The 7 Steps to Letting Inner Happiness Guide Your RelationshipsBy Corinna Fales for HowAboutWe
I've finally developed clarity about dating and relationships in my mid-60s, after 23 years with my husband, a divorce 16 years ago, and a long string of relationships since. Over the years, I've built an honest and intimate relationship with myself that enables me to answer many of the relationship questions I used to agonize over. Most importantly, I always know that no matter what happens with a man, no matter what the circumstances, I will be just fine.
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Here's the trick: regardless of your age, if you're willing to really get to know yourself, you can develop the same ability. But it takes effort, care, and mindfulness. Here are the 7 steps to getting there.
1. Spend real time-in silence
In nature, whatever works for you-quietly learning to listen to yourself. Detach from any distractions, especially technology.
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2. Listen to what
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Change Your Mindset
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My sadness and confusion post-breakup isn't surprising. Most of the men in my life (and possibly in yours) ended the love affair carelessly. They had little love and respect for my well being, as if the time we shared hardly made an impact.
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Old Cliches
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The Blunt Truth
The

The Justice card suggests that if you stick to your principles, you can make discriminating, objective choices that can help you balance your expectations for a relationship with the reality of your obligations. Be honest in your own estimation of your position so that you can accept the outcome, pay the price or reevaluate your expectations or convictions.Free Sample Lover's Potion Tarot Reading
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