By Nicole Catanese, Refinery29
.It's so easy to rant and rave about work, and complain about the endless stress it causes us. Almost too easy. The annoying co-workers! The never-ending exhaustion! The crazy boss! But really, what gives with all the negativity?
Are things really as bad as we make them out to be? Well...probably not. "The problem is that we don't think it's possible to design work that we love, so we sometimes get bratty about giving it our all," says Laurie Gerber, executive and senior coach at Handel Group Life Coaching. "What I have found with countless clients is that designing a great career and giving your whole self to it is one of the greatest joys in life. Also, giving 110%, though we fear and avoid it, actually feels great! But, truly going for it means we have to talk down the internal voices of the 'brat' and the 'chicken' (fear)."
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Think about it - if you enjoy what you do (or find enjoyment in bits and pieces of
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.In addition to health and happiness, there's one thing we all strive for: Great skin. Sure, everyone's got their own obstacles en route to achieving this, but the end goal is almost always the same. We want dewy, clear, even-toned skin. But, how we choose to get there often leaves us distressed, dried out, and desperate for a quick fix.
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Enter Kate Somerviille, L.A.'s ultimate skincare guru and creator of her eponymous med-spa and product line, whose expert opinion is usually saved for the pores of Jessica Alba and other Hollywood elite. Ahead, Somerville's best skin-perfecting secrets, from ridding your face of blackheads to coping with unwanted facial hair.
Kate's three steps to getting rid of blackheads:
1. "Exfoliate and get off all the dead skin prior, so the blackhead is able to surface when you apply pressure."
2. "Next, steam your face thoroughly before trying to extract them."
3. "Using a Q-Tip in each hand,
By Kelly Bourdet, Refinery29
.A study out this week from Business Insider and Survey Monkey delves deep into the ever-changing connection between sex and love in America. And, while this is by no means an academic study, it does offer some interesting insights into our romantic lives.
How are we finding dates? No surprise, online dating is a growing means of meeting that special someone. How are we asking people out? Apparently, a text message dinner-and-drive-in invite is becoming increasingly prevalent. Nothing too crazy there, but the most interesting trends have to do with what we want (physically) out of our dating lives and when, exactly, we want it.
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The survey found that between 40% and 45% of men and women believe that it's appropriate to kiss a new partner on dates two through five (though many people answered that it's okay to kiss on the first date as well). The survey also asked, "How many dates
- Refinery29 | Fall Fashion – Fri, Sep 13, 2013 11:02 AM EDT
By Alison Ives, Refinery29
For Cole Haan's holiday '13 collection, the spirit of the Roaring '20s is taking over (and, no, you don't have to have Gatsby's wealth to participate). Returning to the decade of its founding, Cole Haan has infused the glitz and glam of the Jazz Age into a number of the brand's feminine shoe silhouettes. Metallic hues of gold and silver adorn heeled sandals and ankle booties, while the classic Sabrina loafer gets an update with a beautiful velvet treatment.
The accessories line carries the Prohibition-era theme, as well, with a bag dubbed the Prohibition brief. The interior of this cheeky carryall holds three removable, stainless steel flasks marked with "Gin," "Whiskey," and "Rum" - and, what you put in them, well, that's your call. Velvet and croc clutches round out the festive collection, which is set to debut in stores later this fall. Have a look for yourself at the collection ahead, and trust thatRead More »from Our Favorite Mall Brands New Collection is Perfect
By Rebecca Taras, Refinery29
While the "It" shoe at all of the summer music festivals may have been the bootie, with fall descending at a fast and furious pace, there's a new showstopper getting some serious attention: the knee-high boot. This sexy-yet-classy, calf-covering staple can be worn with everything from a skirt suit at the office to a flirty frock on a Friday night. And, even if you're not a knee-bearing gal, you can slip a pair of these babies over your skinnies for a polished look - how's that for versatility?
