Party girlI've been single for almost four years now (legally, about two and a half). Ironically, my most vibrant days of being single came just a couple months into my separation.
No, I'm not easy, just curious after having almost no experience with other men after a long, long term relationship.
Since that time, I've made tremendous leaps in the growth department. Namely, I realized that "having fun in the moment" was killing my chances at making a deep connection with someone. And I really, really crave that at this point.
I've spoken with and read from many people like me going through the motions of singledom and there's any number of reasons why we're still single. Some of us choose this over "putting up with someone," while others are just "unlucky in love." All in all, the reasons are mostly excuses.
We naturally seek love and caring in a romantic partner.
As a tribute to my single brothers and sisters, here's a list of most popular reasons (ahem, *cough* excuses *cough*)
Party girlI've been single for almost four years now (legally, about two and a half). Ironically, my most vibrant days of being single came just a couple months into my separation.Read More »from My Reason, Eh, Excuse, for Being Single Is.
Guys To Watch Out For
Trying to get men to commit is an age-old riddle in the female mind. Here are a few "types" that will be tough to get into the commitment fold. Hopefully, you can spot one of these early on in the relationship. By Rich Santos
1. The Narcissist
Beware of the guy who talks about himself too much, looks too perfect and works on building his image superficially. He won't commit to you because he's too committed to himself.
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2. The Middle School Boy
Let's get this out in the open (as if you didn't already know): Guys never truly grow up. We act mature, which takes energy and discipline. But some guys can't hide their childishness. It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the point of commitment, so don't hold your breath if you're dating a guy afflicted with chronic immaturity.
3. The Scatter Brain
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- Elise Solé, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 5, 2013 2:24 PM EDT
You love your spouse, but would you spend 48 hours handcuffed to each other?
Like many busy couples, New York City comedian and filmmaker Mark Malkoff, 37, and his wife Christine Peel-Malkoff, 35, yearned for more quality time together. So, Malkoff came up with a plan. They would spend 48 hours handcuffed to each other as they went about their daily routines. “We wanted to see each other more, but we were also curious to see how our marriage would fare under such extreme conditions,” Malkoff told Yahoo! Shine.
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Peel-Malkoff wasn’t surprised by her husband’s proposition; it was only the latest in a string of stunts. In 2007, Malkoff visited 171 Starbucks in 24 hours. Last year, he tried to cure his Internet addiction by living in his bathroom for one week sans technology. And he conquered his fear of flying by living on an airplane for one month in 2009. “At first, Mark suggested we handcuff ourselves for a full week and I said, ‘NoRead More »from Married Couple Spend 48 Hours Handcuffed to Each Other
- Astrology.com Tarot | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 5, 2013 1:15 PM EDT
The Ace of Chalices card reversed suggests that if your heart isn't in it, then you should get off the emotional roller coaster. If your heart is in it, pour out your feelings to the one you love before it's too late. Crying over spilt milk, taking things too personally, turning your back on potential romance or commitment or drowning sorrows may be excuses for avoiding a confrontation with the stranger in the mirror. Loneliness born of fear or damaged self-esteem may lay hidden beneath a calm exterior. Learn to depend upon yourself for fulfillment, attention, interest and consideration. The satisfaction gleaned from others' approval is temporary and superficial. Work toward wholeness and happiness by being willing to expand your own expectations. Embrace the commitment and sacrifice necessary to cross your own emotional boundaries.
friedsMany years ago (too many to count) I watched the classic romantic comedy, When Harry Met Sally. As I was cuddled up on my sofa, my ears perked up when Harry said the infamous line, "You realize of course that we could never be friends."
While Sally renounced his theory - "That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved" - I thought of my own male friends. I have maintained a platonic relationship with them all. No sex. Not even a peck on the lips on a drunken night.
So, he is wrong, isn't he? Can men and women ever be just friends?
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Harry's conclusion is based on one thing - sexual attraction. It doesn't matter if you've never been intimate with your male BFF. It cannot be a true friendship "because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."
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- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 5, 2013 11:41 AM EDT
The kind that makes women sound like slaves to their husbands and offers such helpful tips as, answer the door dressed in bubble wrap?
