It took eight years, but Joselyn Martinez finally found her father's killer. (Photo: Joselynmartinez.com)Joselyn Martinez was just 9 years old when her dad, Jose Martinez, was gunned down in front of his Bronx restaurant in November 1986. The police immediately identified the shooter as 16-year-old Justo Santos, but Santos managed to slip out of New York and flee to the Dominican Republic. Twenty-six years later, long after the New York police had lost track of the shooter, Joselyn found her father's killer.

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"I always kept the name in mind," Joselyn, now a singer and aspiring actress, told The New York Post on Tuesday. "After so many years of not being caught, it wasn’t a reality to me anymore."

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Jose, then 41, kicked Santos and two friends out of the Dominican Express restaurant on Dyckman Street in Inwood after they reportedly started sexually harassing his wife, Idalia Martinez. Witnesses told police that, once on the sidewalk, Santos pulled out a pistol and shot Martinez in

I've been continuing to ponder the abstainers vs. moderators distinction.

In case you haven't been breathlessly following this line of argument: in a nutshell, when facing a temptation, abstainers do better if they abstain altogether, while moderators do better if they indulge a little bit, or from time to time.

The other day, a friend who is a true moderator told me, "I got a sundae from my favorite ice cream store, and it was so, so good. But after the tenth bite or so, I could hardly taste it anymore. I had a few more bites, then it turned into a puddle, and a friend of mine finished it for me."

To me, this is a very foreign way of acting. The difference between my friend and me made me wonder if this is a distinction between abstainers and moderators, and I'd love for you abstainers and moderators out there to weigh in on this question.

Moderators, does your desire often diminish as you eat? Does it drop off in intensity? Or have you not noticed this phenomenon?

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photo by Tom Schirmacher Ever plow through your meal in minutes, only to notice your tablemates are about four bites in? Then pause and hear this weight-loss news: Research shows that fast eaters are as much as 18 pounds heavier than slow eaters, and they're two and a half times more likely to suffer from type 2 diabetes. In other words, pacing yourself just might help keep you slim.

Why? "Most of the mechanisms involved in satiety, the feeling of fullness and satisfaction, take time," says Kathleen Melanson, Ph.D., who has studied how eating speed affects health at the University of Rhode Island. "And certain fullness hormones aren't even released until food starts to empty from your stomach, which can take a half hour or more." Slowing down allows your body to sense when you're not hungry anymore. So what's a reasonable eating speed? A grilled chicken breast with a side salad, fries, and a glass of water should take you at least 32 minutes to

Known as The Five Tibetan Rites (but also referred to as "The Five Rites", "The Five Tibetans", "The Five Rites of Rejuvenation" and most recently "T5T"), this ancient Tibetan yoga workout is said to help slow down the aging process, clear the mind, and assist in well being by opening up the chakras (the 7 energy centers of the body). They emphasize "a continuous sequence of movement", whereas Indian forms focus on "static positions" and were first publicized in 1939 by Peter Kelder in THE EYE OF REVELATION: The Ancient Tibetan Rites of Rejuvenation and originally written as a 32-page booklet.

The revised publications of The Eye of Revelation titled Ancient Secret of the Fountain of Youth also contain numerous testimonials by practitioners of the Rites, claiming that they yield positive medical effects such as improved eyesight, memory, potency, hair growth, restoration of full color to completely gray hair, and anti-aging. The benefits most likely to be achieved are increased

The hunt for the elixir of life may not be as fleeting as you think. While it's unlikely anyone is going to stumble across a magic potion that will let us live forever, there are pills and potions that can help prolong our life. One of those pills is a tiny innocent one you hear about all the time, although you probably have no idea how powerful it is: calcium! Canadian Multicentre Osteoporosis Study reports that 1,000mg of calcium a day may not only fight osteoporosis in postmenopausal women, but tack priceless time onto their lives. It doesn't matter where the calcium comes from or whether or not it includes vitamin D. So whether your calcium comes from dairy, alternative sources, or supplements, it's a good idea for women to make sure they're meeting the appropriate recommendations. Here are 8 ideas for calcium-rich foods. -By Heather Neal

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Protect yourself from these common outdoor hazardsThough summer is filled with backyard parties and BBQs, entertaining outdoors could put your guests at risk for some scary health consequences. Check out how to protect yourself and your company from these top outdoor health hazards.

1. Dangerous grill placement
Is your grill right next to the edge of your deck? You may want to move it. A charcoal grill next to combustibles (say, a wooden deck rail or low-hanging tree branches) is a leading cause of BBQ fires, according to the National Fire Protection Association.

Easy Fix: Always make sure to leave a 10-foot clearing between your grill and deck rails, the side of the house, and overhanging plants, says David Markenson, MD, chairman of the American Red Cross Advisory Council on First Aid and Safety. (Plus, always follow these 5 Golden Rules of Safe Grilling.)

2. Toxic plants
More than 68,000 people a year are poisoned by plants, reports the American Association of Poison Control Centers. Most end up with nothing worse than an upset

I was in sort of a funk when I clicked on a link this morning, and NPH's opening number for the 2013 Tony Awards changed everything. So fabulous! Can you believe the choreography, the energy and the sheer skill and athleticism Neil Patrick Harris possesses? Is anyone more talented or charming? I defy you to stay in your own personal funk/ennui/end-of-school-year-blues/Monday grumpiness after seeing the opening number.

It occurred to me that in addition to being sheerly delightful, there are some pretty useful life lessons in this number that I really needed to hear today and to keep in the front of my mind this week.

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1. Make it bigger.

The anthem of the piece is buoyantly demonstrated throughout. I don't know how you even organize that many moving parts backstage let alone produce a number like that. Cheerleaders! Contortionists! Orphans! Now wheel in the disappearing booth! There's a great lesson here in not holding back. I've been

Break the rules! We dare you.Unlike wine, cheese, and Clive Owen, workout strategies don't get better with age. That's because each year, fitness researchers release thousands of studies that challenge conventional thinking--or at least shed light on ways to tweak it.

We've ID'd nine stale fitness approaches and sifted through the latest research to come up with surprising updates that will help you get lean and land you a scorching body ASAP.

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1. Position your hands shoulder-width apart
You often see this in instructions for upper-body moves like bench presses and lat pulldowns. Why? Because it gives you a stable starting point. But that doesn't mean you need to stay there set after set.

"Spreading your hands a few inches farther out stresses more of the inner portion of your biceps; bringing your hands in a few inches builds more of the outer part," says New York City personal trainer Steve Lischin, M.S. Switch up your position after every set for balanced strength and