Learn when to pay more attention to you and how to pull it offBy Jenna Birch
Give, give, give. It's what women often do. And that's great. But forgetting relationships are two-way streets isn't. "The biggest issue I see in my practice is women struggling to find their voice and being too selfless," says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. Taking care of yourself and your sanity, with your spouse's support, provides the fuel to tackle marriage and family obstacles that inevitably arise. Here, experts share signs you need to carve out time for you and tips on accomplishing that. Photo by Getty Images
1. When you don't look like yourself anymore.
At first, it's missing a few workouts. Then, it's forgetting to schedule your monthly haircut. Before you know it, you don't recognize the person in the mirror. "Prioritizing yourself is no different than making other things in your life your focus," says Dr. Brosh. "You have to plan and follow through with self-care." Only you can decide how much time you need for that, but it should be recurring.
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Despite divorce being so common, it can sometimes feel like you are the only "failure" out there when it comes to your marriage ending. For me, the choice to end my marriage was easy. The positives that have come out of my decision far outweigh the jokes about me having an ex or the prom picture that haunts me to this day. For others, it may not be or have been so easy. But what I've come to realize is that for many of us going through a divorce or having gone through one, no matter how easy or how hard, there is a period of time where we buy into a lot of crap. Today I am here to tell you that you are not a failure, as well as 7 more things you may have falsely bought into. -By Krishann BriscoeRead More »from False Alarms: 8 Lies We Buy into After a Divorce
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weddingI did not have a typical wedding.
For one thing, my husband and I were both only 21 on the day we said "I do."
And for another, hiding under my empire-waist wedding gown was our daughter, five months old in-utero and just starting to make her presence known to me with some well-orchestrated butterfly kicks.
It's not the way I imagined my wedding day unfolding at all.
But I can honestly say that I have no regrets about my somewhat unconventional start into marriage.
I love being married. I love that I always have someone to share my day with, someone to cook with, and someone who, even after over five years of marriage, can still make my heart melt holding my hand while we take a simple walk after dinner.
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You want to veg out, he wants to hike-why not plan a two-part trip that makes both of you happy?
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Wedding bells are ringing for Halle Berry and new husband, Olivier Martinez! The happy couple exchanged vows in a private ceremony at Chateau des Conde in France, according to Us Weekly.
Though she told InStyle that she would "never, never get married again," in 2007, the surprise nuptials mark the third marriage for Berry, 46, and first for Martinez, 47.
Rumors of the wedding began swirling on Tuesday when the couple was spotted at LAX with Berry's daughter, Nahla, 5. The three boarded a plane to Martinez's native Paris where many imagined their ceremony would take place. Though wedding details were kept quiet, several sources told People that the couple had their hearts set on a summer wedding.
The two began dating on the set of their film Dark Tide in 2010 and announced their engagement in March of 2012. Martinez proposed in Paris with an emerald-and-diamond ring from Gurhan.
The engagement came as a surprise not only to Berry's fan, but to the actress herself. "WhoRead More »from Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez Are Married!
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Fri, Jul 12, 2013 3:30 PM EDTinherited the monarchy, and photo albums were exclusively items you could hold in your hands.In June of 1952, the month Rose Scott and Patrick Roach were married, Harry Truman was president, Queen Elizabeth II had just
When the Roaches lost their leather-bound wedding album, they thought they’d never see it again. But with the help of a thoughtful stranger and a local newspaper, they were reunited with their irreplaceable photos.
Couple reunited by letter after 63 years
"It's a miracle to have it back," Patrick Roach told BBC News. The couple can't recall when or how the book was misplaced, but a lot has happened in the 61 years since their wedding day at Hall Green Parish Church. It's possible the book was lost during one of their moves in the 1960s. The couple relocated to Ireland and South Africa for Patrick's work before settling in Staffordshire. Somewhere between the couple's raising their two children and becoming great-grandparents of four, their treasured wedding photosRead More »from Couple Reunited With Wedding Album After 50-Plus Years
9 Signs You Can Handle An Office RomanceBy Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWeRead More »from 9 Signs You Can Handle an Office Romance
Before you launch into a full-fledged office romance with the cutie from payroll, take a look at this checklist to see if you've really got the chops to date someone you work with:
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1.) Your partner isn't your manager. (Seriously.)
2.) You know that furtive eye-contact, texts, and occasional flirting when no one is around is okay, but blatant giggling/hanging out at each other's desks all day is not.
3.) You can differentiate between treating them like a coworker during the day, and a date at night.
4.) You're discreet in the beginning, but fully ready to disclose the relationship to your coworkers once it becomes serious.(Don't try to keep it a secret. They'll find out. They always find out.)
5.) You don't use the office email system for daytime sexting. (That's what your cellphone is for.)
6.) You have a break-up contingency plan for how you guys will deal if things happen to turn sour.
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We'd never be caught dead reading Fifty Shades of Grey -- let alone well-written erotica -- in public. There's just something unseemly about it, like PDA with too much tongue. But there are plenty of books that can satisfy your craving for smut while making you appear erudite to your neighbors on the beach or the subway.
tropic-cancer-henry-miller-paperback-cover-art Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller The original edition of the book, published in France in 1934, was banned here in the U.S. for its sexual explicitness. Not until 1961 did we get a U.S. version -- and that led to obscenity trials going all the way to the Supreme Court, which declared it non-obscene in 1964, a whopping thirty years after its publication. Be warned: it will probably offend your modern sensibilities with its misogyny. (And if it doesn't, then there's probably something wrong with you.)
LadyChatterleysLover_200Lady Chatterly's Lover by D.H. Lawrence For a more female-positive sex book from the same era, check out this 1928
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If Todd Phillips needs any tips for "The Hangover Part IV" he should look no further than this rowdy crew from the UK.
Ollie McAninch, 33, and his fiancée Clair Hart were driving down an English country road when, according to the the Daily Mail, masked bandits surrounded them and started screaming expletives for the couple to get out of the car. But this was no ordinary kidnapping. What McAninch didn’t know was that the 16 men were his best blokes and Hart’s distressing cries were all an act—McAninch was being taken to his bachelor party and this was all a carefully orchestrated prank.
After the mob bound, gagged and issued the groom-to-be a prison-style jumpsuit he was forced into the back of a van and driven 100 miles in silence, remaining in the dark during the long ride that the supposed felons were in fact his friends. Following the two-hour journey, the masks came off and true identities of the men were revealed.
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What exactly is a getaway car, you ask? No, it's not the car waiting for a "Runaway Bride" (but you're still invited to the wedding, Julia Roberts...). We've all either seen or taken part in the tradition of decorating (read: sometimes destroying with cookies and whipped cream) the bride and groom's car at the end of the night so they can ride off into the sunset, dragging cans and all. But as much as we love shoe polish on car windows, one of our favorite trends in weddings is the picture-perfect "getaway" car. A vintage Cadillac convertible, a classic Ford truck or even a cute little scooter...pick something you love, something that represents your unique personality as a couple. Most major cities offer classic car rentals, and we bet you have a relative or two with the perfect set of wheels just waiting for a photo-op. Check out our slideshow of our favorite images from real weddings and see how other couples are getting whisked away into their new marriedRead More »from Wanna Get-Away: These Couples Got it Right with Their Getaway Cars
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