30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30."
Well, this is excellent, I thought. With seven years to go, I already had things like "one friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry" and knowledge of "the names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town."
And I had plenty of time to work toward the rest. And with my head start, I could focus my energy on my own list of "30 before 30" goals-which included publishing a best-seller and traveling to a good 75% of the world's countries. Obviously.
A few weeks ago, with my 30th birthday quickly approaching, I read that list again. And I panicked. How do I feel about having kids? I don't even know how I feel about having houseplants! I'm supposed to have a cordless drill? The only tools I have to my name are a hammer and that metal thing used to put together IKEA furniture!
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30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30."I think I was 23 when I read it for the first time: Glamour's now-infamous "Read More »from 30 Things You Don’t Have to Have by 30
There's nothing like the rumor of layoffs to turn a pleasant office into a Lord of the Flies-like battleground. Suddenly, everyone's on edge, the office gossip mill is working overtime, and normally friendly co-workers start looking for ways to make themselves look good-even at the cost of making someone else look bad.
Times may be tough, but there's no need to panic. By knowing how to prepare yourself and make the most of your work relationships, you can increase your chances of staying on the team-or, at the very least, make the transition to a new job as painless as possible.
Step 1: Be PreparedFirst, prepare yourself for a potential worst-case scenario. No, we're not advising you to start hoarding office supplies and move back into your parents' house. But you should think about what you would do if the company were to let you go and position yourself to be able to bounce back as fast as possible. Just knowing that you're ready for whatever comes your way will help you sleep Read More »from 3 Steps to Surviving a Round of Layoffs
- The Daily Muse | secrets-to-your-success – Tue, Jul 10, 2012 10:56 AM EDT
LinkedIn is, far and away, the most advantageous social networking tool available to job seekers and business professionals today. Far and away.
So why is it that so many of us stink at LinkedIn etiquette?
That's right, folks. We stink at it. We send out lazy, generic connection requests. We ask people we barely know for recommendations. We ambush people, asking for favors before we've ever spent even two seconds of time building rapport. We shove our Tweets through our LinkedIn feeds, even though half the people on LinkedIn could care less about Twitter.
You want to use LinkedIn to your massive networking advantage? Then you need to start working strategically and mindfully. And before you even think about logging on next time-you need to digest a few basic rules of etiquette.
1. Generic Requests are for SuckersI'm going to assume that you use care in selecting who you're going to invite into your LinkedIn network (you should). Why then, do you send them this note: "Debbie has Read More »from Your LinkedIn Intervention: 5 Changes You Must Make
- The Daily Muse | Work + Money – Mon, Jul 9, 2012 11:07 AM EDT
If you're stuck in a job you hate, you're (unfortunately) not alone. In fact, an astonishing more than 80% of Americans are dissatisfied with their jobs.Read More »from How I Figured Out What I Wanted to Do with My Life
I, too, was unhappy in the corporate job I took right after college. Like many people, I'd put more thought and effort into getting the job than into figuring out if it was something I actually wanted. There's plenty of research and advice out there on how to write the perfect resume and ace that interview. But when it comes to figuring out what you want to do with your life, the strategies aren't so clear.
I realized that, although I could predict and pontificate about a career path that might make me happier, I would never actually know until I was into the thick of it. I had an idea that I might like to do something related to entrepreneurship, but I didn't exactly know what that meant. Did I want to join a start-up? Start my own? Try to get into venture capital? Join or start a non-profit? Do international development work
- The Daily Muse | At Home – Fri, Jul 6, 2012 12:05 PM EDT
At one of the apartments I used to live in, the landlord posted a billboard-sized advertisement on the side of the building that read "Cheap & Tacky 2 Beds" followed by his name and number. He wasn't lying-these apartments were in fact totally cheap and tacky. The only thing he could have said to be more honest would have been, "Cheap & Tacky 2 Beds with Irregularly Functioning Laundry Facilities."
Unfortunately, landlords aren't usually so open. So it's up to you-the renter-to know what to watch out for before signing a lease. When you're apartment shopping, keep an eye out for these commonly overlooked red flags.
1. Noise, Noise, Noise
If possible, view an apartment over the weekend, so that your prospective neighbors are more likely to be home. Then, take some time to just listen. Can you hear loud footsteps or voices from nearby apartments? This can be a sure sign of thin walls. Is the apartment above you filled with rambunctious children? Do your windows face out to aRead More »from Renter’s Red Flags: 7 Things to Check Out Before Signing a Lease
- The Daily Muse | secrets-to-your-success – Thu, Jul 5, 2012 12:52 PM EDT
Almost every waking moment, you're making a decision. Do you want to eat eggs or toast? Wear the blazer or the cardigan? Take the stairs or the escalator?Read More »from Yes, No, Maybe So: How to Beat Decision Fatigue
And that's just the easy stuff.
