by Amanda Woerner
Meredith JenksSo, you ask, what's cash got to do with love? Everything. But experts say it's not how much either of you has -- it's how you deal with it that determines if you'll be happily merged.
He wants to combine dough; you want some financial independence.
Hey, if it's your money, you should have a say! A fair compromise: Open a shared bank account into which you each deposit a percentage of your salary (enough to cover expenses and contribute to savings), Torabi says. Whatever's left from your paycheck goes into your personal account. Invest it, save it, blow it -- your call.
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You've got killer credit. His is so-so, or worse.
Not to sound harsh, but your good credit takes priority here. Sharing a credit card account or cosigning for a car payment or other loan means you'll be on the hook for any debt he accrues. If he skips a payment and you can't cover it, that will affect your score. For now, help him focus on building his
by Amanda WoernerRead More »from Money Issues that Mess with Your Relationship
Learn which questions and statements annoy unattached women mostBy Arricca Elin SanSone
The next time you're tempted to advise single friends, bite your tongue. "You may believe you're empathizing, but intrusive comments may offend your friend," says Helen Friedman, PhD, a clinical psychologist in St. Louis who specializes in relationships. "Before you open your mouth, ask yourself what's more important: your opinion or your friendship?" Here's what to avoid saying to your single friends, what you can sometimes say or do instead and when to simply zip your lips. Photo by Getty Images
1. "Why aren't you married?"
This question almost universally pushes single people's buttons. "Perhaps the answer is 'none of your business,'" says *Grace from Detroit. In fact, it's rude to assume singles are looking for a relationship. "This question presumes that the single person is unhappily single," says Bella DePaulo, PhD, author of Singled Out and Singlism who blogs about singles. "Many unattached people live their best, most authentic
- EMandLO.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Apr 26, 2013 2:13 PM EDT
Candy heartsWant us to answer your own advice question? Write to us here!Read More »from When a Man Can't Keep Up with His Girlfriend's Libido
Dear Em & Lo,
I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too much for me. She also likes to use sex just to pleasure herself or relieve stress, but she's been getting too restless as the years go by. I'm actually getting worried that we may break up because of our differences. I don't know what to do - can you please help?
- Be Careful What You Wish For
First of all, we should admit straight out that we don't have an easy answer for you - in fact, the main reason we chose to answer your letter is because we felt like it would help so many people to read it. Wildly different libidos is one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome in a relationship (well, that and the whole porn issue), but too many people assume that libido problems are all about menwanting sex more than women. In fact,
- Self Magazine | Love + Sex – Fri, Apr 26, 2013 1:48 PM EDT
So, can you ever get past it? SELF's resident mental health expert, Dr. Catherine Birndorf, M.D., is here to help with all your life and relationship problems.Read More »from My Ex Cheated. I'm Over Him, but Not My Anger. Help!
by Dr. Catherine Birndorf, M.D., and Self Staffers
Ture Lillegraven In my view, people tend to get too fixated on the affair. It sucks -- but it's never the whole story. I'd venture a guess that something else in your relationship had already gone wrong, but you unconsciously ignored the signs.
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I don't mean "This was your fault," just that there was a problem before the cheating. Take some time to really think that out and you'll find it easier to drop the anger--in part because you'll realize you aren't missing out on anything worthwhile. And consider the anger itself: Some people unknowingly hold on to that pissed-off feeling because there's something satisfying about saying, "Ugh! He was such an asshole!" But that can backfire, because if you remain too consumed with the old, you won't
- Refinery29 | Love + Sex – Fri, Apr 26, 2013 1:47 PM EDT
The conversations surrounding equal marriage and gay rights - and the ensuing homophobia - has become vital to our nation's identity, even for those opposed to it. But how deeply do most people think about the issue, on a regular basis? This short, titled Love Is All You Need, is not perfect. But, at heart, it's asking us to step out of the politically fraught climate, where this discussion is currently taking place, and remember to see homophobia and homosexuality for what they are: human issues.