So, to get you started on your new autumn shoe collection, we present you with 8 pairs of knee-high stunners that are all priced under $150. After clicking through and bookmarking your faves, we think you'll agree, these boots were meant for so much more than walking.
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When it comes to landing your dream job or nailing that big presentation, confidence is everything. But if you feel like you're lacking a little good, old-fashioned chutzpah, don't sweat it. You can make up for the void with a killer ensemble.
But don't take our word for it. Lema Khorshid, founder of self-improvement networking group BizOver, thrives on helping Chicago businesswomen and entrepreneurs look and feel their best. Khorshid says, "When a woman looks great, she feels great and that energy makes everything she does magnetic."
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What if we aren't rolling in dough? What can we do to keep our wardrobes and personal appearance looking fresh?
"Looking great and being stylish is not about having a lot of money. It is about adopting a fashion philosophy that works well for your body and your budget. It is about being creative and conscious of your fashion aesthetic and building a style that reflects who you are and not
By Ellen Hoffman, Refinery29
After watching more than a few models tumble down the runway in sky-high steppers (yikes!), we're thanking our lucky stars that our own heel-induced stumbles aren't caught for the cameras. Embarrassment aside, taking a nosedive in your favorite pumps can have serious medical consequences, too. Which is why we're definitely in favor of some grounded footwear options for our 9-to-5.
Cue: ballet flats. The chic, comfy alternative we've all come to know and love continues to heighten its shoe game. From classic Mary Janes and shiny pointed ballerinas to metallic-tipped toes and T-straps, the ballet flat is in a league of its own. Take that stilettos!
To shop 6 gorgeous, Refinery29-approved pairs, click through!
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.Last time we touched on the subject, a whole squadron of lazy girls came out of the woodwork to comment, email, and expound on the struggle that is getting ready in the morning. We've always wished that our a.m. gear-up was as easy as Snow White's, but replace chirping birds with a blaring TV, whistling with whining, and idyllic stillness will sustained, simmering panic, and you've basically described what the hour before we head to work is like.
Even if you are a morning person and consider Snow White's routine amateur hour, we all could use a little more Zen to start off our day. Ahead, find 10 tips that'll have you out the door in a flash. Yep, feel free to add another snooze to your sleep-in tomorrow!
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Pull A Groundhog Day - If you're going to be seeing two different people on two different days and you're crunched for time, just wear the same thing (change the essentials, of course!). Let's be honest - you
- Refinery29 | Fall Fashion – Thu, Sep 12, 2013 11:49 AM EDT
By Liz Black, Refinery29
There seems to always be some controversy within the modeling industry. A straight-size model will frequently be accused of being "too skinny," while a plus-size model is implicated of either being "not plus-size enough" or "representing an unhealthy body." It seems that no matter what side of the spectrum you fall on, you just can't win.
But, while the fashion industry seems to have a grasp on what a "straight" model is, the definition of a "plus-size" model seems open to interpretation, depending on the designer. The average "plus-size" model wears a size 12/14, but appears thinner than that size due to her height.
To get a first-hand insight on what it's like to be a "plus" model, we spoke with four well-known curvy models regarding their personal experience, what they think of the industry, and what's the deal with the drama.
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By Nicole Catanese, Refinery29
.Instead of "blaming it on the rain," Milli Vanilli could have just as easily written a one-hit wonder called Blame It On Your Hormones. Because, let's face it, hormones are one of those things: You can't live with them and you can't live without them. It pretty much feels like they can be blamed not only for a ton of good (which they don't always get much cred for) but also a lot of bad.
Whether it's that you feel your PMS is going to be the death of you this month, you can't seem to lose those last five, your mood is on an emotional rollercoaster, or your libido is non-existent, the common denominator could be, and often is, estrogen. "Estrogen is a hormone that is produced primarily in the ovaries - and there are actually three kinds - but estradiol is the one that's predominantly associated with your ovaries and reproduction," says Jacqueline M. Thielen, MD, a specialist at the Women's Health Clinic at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota.Read More »from Hormones: What's Normal for Your Age