While each decision by itself may sound simple, the seemingly endless stream of decisions-and the pressure to make the "right" choice for each one-can really deplete you of time, energy, motivation, and even happiness. A recent New York Times article thrust this daily struggle into the spotlight (NPR chimed in, too): On any given day, we have a finite amount of mental energy and willpower to make choices. And by the end of an especially decision- or action-packed day (or week, or month), even choosing what to eat for dinner can seem like a struggle.
So how are we to save our decision-making energy for the big stuff, like choosing a job or planning for the future? Changing the amount of daily choices in your life isn't necessarily an option-and in most cases, you do want to be able to pick! But
- The Daily Muse | Healthy Living – Tue, Jul 3, 2012 1:52 PM EDT
Grocery Shopping for 1Grocery shopping for one can be tricky. When the only person you have to satisfy with your grocery list is you, it's easy to buy impulsively or buy too much. And on the flip side, how many times have you tried to just buy the bare essentials-only to find yourself having to make daily trips back to the market?
I was always an over-buyer, which resulted in a lot of wasted food (and wasted money). In fact, I'm still surprised that, now that I'm shopping for two, I spend basically the same amount as I did when I was shopping just for myself. (I also buy the same amount of ice cream, but that's a different issue.) But with some careful planning, it is possible to shop solo in a way that's both economical and less wasteful. The big secret: You should spend just about as much time preparing for your shopping trip as you do in the store.
Here's your plan of action to get in and out of the supermarket, and come home with the right amount of food for just you.
1. First, Shop at HomeTo Read More »from 7 Sneaky Secrets when You're Grocery Shopping for 1
Let's face it-we all have those sugary, salty, or fried foods we crave. And we know they aren't exactly the pinnacle of health, but that doesn't make us want them any less. So I decided to consult a few of the best nutritionists in search of food substitutes that might even satisfy Paula Deen (or, well, at least her doctor).
And guess what? They're out there. And in addition to being healthy, they're super tasty, too. Best of all, once you get in the habit of eating healthy, your body stops craving the unhealthy or fattening stuff so much. (Yes-these days I can visit a bakery and salivate for fresh pineapple over the chocolate croissant!) No matter what you're craving, try out one these tasty food swaps, inspired by one of my favorite nutritionists, Renata Petecka.
Try: Zucchini PastaThere's nothing like a big bowl of pasta. For the same effect, minus the carb overload, take a zucchini and use a julienne peeler to shave off long, pasta-like pieces. Read More »from Your Cravings, Made Healthy: 5 Easy Food Swaps
Even if you got stuck with migraines in the genetic jackpot, you might not know this: June is National Migraine Awareness Month. And so today, I'm dedicating this column to the ladies of the migraine. (And, yes, it's mostly ladies. Migraines happen to "three women to every one man," says neurologist and headache specialist, Dr. Larry Robbins, MD. Lucky us.)Read More »from What You Might Not Know About Treating Migraines
Why is this month so greatly needed? After all, if you're a migraineur, you're already abundantly aware of those incapacitating episodes of pain coupled with symptoms like nausea, vomiting, sensitivity to light and sound, blurred vision, or dizziness that last for hours (or days). This month is to let the general public know that these (often) debilitating episodes are more than "just headaches"-and the hope is that increased visibility will lead to more research and better treatment.
And as any migraineur will tell you, treatment is a very tricky topic. Take it from Heather Hefner, 29, who started the "War on Headaches" blog
- The Daily Muse | secrets-to-your-success – Wed, Jun 20, 2012 10:04 AM EDT
Recently a girlfriend of mine asked me to have dinner. "I'm thinking of leaving my job," she said. "I think it's just time to go, and I thought you would know what to do."
And I did! I immediately started thinking of open positions I had heard of and which of my contacts might be a relevant introduction. I was rattling off names and next step strategies when I noticed the look on her face.
She didn't have to say a word, but I knew I was moving too fast. When friends need help, our instinct is to do whatever we can to "fix" the problem. But, when it comes to something as big, personal, and stressful as looking for a new job, this isn't always the best approach. Instead, it takes listening to her, understanding where she is in the process, and employing a whole lot of tact. Read on for some smart strategies for really helping a friend with her job search.
1. Listen FirstFirst, remember you're her friend-not her job search consultant. So allow her to vent her frustration or express Read More »from The Right Way to Help a Friend Job Search