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From the government to the church, right on down to mothers and fathers, prejudice has become all too familiar in our day-to-day lives. This film is uncomfortable and meaningful to watch, no matter how you define your sexuality. Turning the tables on our current world, and presenting one where straight people are the "disgusting" Read More »from This Video Might Change the Way You Think About Gay Rights
Whoa! Guys fall in love at first sight!When it comes to falling in love, a lot of guys fall hard: According to a new study of over 10,000 people, 48 percent of men say they've fallen in love at first sight, while only 28 percent of women said the same.Read More »from More Guys Than Gals Fall in Love at First Sight
By Natasha Burton
So are guys just more romantic than we are? I'm not so sure. Maybe men are simply more apt to feel those fluttery butterflies right away because guys are more visual creatures while women typically take some time to get warmed up. (Hey, just like during sex!)
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At least for me, a man gets more-or less- physically attractive after I've gotten a sense of his personality and sense of humor. I'm totally projecting my own views on this study right now, but I would guess that the falling in love feeling many men report might have just as much to do with their hearts as their, erm, loins.
Because, in general, guys seem to be guided by their below-the-belt brains when it
- Lover.ly | Love + Sex – Fri, Apr 26, 2013 12:08 PM EDT
By Carly Totten, Lover.ly
After your final dance together with your new groom, what will you do next? Whether you opt for fireworks, sparklers, or traditional confetti for your exit, don't let the fun stop at the end of your guest line. Instead, hop into a memorable vehicle for your get away! Hosting a classic wedding? Maybe a ride in a limo is the right pick for you. Does your reception end during the day? Opt for a bike ride around town in your wedding dress, obviously.
Check out the gallery from Loverly of our favorite ways for you to make an exit your guests (and you!) will always remember. Then chime in with your getaway plans in the comments!
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- Astrology.com Tarot | Love + Sex – Fri, Apr 26, 2013 11:29 AM EDT
The Queen of Pentacles card suggests that you could reap the benefits from this Queen's generous domestic connection, perhaps by learning from her example. You can create the comforts of a career, home and family without being run ragged or seeming smug. Treat each project, plant, pet or job like your baby. Foster its independence or its ability to grow big and strong. Give someone who looks up to you another chance, or turn an error into your unique style by adding your special touch. Choose quality over quantity and love may flourish. You might have the opportunity to nurture some sensual pleasure or acquire a more abundant and fertile environment.
The decline and fall of the married sex life is a myth, says Aaron Traister. The truth is so much hotter. By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK.Read More »from 3 Reasons Men Get Better in Bed as They Age
Twenty-something dudes today have no idea how easy they have it when it comes to sex, what with their "hook-up culture" and their fancy "smartphones" that "sext." I once walked five miles in a blizzard because a girl called me up (on my house phone) and asked if I wanted to listen to the new White Zombie CD. I don't even like White Zombie, but I thought that might be code for "have sex." It turns out I was right! Then we had to get married, because that's how it worked back then. Just kidding, but we did anyway (hi, Karel!). The young fellas today probably think our decade-long monogamous sex life is pretty :( but they're oh-so-wrong. It's only gotten better. Here are three reasons an older guy outperforms some hipster who thinks an emoticon counts as seduction.
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We've seen it all, and that's a good thing.
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Apr 25, 2013 9:53 PM EDT
Fight friendlyThe love experts at YourTango note that "having the occasional heated debate between you and your significant other is healthy," but "when these fights cross into full-blown blow-ups, the argument can quickly get out of hand." Here are the top 5 ways you can be sure when you and your partner are fighting, you're fighting in a productive way, not a destructive one:Read More »from All's Fair in Love and War? 5 Ways for Couples to Avoid Fighting Dirty
1. Know when to make an exit.
"Remove yourself from a situation you can't handle. If you can't gracefully leave the room, gracefully change the topic," say experts. And do so well before your anger level is at 10.
2. Breathe deeply.
"Clear the air emotionally by clearing the physical air in your lungs," YourTango suggests. Cleansing breaths are the key to a happy life!
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"Even if you have to force yourself," say experts. Even a fake smile can "bring forth positive thoughts and feelings of gratitude or affection."
4. Make agreements.
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