Chalk up throwing his pants on the floor, screaming at the quarterback like a bad pass is a personal insult, and never remembering to buy milk to the fact that he's a guy. What we can't understand is how to get him to talk when you most need him. So we asked real men and the experts to help us understand what's really going on inside when the lines of communication go radio silent. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.

His feelings matter, too

"Our feelings are just as important as your feelings. We shut down if we don't feel like we matter or that your agenda is more important than ours." - Chris, 38, Rochester, NY

Get him to open up: "Feelings mean different things to each of the sexes. Guys often feel by doing, women by saying," says Dr. Pollack. "It's a matter of translating one language into the other. Try saying, 'I'm really sorry. I know that your feelings are important, but I'm not clear what they are. Can you help me understand?'"

"Sometimes

It's inevitable that you'll spread the excitement of your wedding to everyone in your social media network, so follow these rules to avoid a faux pas (or worse!) when it comes to sharing your wedding.

By Simone Hill for TheKnot.com

Carissa Woo Photography / The KnotFor the bride and groom:

1. Call your parents before pressing "post" or "tweet."
Your close friends and family will want to hear it straight from you first.

A Facebook status or tweet might be the most efficient way to get the news out, but it's not the most personal. You know which friends and family members would appreciate to hear the news directly from you; plus, it's likely that older family members (like your grandparents!) don't have Facebook or Twitter accounts and could miss the message altogether.

10 wedding "rules" you can break

2. Change your relationship status in minutes or months...it's up to you!
There's no wrong or right time -- some couples even do it at the altar!

Once you tie the knot, it's up to you and your new spouse to decide when

"The Buzzard Table" by Margaret Maron
Reviewed by David Marshall James

The appearance of a mysterious stranger in a remote area contributes elements of unease and foreboding to North Carolina author Margaret Maron's latest Deborah Knott novel.

Add to that, that said stranger is also collecting roadkill to attract the local buzzardry, and the creepy factor ratchets up even higher.

As the story progresses, this man turns out to be a relative of Sigrid Harald; her mother, Anne; and Anne's mother, who is dying from cancer.

NYPD Lt. Sigrid Harald has ventured down from New York City, as has Anne, to comfort their terminally ill matriarch and to assist in inventorying her valuable estate.

Meanwhile, their connection to the stranger-- and his secret tie to Anne's professional past as a photojournalist-- is threaded into a story that features the murder of a local (fictitious Colleton County, N.C.) realtor.

When her body is dumped not far from "the buzzard table," the spot where the

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Nice Thing #1: "The way you handled that huge, hairy spider on the wall of the shower was hot."
This is also known as "the way you handled that insane toddler temper tantrum was hot" or "the way you handled that endless grocery list was hot." The most joy-inducing aspect of each of these examples is that you're not being cute or indulging in flattery in order to make your partner feel good. Completing these kinds of trying tasks do have a nugget of honest-to-God sexiness. Bravery, even in the face of bugs, is sexy. So is self-control and patience in the face of a furious child throwing blocks around his room. So is grit and determination in the face of 76 aisles of glittering food products and a cashier who won't take coupons. So your other half didn't save a kitten from a burning house this week. Recognizing his everyday acts of heroism makes those acts--and him--feel spectacularly unordinary, if not extraordinary.

Nice Thing #2: "You smell like the day I met you."

Boxing GlovesBy Jennifer Berg

The turkey? Burning. Parents? Nagging. Every relationship is filled with arguments and almost-arguments -- but never more so than during the holidays. Here's a guide to how to pick your battles with your beloved:

Is It Worth It?
"There's value in working through conflict as a couple." says Rachel Kleinman, an expert partner at YourTango. "There is also value in asserting your needs and desires in a relationship." Just be careful of how often, and how forcefully, you make those needs known.

"The most successful relationships are ones where the parties have developed effective strategies for resolving conflict, yet avoid it as much as possible," Kleinman says. "High-conflict couples rarely last. So, unless something is really important to you -- that is, unless it speaks to your core values or your identity -- consider letting it slide."

Think About What's Really Bugging You
So you flipped out on him for loading the dishwasher incorrectly. Chances are, clean cereal

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You might think you have sexy down to a science. But do you know what real men actually want in a lover? Read on to find out.

Enthusiasm
When it comes to sex, you can get an "A" for effort. Guys want to be with someone who's actually into sex and not doing it as a favor or just going through the motions.

"There is nothing more seductive than an enthusiastic lover," says Lou Paget, certified sex educator and author of The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming. "That beats out the perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A man wants feedback that a woman is into doing things with him!"

New Tricks
Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn't mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas.

"Sexual desire is like an appetite," says Paget. "We all want to try different flavors -- otherwise we'd get bored eating at the same place all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore

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These 14 warning signs to look for on his profile will help you weed out the wrong guys.

Red Flag #1: He Focuses on Looks
Sure, we all want to find someone we're attracted to, but some guys take this too far. Watch out for men looking for a woman who is "stunning," "hot," "fit" and "sexy" (or any similar adjective). If these guys don't seem to care about a woman's personality and character, they're probably on the hunt for arm candy, not a woman with substance.

Natasha Burton is a love and relationship writer whose work has appeared in The Huffington Post, Glo.com, WomansDay.com, Maxim, iVillage.com and Mom.me. She is the coauthor of dating guide The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags.

Red Flag #2: He Doesn't Say What He Has to Offer
A guy's profile shouldn't be solely about what he wants in a woman -- he should reveal what he brings to a relationship. Without sounding arrogant or shallow, he should be able to explain why he's a good catch. For example, he's a

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Little strategic moves you can do with your clothes on to make things hotter than ever when you finally go skin-to-skin tonight.

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Go on a breakfast date. Romantic dinners are overrated. For one, they're pricey; plus, you're usually too full to even think about hooking up when you get home. Clocking some quality one-on-one time, anytime, is what really matters. Couples who go out together at least once a week are three times more likely to have wowza sex, according to research from the National Marriage Project. Grab a table at Starbucks, buy a couple of muffins, and catch up while you caffeinate.

Chillax. How crazed are you at work, on a scale from zero to "I'm ready to jump out a 10th-story window"? We ask because you're 76 percent less likely to have sex during weeks when you're super stressed, the Journal of Family Psychology notes. Ease your nerves by spending 10 minutes outside. (Lie in the grass, and think of