Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that a key - perhaps the key - to happiness is strong relationships with other people. We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; we need to be able to get support, and just as important for happiness, to give support.
We need many kinds of relationships; for one thing, we need friends.
Now, the term "friend" is a little loose. People mock the "friending" on social media, and say, "Gosh, no one could have 300 friends!" Well, there are all kinds of friends. Those kinds of "friends," and work friends, and childhood friends, and dear friends, and neighborhood friends, and we-walk-our-dogs-at-the-same-time friends, etc.
Obviously, such relationships are very different, although they're all "friends."
In Geoffrey Greif's book Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships, he identifies four categories of friendships:
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