By Annie Tomlin, Refinery29
.What's new in sex? A lot, actually - and the news is definitely not what you might expect. Right now, sex is more daring, more complex, and more surprising than ever. From rethinking one of the biggest taboos (we were shocked!) to virtual sex (not kidding), this is need-to-know info about getting it on. Want a grown-up lesson in sex ed? Keep reading to get schooled.
1. Think Kink
One of the last sexual taboos is having a major moment - bondage tape, handcuffs, and all. BDSM (that's bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism, for folks keeping score at home) may not be mainstream, exactly, but it's inching out of the underground. Harvard has its own officially-recognized group for students interested in kink, while social networking site FetLife nearly doubled its membership in the last year. And, tourists can visit the San Francisco offices of Kink.com, the subject of a James Franco-produced documentary that premiered at Sundance.
"There has been a
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.We're way past the point where sex toys are taboo - these days, it seems as though everyone from teenagers to grandmothers is in on the Rabbit Habit. For all the good they can do for a healthy sex life, though, these "pleasure enhancers" aren't always, well, healthy. A class of chemicals called phthalates, commonly used in vibrators and other sex toys, are potentially hazardous to our health.
Phthalates are frequently used to make plastic toys more flexible and durable. Unfortunately, they can leach into the body, and they're associated with endocrine disorders, birth defects, and sperm damage - and even cancer. (Yep, they're the same baddies in cosmetics that may lead to early menopause, too.) More and more research is piling up on the negative effects of phthalates, and both the European Union and the United States are beginning to restrict their use. In the meantime, though, these chemicals continue to be used.
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And, while binge drinking might seem like a "crazy college years" thing, the stats suggest otherwise: According to the Centers For Disease Control And Prevention, 70% of binge-drinking episodes involve adults age 26 and older. These statistics can seem shocking to a social drinker who doesn't necessarily crave alcohol, but is used to ordering a few rounds with friends on the weekends. So, if you're technically, occasionally binge drinking by these guidelines...how bad is that for you, really?
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1 cup blackberries
2 tbsp honey
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