So, what day is it?By Melissa Wall for HowAboutWe

Here's a brutal revelation about modern motherhood: the notorious pro-cheating site Ashley Madison (yes, the one where you can find the perfect person to have an affair with) announced that the biggest spike in women signing up for the site occurs on the day after Mother's Day. In fact, last year, they saw a 439% increase in new women signups on that fateful Monday.

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This announcement has provoked the expected torrent of outrage - if there's one thing Ashley Madison is good at, it's using its own data to pierce our collective faith in the power of commitment, and clearly Mother's Day isn't sacrosanct. But before we all despair at the state of contemporary married life, let's take a closer look at what this survey is really saying.

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We can speculate on the reasons for this huge post-Mother's Day cheat-fest,

Listen and get going.By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

People talk about breaking-up like it's a one dimensional thing: you break up, you feel shitty. But in reality, each distinct phase of your break- up comes with its own unique emotion, and each break-up emotion is worthy of its own playlist. (Or, if you're in a hurry, this handy one will rush you through the grieving process and have you back on the dating scene in no time.)

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There's the lie down on the floor and cry stage (Speeding Cars, Imogen Heap). There's the going through the motions of daily life but nothing has meaning anymore stage (Meant For You, Jewel). And then there's the anger stage. The vengeful phase. The fun phase.

The criteria for a good break-up power anthem is the following:

A) Empowering Lyrics (Something with the subtext of "You suck and I am like, hilariously better off without you and everyone knows it.")

B) Some Nice Belty Parts (Because this is a song that you'll blast as

The Knight of Wands card suggests that proposals or ideas could come out of the blue, and you may need to think fast on your feet or improvise. This could be an opportunity to add spark or zest to your love life or relationship or to follow through on romantic plans. You might feel lost or crazy in love. Things could go too far or too fast, however, especially if one of you is unable to keep up with the changes.

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CosmopolitanWe've seen celebs and our friends get trapped in those on-again off-again romances, but when do you know for sure that it really needs to be over? Relationship coach Teagin Maddox told us the deal on how to decide whether it's worth picking up the pieces or not.

By Ariel Nagi


1. You Keep Looking For More Evidence
If you're spending your relationship feeling insecure a majority of the time, that's a bad sign. First of all, you've got to trust your gut that if something constantly feels off, then it probably is. And this issue starts early on. A lot of times when we get involved with a guy we're told to look out for so-called red flags before things get too serious. The problem with this is that we usually look for obvious things, like whether he's disrespectful or a cheater, but we disregard smaller, subtle signs. "This is a trap, because we excuse the little things and tell ourselves we need more evidence, something bigger," Maddox says. We then become involved in a

These phrases drive guys crazy - and not in a good way. We got real men to tell us what they don't want to hear between the sheets, ever. By Anna Davies, REDBOOK.

"When are you going to finish?"
"Sex is supposed to make us feel closer than ever, but when I hear this, I feel disconnected," explains Jeff R., 40, from Keller, TX. "Up until that point, I assumed we were both having a good time. When I hear this, I feel like she's just counting down the seconds until it's over, which makes me feel horrible." Instead say, "I really really want you to climax," suggests Emily Morse, host of the radio show Sex With Emily, and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. "Letting him know how much you want to see him let go shows him how much his pleasure turns you on." He'll get the hint without an accidental ego bruise.

"Did you hear the baby? Can you go check?"
"It's the worst because there's nothing we can do about it," says Gabe K., 34, of Los Angeles, CA. "It's inevitable, and

Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan

Remember the first time you fell in love with someone who didn't want to be with you? The total high when he looked your way and the gut punch of his cold shoulder? The agony of unrequited love gets Baz Luhrmann's extravagant treatment in a new movie version of F. Scott Fitzgerald's "The Great Gatsby," coming to theaters May 10.

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In the story, Gatsby and Daisy, played by Leonardo DiCaprio and Carey Mulligan, are teenage sweethearts separated by the war. Daisy has since married a rich, powerful man, Tom Buchanan, and Gatsby is doing everything he can to get her back. He becomes a self-made millionaire, buys a house across the water from hers and throws lavish parties hoping to see her at one of them. He finally does rekindle the fire, only to have his heart broken again when she won't leave her husband.

Gatsby is disturbingly obsessive, but his response to lost love is a heightened version of what we all go through. It's a natural, chemical

Daisy with missing petals
I feel as if I should have some perfect advice for all of my children due to being a mother to many. Yet I think I have already given it by example. They have each watched me do things and the result of it all is they should easily be able to figure out what they should and shouldn't do. It is easier to see the fault and success in another life than in our own. It is simpler to watch sometimes than to attempt to explain where we made a splash or where life went wrong.

However, there is one thing that has plagued me like the plague. One thing I would so like to especially share with the girls in my life.

You do not see yourself as you really are. You really don't. We women really do not see all the subtle nuances that others see in us. What we see in the mirror is not the truth and only a partial truth. Don't believe your own eyes because they play tricks on you.

Society shoves down our throats that we have to find the beauty in ourselves or others won't find us beautiful. It isn't

Forget tossing the bouquet.A recent poll showed that more women are changing their last names after getting hitched, and I plan on following the crowd after I get married next summer. But there are a ton of other outdated traditions that my man and I need to figure out about before the day comes. IMHO, these are totally old-fashioned…

By Natasha Burton

1. The bouquet toss
I used to think the bouquet was the most exciting part of a wedding. When I was 12. As I got older, and the crowd of women around me hungering for the bride's flowers thinned out to a handful of tweens and me, I realized how awful this tradition really is. Plus, I'm selfish and want to keep my bouquet to myself, m'kay?

2. The garter retrieval
There's nothing less sexy than your guy burrowing his head under your wedding dress while your dad-and his-watch. Not to mention your mother, your mother-in-law, your friends…need I go on? My groom can put his head between my legs all he wants on our honeymoon, but not in front of our