I always enjoy reading Virgina Clark's love advice on YourTango. She posted a piece this week called 3 Lies You're Telling Yourself That Keep You Single wherein she lists three broad, negative messages women repeat to themselves, then offers alternate mantras that will lead to a fulfilling relationship. These general ideas Clark shared got me thinking about the specific self-defeating messages I repeat (unintentionally) when I think about the dating scene as I know it and my feelings about finding love. I compiled this list of the dating and relationship myths I've bought into that I'd like to let go of. How many of these resonate with you? -By Carolyn Castiglia
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- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Aug 13, 2013 12:01 PM EDT
I always enjoy reading Virgina Clark's love advice on YourTango. She posted a piece this week called 3 Lies You're Telling Yourself That Keep You Single wherein she lists three broad, negative messages women repeat to themselves, then offers alternate mantras that will lead to a fulfilling relationship. These general ideas Clark shared got me thinking about the specific self-defeating messages I repeat (unintentionally) when I think about the dating scene as I know it and my feelings about finding love. I compiled this list of the dating and relationship myths I've bought into that I'd like to let go of. How many of these resonate with you? -By Carolyn CastigliaRead More »from All the Good Guys Are Taken: 7 Things Women Tell Themselves that Keep Them Single
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Aug 13, 2013 11:47 AM EDT
Sure, the moment when a father gently presses his daughter's hand into his son-in-law's always tugs at the ol' heartstrings and of course, catching the groom's choking back tears when he sees his beautiful bride for the first time always gets to me, but I confess that my own slight twinge of sadness stems from a much more selfish reason.It's because I was pregnant at my own wedding.
Now, don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful marriage and we had a beautiful wedding. Quite honestly, it was everything I could have ever asked for in a wedding when it comes to the actual girly details that I may have once dreamed about. I actually liked my dress, the church was beautiful, a family friend provided fresh (free) roses for decorations, and I had-joy of joys-not one, but two overflowing chocolate fountains next to a cake and desert table that once again, someone gave us as a gift.
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Woman curled up.This article originally appeared on ArchetypeMe.com:
Sure, immediately after you've been dumped, you'll probably want to do nothing more than drown your sorrows in cheap wine while watching the entire series of Felicity on Netflix. Twice. But after a while, those hangovers will get old, and you'll find yourself ready to do something other than sob into your pillow. When you reach that point, here are some things to try…
1. Get Busy
Start a blog, take up a new hobby (preferably one where you'll meet new people, like joining a running club), read a novel, write a novel, paint your room, learn how to take really good photographs, sort out your closet and host a clothing swap, learn chess with a friend, teach yourself Chinese-basically, keep yourself busy with something that will make you feel good about yourself afterwards. (Meaning, watchingFelicity a third time doesn't count.)
2. Look Better
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By Annie Lau, Lover.ly
A glamorous spin on the summer camp trend in weddings, glamping takes the absolute best parts of this relaxed and down to earth setting and combines them with everything we love about weddings: style with a little bit of luxury. For example, instead of serving up hamburgers and BBQ, take your menu to a step further and offer your guests local, organic veggies and grass-fed beef. Or, hang a (rented) chandelier right alongside your inexpensive cafe string lights. Here are our favorite images from couples "glamping" it up on their wedding day.
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- Refinery29 | Love + Sex – Tue, Aug 13, 2013 10:15 AM EDT
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The internet is abuzz today with both visceral and intellectual responses to The Art of Sleeping Alone, a memoir by Sophie Fontanel (senior fashion editor at French Elle) that chronicles her decision to abstain from sex. Not for religious reasons, not because she was waiting for the right person to come along and sweep her off her feet - simply because she realized she was happier that way. Because she was 27 and she wanted to. Because she decided that having bad sex, or sex just for the point of having sex, is not actually better than no sex at all - for her, at least.
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People's reactions to hearing about her sex-free 12 years were so abundant that they make up the basis of her memoir. But, the reactions to the memoir about the reactions are also abundant. What gives? Why are we so fascinated with sexlessness? It's not just a lack of sex, by the way. As the title of the book indicates, the very act of sleeping alone
- You might want to thank your younger sister for being a copycat and your brother for being a tattletale. Turns out all that annoying childhood behavior was arming you for a healthy marriage. A new study by researchers from Ohio State University suggests that growing up with siblings lays the foundation for healthy relationships later in life and may even reduce the likelihood of divorce.
