Blog Posts by Elise Solé, Shine Staff

Nope, not helping. (Photo by ThinkStock)"Calm down."

Are there any words in the English language as infuriating? Just ask a woman. On the surface, they seem harmless enough: A gentle reminder to take a deep breath, relax, and gain perspective before a relationship issue snowballs. Problem is, when a woman hears these two words from a man, the effects are anything but conciliatory. "Men are generally conditioned to take control in a heightened situation so when woman is upset, they may reach for the phrase 'calm down' in an effort to pacify her without realizing that they're making a bad situation worse," says Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., a New York City based licensed marriage and family therapist. Here's why a guy should never utter those two little words and how to deal if he does. 

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It's dismissive: Let's say you're peeved because he invited his buddy (who you can't stand) to dinner when you assumed it was date night or you're having a heated discussion about that

This will make you feel lazy: A family of four who calls themselves "The Strongest Family in the World" is making headlines for their extreme fitness regime featured Wednesday night on TLC's "My Crazy Obsession."

The Best family, Dylan, 11, Jessica (JJ), 5, and parents Callie and Nick train for 240 hours per week, incorporating kettle bell exercises, pushups, and bicep curls into their daily regime. Dylan, who can dead lift 130 pounds, says, "I like working out; it's like my coffee in the morning. If I don't do it, I don't feel right," while Jessica, who weighs all of 46 pounds, can do a one-handed pushup. According to TLC, experts advise that 5-year-olds should train with one-pound weights (we wonder why they're training at all) but she can lift 100 pounds. 

"People think it's strange that Jessica can lift double her body weight but she loves doing it and she's not hurting anything," says Nick. "Our family's normal in the way that we love one another but we're not normal physically.

Maybe it's not so healthy, after all (Photo by ThinkStock).Unless you've been living in a prehistoric cave, odds are that you've read about the Paleo diet, the weight-loss program de jour. Its concept is simple: Eating a diet of fruit, vegetables, red meat, and fish, foods that caveman supposedly consumed during the Paleolithic era 10,000 years ago, will help cure ailments such as obesity, acne, low libido, and autoimmune disease. The diet has spawned dozens of books, magazine articles, and reportedly celebrity fans such as Kim Kardashian, Jessica Biel, Megan Fox, and Miley Cyrus.

But Marlene Zuk, Ph.D., Professor of Biology at University of California-Riverside and author of Paleofantasy: What Evolution Really Tells Us About Sex, Diet, and How We Live tells Slate that the roots of this diet are less evolutionary and more nostalgic. "You see this attitude in what can be referred to as "paleo-nostalgia"—the notion that we were all better off before agriculture, or civilization, or the Industrial Revolution," she says. "It's not to say life has

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President Obama released a statement saying that Thatcher’s achievements taught “our daughters that there is no glass ceiling that can’t be shattered.”

According to The New York Times, Thatcher had retired from public life about two years ago but over the course of her 11-year career as prime minister, she was known largely for challenging gender barriers in the Conservative Party, turning around Britain's economy, and leading the country through a 1982 war in the Falklands. The fact that she was a woman was an asset, not a barrier (she was famous for the 1975 quote, "In politics if you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman.") Her nicknames "The Iron Lady" and "Attilla the Hen" were just icing on the cake. She told People Magazine in 1980: "Any leader has to have a certain amount of steel in them, so I am not that put out about being

Getty ImagesIf you were in a celebrity marriage, would you allow your husband to cheat?

Jada Pinkett Smith opened up about this very topic on Thursday when during an interview with HuffPo Live, she addressed longstanding rumors that she and her husband of 15 years Will Smith are allowed to sleep with other people. "I've always told Will, 'You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay," said Pinkett Smith. "Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I'm here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that's not for me to do for him. Or vice versa."

It's not the first time one half of the power couple as spoken out about their unconventional relationship. In 2008, Will Smith told British magazine Now, "Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people. If it came down to it, then one would say to the other: 'Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now I’m not going to

The happy couple (Photo by Getty Images)It's a sad day. Iconic film critic Roger Ebert passed away at age 70 after losing almost an 11-year battle with thyroid and salivary cancer. Just two days ago, he had written on his award-winning blog that his cancer had returned and he was taking a leave of absence to focus on revamping his new website with his wife of twenty years, Chaz. She had become the voice of Ebert since he lost his voice in 2006 due to complications from surgery and often tweeted updates to Ebert's fans, tickling them with photos of the couple's holidays and of Ebert when he was younger. Their marriage was a total romance—playful, inspiring, passionate. Here are 4 lessons they taught us about love:

Love means taking a chance: Ebert met Chaz in the early 90s one night while he was out to dinner with Eppie Lederer, a.k.a. Ann Landers. In "Roger Loves Chaz", an essay he penned for the Chicago Sun-Times in 2012 on the couple's twenty-year anniversary (July 18th) he described spotting Chaz from across the room

 

Kissing a prince is what all little girls dream of, right? Maybe not.

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On Thursday, a 4-year-old Scottish girl ducked out of the way when Prince William swooped in to give her a kiss during a two-day visit to Scotland where he and Kate visited local residents. While saying hello to the girl who was waving a flower around, Prince William asks her, "Is that for me? Is that for Katie? Yeah, you can give it to her." Then he adds, "You look very pretty. Do you want a kiss?"

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As the crowd gives a collective "Aw..." Prince William leans in only to have the little girl squirm away. "Oh no!" says Prince William. "See? Next time, sugar, next time," he says.

Later, another mother gave an on-camera interview to the Associated Press while holding her daughter and explained that because of the incident, the Prince wasn't handing out kisses anymore.