Well, I decided to look up some ol'fashioned advice to poke fun at it for the purposes of this article…only to discover that (gulp) I am more like those 1960s housewives than I realized. I follow a lot of the same advice, such as the fact that I…
1. I plan dinner.
One of the first pieces of advice to be a good wife, as listed in a 1960's marriage tip book (via Glamour.com) is to always have dinner ready for your man, piping hot and served up just the way he likes it.
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"Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal -- on time. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed."
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Should you be going to couples counseling?by Chanie Kirschner, Mother Nature NetworkRead More »from When is it Time to See a Marriage Counselor?
I know there are those of you who will swear up and down that I'm wrong about this, but I'm going to go out on a limb here - chances are if you clicked on this article, you can benefit from a little therapy yourself. That's because I think everyone can benefit from a little self-awareness. Hear me out.
I have a close friend whom I firmly believe would not be married had it not been for therapy (and she also would not have her three adorable children). Let me elaborate: This particular girl almost called it quits a number of times, but when she and her boyfriend started counseling she was forced to re-examine why she was so hesitant to get married. It was only with the help of her therapist that she finally understood her looming fear of commitment (and not her boyfriend) as the root of the problem. Once she got past that, she was finally able to say "I do." Fast forward several years and children later, and I am amazed at how happy they
- TheKnot.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 5, 2013 9:54 AM EDT
Mike Rosenthal/The KnotThe Modern Family star's line of fun bow ties makes a pretty good case for giving the preppy tie a try. Find out how he's using his neckwear designs to fight for marriage equality- plus, what the funnyman learned while planning his own nuptials.Read More »from Jesse Tyler Ferguson Dishes on Weddings and Marriage Equality
By: Kristin Koch for TheKnot.com
Okay, we're super excited to talk to you about your amazing foundation Tie The Knot (TieTheKnot.org), which supports marriage equality. But first, we have to know-why bow ties? What made you decide to design your own bow tie line?
I was talking with some friends of mine about an easy, low-pressure way to dip my toes into the fashion industry. I was like, "What's the smallest point of real estate on the male body that I can design for?" Bow ties seemed like a good fit.
Is it safe to assume that bow ties are your signature accessory?
I love bow ties. I have a vast collection of them that I've accumulated over the years, and I do wear them often.
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And your bow
Gina Meola Photography/The KnotYou have an idea of what the engaged couple wants, but with so many wedding-related events to attend it's hard to figure out which wedding gifts are required when, and how much, exactly, you should you spend on what. It's time to talk details.Read More »from How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?
By: Amy Keith for TheKnot.com
The Rules of Gift-giving
Of all the events surrounding a wedding, the only one that technically requires a present is the bridal shower. The reason: The entire purpose of the gathering is to "shower" the bride with wedding gifts. The wedding and engagement party, on the other hand, are invitations from the couple to share in and celebrate the day. That said, while gifts might not be mandatory at these other events, they are common practice.
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What to Give?
You have two options: something from the couple's wedding registry or cash. Couples just starting out might prefer monetary gifts that they can put toward a down payment on a house or to help pay for their honeymoon,
Pick up tips from the hit reality show that can improve your relationshipsBy Kimberly FusaroRead More »from 10 Important Love Lessons from the Bachelorette
If you take the show at face value, The Bachelorette doesn't offer much dating guidance. And after watching current Bachelorette Desiree Hartsock get surprise-dumped by suitor Brooks Forester on part one of the season finale, the only advice might be, "Don't date on reality TV." But if you dig deeper, nine seasons of The Bachelorette (never mind 17 seasons of The Bachelor) have turned up some relationship truths that apply to reality TV and regular old reality. Here are 10 love lessons we've picked up-plus, relationship experts' tips for applying these to your off-the-camera dating life. Photo by Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty Images
1. Be on high alert for phonies.
Guys with good intentions exist, but "your BS detector needs to be out," Ali warned Desiree on the current season's Men Tell All. The less-scrupulous men of The Bachelorette have been out to promote their careers (see: Justin "Rated R" Rego on Ali Fedotowsky's season), while your real-life date might want
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