A ruined tent on Long Island.
Most brides have the fear of a disaster on their wedding day, and for many happy couples planning on getting married in storm-affected areas of the East Coast this weekend, those fears have been realized. Venues and caterers are flooded or without power, flights are cancelled, hotels are closed, transportation has ground to a halt in New York City and much of New Jersey.
The bride's best friend, wedding site The Knot, is trying to help with a web page, "Helping Brides in the Wake of Hurricane Sandy," where vendors can offer services or brides can post for help. Their stories—and heartbreaking photos like the one above of the Bridge View Yacht Club on Long Island-show just how much the post-storm chaos is affecting weddings.
PHOTOS: Scenes from Hurricane Sandy
Most of the affected brides, from hundreds of postings, seem to be either unable to get in touch with their venue, or have reached the venue only to find out that there's no power. Bride Jennifer Strauss posts: "My wedding is on
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The Knot Tries to Help Weddings Flooded Out by Sandy
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Love + Sex – Thu, Nov 1, 2012 1:40 PM EDTFavorites: Shine's "Halloween is for Babies" Extravaganza
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Parenting – Thu, Nov 1, 2012 10:52 AM EDTThe favorites are in! Thanks to all the wonderful Shine moms who sent in photos. See the full album of entries here. And the most hilarious costumes you inflicted on your babies were...
Stress-Testing Your Relationship During a Natural Disaster
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Parenting – Tue, Oct 30, 2012 11:29 AM EDT
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A family in the rain
For some people, storms and other natural disasters bring out the best in the family unit. They're a time to pull together or be glad of a partner's skills and support. For others, they bring out the worst. Those of us on the ground in NYC have heard over the past few days all kinds of testimonials both for and against relationships.
Usually in the "for" camp, it's a person talking with trust about their partner's opinion. "Bob knows from hurricanes, and he says it's time to get out!" Or "Jane would never let us keep this kids in a danger zone." These are family units pulling together, with each partner reinforcing the other's expertise. I even know a mom who moved into a hotel with two tiny toddlers, in order for her husband to be near enough his office to keep working through the storm. Anyone who has tried to entertain little kids in a hotel room knows that this was a true testament to love and togetherness.
Unfortunately, there are the other stories too. The woman resentfullyNatalie Portman Dior Mascara Ad Banned for Having Lashes Just Way Too Long
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Beauty on Shine – Thu, Oct 25, 2012 12:44 PM EDT
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Natalie Portman's long, long lashes.
Wait a minute, this mascara won't turn me into Natalie Portman? I'm shocked! Horrified. I want my money back...
Seems silly, but a Christian Dior mascara ad has been banned in the U.K. because Natalie Portman's exquisite, thick, Bambi eyelashes were just too long.
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The ad, which is for Diorshow "New Look" mascara, "must not appear again in its current form" according to a ruling posted on October 24th by the Advertising Standards Authority, the U.K.'s independent regulatory body for truth in advertising. The ASA found that the ad employed post-production techniques to enhance Portman's lashes in a way that could mislead consumers about the efficacy of the mascara. The complaint was brought against Dior not by outraged consumers, but by competitor L'Oreal.
"Post-production techniques are not prohibited by advertising rules," ASA spokesperson Matthew Wilson told Yahoo! Shine. "Most people understand and appreciate that every ad we see isDying Woman Humiliated at Sea-Tac Airport by Security Search
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Healthy Living – Tue, Oct 9, 2012 4:36 PM EDT
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Cancer patient Michelle DunajA young, female leukemia patient says she was humiliated by a security search at Seattle's Sea-Tac airport last week. Security officials lifted bandages from recent surgeries, lifted her shirt to check feeding tubes and broke open an IV bag of saline solution, all in full view of other passengers, according to a report by Seattle's KOMO News.
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The Detroit-area woman, Michelle Dunaj, who is dying of leukemia, was taking an "end of life" trip to Hawaii, flying through Seattle. She called her airline, Alaska Air, ahead of time to find out what the procedure would be for traveling with prescription medicines and to request a wheelchair, but, when she got to security, Dunaj said, "nothing happened as it should."
Airport security officials denied Dunaj's requests for a private search, saying, "the location is fine," she told KOMO News. "It shouldn't have happened that way-they should be more respectful of people," she said.
InShine's "Halloween is for Babies" Slideshow. Enter Your Kid's Costume for Awwwws
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Parenting – Tue, Oct 9, 2012 1:05 PM EDT
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A cute froggy.Babies are high maintenance in some ways, but they make up for it at Halloween, when you can dress them like pumpkins, flowers, rabbits, superheros, or anything you can dream up. Not only won't they complain-or even know what you've done-everyone who sees them will be amazed at their cuteness.
