A new book turns traditional theories about sexuality on their heads
5 Myths About Female Desires
You've probably heard it before: women are hardwired for monogamy, while men are primed for casual sex. The problem is, a growing body of research points to a much more complicated picture than that. In the new book What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire, award-winning journalist Daniel Bergner highlights new research that challenges commonly held beliefs about the female sex drive.
"This idea that women's desire is less of a drive than male desire," says Bergner, "I feel like that is a disservice to us all." So Bergner talked to sexologists, primatologists, and real women to see if those long-held theories about female sexuality really tell the whole story. What he found was a ton of research that flew in the face of these commonly held myths:
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The Ten of Wands card reversed suggests that you got what you wished for and may have been carried away by good intentions, desire or passion ... but now what? Your energetic sense of commitment may now give way to stress or fatigue, and you may be stalling or looking for a way out. A sure sign is if you are backing off from promises, reunions, proposals or gatherings.
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Contrary to what we may be told, celebrities are nothing like us. They don't shop like us, work out like us and they most certainly do not break up like us. A celebrity breakup is a carefully executed business plan rolled out over a period of several months. The people involved include the manager, the publicist, the agent and members of the press. A celebrity can profit as much as $100,000 off a split and sometimes more.
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.Dirty talk. It can be... awkward. Many of us find that when we're getting busy, we're not exactly spewing our finest poetry. Held back by nerves, fear of embarrassing ourselves, or inexperience, incorporating speech into our sexytime routines can be intimidating, even for the most verbose people. So, why bother?
There are a few reasons why we think dirty talk deserves a place in your bedroom (or, you know, wherever you're doing it). Hearing your partner's voice during sex adds another sensory item to the menu; plus, putting words to an already hot experience only makes it hotter. "Dirty talk allows you to flex that other sex organ - the brain, which houses an unlimited reserve of erotic stimuli," says Babeland co-founder Claire Cavanah. "You can bring someone to a heightened state of arousal using just your words, which is an incredibly exciting experience."
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Calling all newly engaged gals- it's time to celebrate your engagement in style! In honor of Swim Day (we know, there's a literally a holiday for everything), we're planning the perfect poolside soirée. The summer sunshine is calling our name and we can't wait to throw on our favorite maxi-dress (and SPF, of course), sip fruity cocktails and celebrate L-O-V-E! We're picturing cafe lights strung from either side of the backyard, tiki torches glowing in the evening sun, and charming decor of preppy shades of blue and crisp white. Check out the slideshow for our favorite backyard pool party inspiration pictures and start planning your own summertime bash!
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Unfortunately, the local resident also happened to be the one doing the deceiving on the show-namely, a young gay man who was pretending to be a pretty and perky blonde woman in order to hook up with a tanned and bronzed buff guy.
Ouch. So much for our five minutes of fame.
The near brush with fame got me thinking though-what is the deal with all this online dating business? Is any of it real anymore? Just how risky is it to wade into the pool of screen-to-screen action?
I have to admit, that as a woman who married my high school sweetheart, the prospect of dating in my twenties is enough to make me break out into a cold sweat. Dating was just far too easy for me. But now? If I happened to be single, I would think that I most certainly would rely on online dating to make the leap into coupledom. No bar scenes for me, thank you very much.Read More »from Could You Be Duped by Online Dating? One Woman’s “Catfished” Tale
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I have a confession to make. I have dated every kind of man known to man. But I am not ashamed. Dating players, mama's boys and cheap-o's is a right of passage for single women. Before we plan our dream wedding and tie the knot, we have to date Mr. Wrong, even if he buys us drinks while comparing us to Halle Berry…and then makes us pay the tab. So, ladies, lets take a trip down memory lane (or scream into our pillow if this sounds like your present stud), and reminisce about all those lucky guys you dating before discovering Mr. Right. Click through for 7 things men ALL women date before tying the knot! -By Sujeiry GonzalezRead More »from Mr. Wrong: 7 Men ALL Women Date Before Tying the Knot
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Sign #1: Your annoying talking pumpkin-head key chain shows up in their junk drawer.
Or your broken pen or ancient bowling scorecard. None of these are items that anybody in their right mind would covet. But they are things that indicate that the person enjoys thinking of you while looking for the Scotch tape. Or that they're doing something that's only possible when somebody deeply adores you: They're keeping your garbage around their nice clean house because they think that you might think it's not garbage at all, and they're waiting for that moment to hand it over to you and for you to go, "My talking pumpkin-head key chain!!! I thought I lost it!" At which point, they will get the huge hug from you that justifies the past few months of listening to that eerie electronic pumpkin voice go, "Smash me, sucker!" every time they shut the junk drawer a little too hard.
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- Beth Greenfield, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Wed, Jun 26, 2013 4:10 PM EDT
"Windsor v. the United States" is the name of the Supreme Court case that wound up striking down the Defense of Marriage Act Wednesday. But who is Windsor? She's Edie Windsor, 83, who had the gumption to challenge a hefty bill she received for federal estate taxes after the 2009 death of her soul mate, Thea Spyer. Shortly before Spyer's death, the couple married in Toronto--a long-awaited journey, as they had already been together for 41 years. But the U.S. government didn't recognize the union because of the Defense of Marriage Act, signed into law by President Bill Clinton in 1996. She fought it. And the rest, as they say, is history.--Beth Greenfield, Shine Staff
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In the rush of excitement after the Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act on Wednesday, actress Kristen Bell jumped onto Twitter to propose to her fiancé, Dax Shepard, who is also the dad of her 3-month-old baby girl, Lincoln.
Last year Bell explained her reluctance to "make it official" with longtime beau Shepard in an interview. "The reason we're not rushing to get married is because I don't feel appropriate taking advantage of a right that's denied to my best friends. That's why we've been so hesitant," she told The Advocate. "Dax and I have talked about it a lot, and this issue is very important to both of us. We're just standing up for what we believe in. Period."
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