:36 PM EST
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, Do you think guys cheat more than women?Read More »from Advice from our guy friends: Do men cheat more than women?
Straight Single Guy (Max):
I'll admit it. We men are a lousy bunch. Almost all of us, at some point, break down and think with our penises instead of using our common sense. No matter how wonderful you may be as a girlfriend, remember that we are weak, egocentric, and driven mostly by our hormones. Given a situation in which our lovely lady goes missing, we will temporarily forget all the awesome things they do, and we will flirt. While there are many great dudes out there that are smart enough to keep it in their pants, this friendly banter often leads to some opportunity and, often thanks to the taboo nature of this opportunity, we just might make a move -- a move that we will most likely regret. (Alas, this is turning autobiographical.) A girl, on the other hand, is more likely to be satisfied with the attention and flirtation alone. She doesn't NEED the physical