We love baby costumes, and we want you to share yours with us. Take a pic of your baby in costume now (you are doing a trial run, aren't you?) or on the day of Halloween ('cause who has time for trial runs!?) and submit it to us. On the morning after Halloween (Nov 1), we'll post our favorite entries in Shine's "Halloween Is For Babies" slideshow and use the top pics as the "cover" on our Facebook page. The entire album of entries so far is available on Facebook, here.
Entries can be made in two ways:
Uploading the photo on Yahoo! Shine's Facebook page
1) Like Yahoo! Shine.
2) Click the "Photo/Video" option in the box for new wall posts on the top left of the page. ChooseNational Bullying Month PACER Video's Cute Teen Stars Say: Be Nice!
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Parenting – Thu, Oct 4, 2012 10:50 AM EDTOctober is National Bullying Month, and the PACER Center: Champions for Children with Disabilities has rounded up teen stars like Annie Thurman from The Hunger Games (a home-schooled, 90-pound redhead who played the tribute from District 9) and mop-top Mikey Reid (Sinjin on Victorious) to tell kids that "the end of bullying begins with you."
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Mikey Reid speaks out against bullying.
We love the message. But will the bullies listen? Those kids who bullied their bus monitor would probably chew the nice actors up and spit them out like so much playground gravel.
"Recognizable names and faces from television and the movies speaking out about bullying prevention can have a profound influence on kids," says PACER director Julie Hertzog. The organization got its start combating bullying because children with disabilities are two to three times more likely to be bullied than others.
The real trick to prevent bullying, says Sticks and Stones, a book about bullying by Slate writer Emily Bazelon that will come out in February, is toMom’s Story: Writing to Survive a Son’s Prison Term
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Parenting – Fri, Sep 28, 2012 12:25 PM EDT
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A mother's worst nightmare.
As we get older and become parents, life gets hard in ways we could never have imagined. It happened to Raleigh, NC mom Max W. Miller, who describes herself as an ordinary middle-class mother who tried everything to control her rebellious oldest son, but did not succeed. Miller's son started selling drugs when he was a teenager. In 2005, when he was 19, he was sentenced to 92 months (seven and a
half years) in federal prison.
Now, Miller's son's prison term is almost over, though for over a year he's been in the Special Housing Unit (SHU) which means he's been locked-up for twenty-three hours a day. Miller has not seen her son in three years. She describes his situation as being dragged from state to state, from one maximum security facility to another, making it impossible for her to visit him.
"I can't even talk to him on the phone," said Miller. They communicate via weekly letters. In the Q&A below, Miller shares what she's learned about surviving a mother'sSultan of Brunei's Daughter's Wedding Might Cost $20 Million, is Going on for a Week
By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Love + Sex – Fri, Sep 21, 2012 2:51 PM EDTPossibly the most lavish wedding the world has ever seen is happening today, Friday September 21st, in Brunei, where the Sultan's daughter Hajah Hafizah Sururul Bolkiah, 32, is marrying a 29-year-old civil servant as part of a week-long celebration estimated to involve 2,000 guests and set to end on Sunday night. The ceremony itself, according to the UK paper The Daily Mail, will take place in the Istana Nurul Iman Palace, a 1,700 room palace that's home to the Sultan and his family. The princess's older brother, heir to the throne of Brunei, married in 2004 at a speculated cost of $5 million, reports say, but wedding planner Maya Kalman, founder of Swank Productions in New York City confirmed Yahoo! Shine's suspicion that this wedding might cost much more than that. "The rule of thumb for our average luxury wedding is $1,000 per guest," Kalman says. "I would guesstimate that a no-holds-barred event like this could easily be $15 to $20 million." Those figures include only wedding
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By Valerie Isakova, Shine Parenting Editor | Book Club – Wed, Sep 12, 2012 11:56 AM EDT
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A new book on how to be a bad parent.I'm just going to be humorless for a second and say, No. I'm not a Sh*tty Mom, and I'm tired of the juvenile, wine-in-my-sippy-cup culture that celebrates parents behaving like teenagers into their 40s. I will drink wine, but probably not while I'm the adult responsible for watching my kids, and I will do it in a wine glass. And I don't, as the introductory quiz for Sh*tty Mom: A Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us, IDs as qualities of the Sh*tty Mom, hate kids, hate other people's kids, send my daughter to school when she has a fever, employ terrible babysitters, think my own mom sucked or any of the above.
Sh*tty Mom, by NYC media professionals and moms Laurie Kilmartin, Karen Moline, Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner, is obviously trying to cash in on the (legitimately kind of funny) Go the F*ck to Sleep picture-book sensation from last year, asterix and all. And superficially, the concept of Sh*tty Mom could be appealing in the sense that it's supposed to be an antidote for