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The more siblings you have, the better you chance of a long-lasting marriage. With each sibling (up to about seven), your probability of getting divorced is reduced by 2 percent, according to research published Tuesday by the American Sociological Association. “This study suggests one positive benefit of having siblings,” Donna Bobbitt-Zeher, co-author of the study and assistant professor of sociology at Ohio State University, told Yahoo! Shine. “This is significant because it shows a long-term consequence of growing up withRead More »from The Surprising Benefit of Having Siblings
Women have been fighting for equal rights for hundreds of years, want equal pay for the same work as our male counterparts, have broken into just about every male-dominated industry, and now graduate from college at a higher rate than the guys do. Yet on dates, females apparently prefer — and sometimes, expect — men to pick up the tab at dinner. So what gives?Read More »from Who Should Pay For Dates? No One Really Knows
The phenomenon has even stumped scientists, who recently analyzed gender roles in the courtship stages of relationships. Among other findings, they examined the so-called "courtesy grab"— a woman’s half-hearted attempt to reach for her wallet when the dinner check comes — in a world where women are dominating the work force. According to the results of a study of 17,000 survey participants presented Sunday at the 108th Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Association, more than half of women offer to kick in on dating-related expenses, yet 39 percent admitted to hoping that their partners wouldn't take them up on their
- Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 12, 2013 4:35 PM EDT
Your summer fling: a Danny & Sandy affair.Oh, summer flings. They are the best and the worst. It's never easy deciding if you should dump your summer dude or hold on to him through fall. We had dating expert Marni Battista help us figure out if you should ditch his ass or keep him.Read More »from 5 Sexy Summer Flings—Should You Love Him or Leave Him?
By Dara Adeeyo
1. The High School Boyfriend
The Situation: He's the Zach to your Kelly, and you love him and everything, but you're going to different colleges hours apart. Should you try to make it work long-distance or forget it?
What You Should Do: Ditch his ass.
Hear us out: It'll be hard, but holding on to your high school boyfriend is like holding on to your past. "College is your time to re-invent yourself, not spend hours on video chat talking to your high school flame while the rest of your dorm is exploring new adventures and making new friends," Battista says.
2. The Summer Coworker
The Situation: You bonded over fetching coffees, bitching about your boss, happy hour drinks, and make outs. But should you take Intern Boy
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 12, 2013 3:06 PM EDT
By Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWe
This Is How You Fall In (And Out) Of Love When You Have OCDMental illness is a struggle in every day life, let alone in love. Neil Hilborn, a slam poet, tells his side of the disease at the 2013 Rustebelt Regional Poetry Slam.
Listen to him speak about how much falling in love with someone truly means to someone suffering from OCD.
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Check out this must-see video and poem below:
The first time I saw her..
Everything in my head went quiet.
All the ticks, all the constantly refreshing images just disappeared.
When you have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, you don't really get quiet moments.
Even in bed, I'm thinking:
Did I lock the doors? Yes.
Did I wash my hands? Yes.
Did I lock the doors? Yes.
Did I wash my hands? Yes.
But when I saw her, the only thing I could think about was the hairpin curve of her lips..
Or the eyelash on her cheek-
the eyelash on her cheek-
the eyelash on her cheek.
I knew I had to talk to her.
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A cycling-loving Arizona couple tied the knot on Saturday during a grueling 100-mile mountain bike race.Read More »from Couple Weds During 100-Mile Bike Race
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In January, Julie Bass, 45, and her fiancé, Rick Bucher, 40, were planning their wedding — a medium-size ceremony in Sedona, Arizona, a town famous for its beautiful red sandstone formations. But overwhelmed by the ballooning expenses, Bass had a change of heart. “I’ve never been that traditional or dreamed of wearing a white wedding dress,” she told Yahoo! Shine. “Rick and I both love cycling and we were planning to enter the Leadville 100 race in Colorado, so I said, ‘Why not get married in the middle of the race?’”
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Bucher, however, was skeptical. “Julie and I are experienced cyclers but the logistics of marrying in the middle of a race seemed unrealistic,” he said. Bucher had reason to hesitate. After all, the race is a 100-mile
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