Lie #2: 'This could turn into a real relationship.' A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients. Many of the people who paid for sex expressed a desire to grow their relationships beyond the sex act and develop feelings and mutual love with the person.
Here are 5 ways people who pay for sex lie to themselves:
1. "I'm not doing anything wrong." The responders make excuses and do not obey the law. These comments were posted by people who are paying for sex. These people are a sub group of the population who are engaging in illegal activity. From a societal view, those who act outside the norms and rules of the society are not the norm for the culture.
Those who engage in paying for sex are breaking the law. Many of the people who engage in prostitution are also involved in a
Lie #2: 'This could turn into a real relationship.' A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients. Many of the people who paid for sex expressed a desire to grow their relationships beyond the sex act and develop feelings and mutual love with the person.Read More »from 5 Ways People Who Pay for Sex Lie to Themselves
- Babble.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 4:46 PM EDT
Banana pudding, yum!Lamar and Ronnie Tyler run a website based on marriage and relationships, so they often get questions on how they would handle certain situations as a couple. This latest email came in, and not only did they want to answer it, but they want to ask for your opinion as well. Below, you can view the question along with separate responses from the couple.
Dear Lamar & Ronnie,
I've been with my spouse for 14 years and married for 9 of those years. I have always had issues with my husband's relationship with his mother because of boundaries, which he seems to think is a normal occurrence. Tonight, I witnessed something that I was truly disgusted by and as a result, I'm feeling very uncomfortable. My husband ate his mother's unfinished banana pudding, using her bowl, spoon and all. Am I overreacting or should I not be concerned?LAMAR:
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- The Ellen Show | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 3:27 PM EDT
Enjoy this collection of the couple's personal photos of how they celebrate their wedding anniversary.
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 2:56 PM EDT
Screenwriter and novelist Niall Leonard. (Photo: Rolf Marriott via niallleonard.com)You may think that being married to the woman who wrote the BDSM "Fifty Shades" trilogy might mean a long parade of expensive trips, jealous fans, and plenty of erotic toys. But according to Niall Leonard, James' real-life husband of more than 20 years, the couple's "lifestyle" has little in common with the book.Read More »from Meet Niall Leonard, the Man Who's Married to "Fifty Shades of Grey" Author E.L. James
"We're mostly, for all intents and purposes, just a regular family," Leonard, a screenwriter and novelist, told CNN in an interview.
Their two teenage sons have to put up with plenty of fallout from their mom's steamy "Twilight" fan fiction.
"They can look after themselves and they don't take any crap from anyone who wants to tease them about it," Leonard says. "People do, but… deep down they're really proud of what she's done and they're really proud of her."
While the idea may make their sons squirm, Leonard says that he does see aspects of his wife in her "Fifty Shades" characters, Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey.
"I see my wife in the emails that they exchange,"
- Astrology.com Tarot | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 1:43 PM EDT
The Temperance card suggests that the timing may be right for sharing your feelings, getting together, creating something new or pouring your heart out, but don't expect a quick fix. This could be the beginning of a creative process of cooperation, diversity, sexual compatibility or testing of the romantic waters, so be prepared to go with the flow or to set new relationship goals that can work for the long term. Patience, trust, compromise and self-control can bring moderate, consistent and stable results as long as you are not afraid to get your feet wet.
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*Apart from experts and authors quoted, real names and locations have been changed.
Kelly and James were our oldest friends. We met before we had kids, and while James and my husband, Sam, bonded over hours-long bike rides and trail runs, Kelly and I connected over our love of literature and movies, politics and fashion. As the years progressed, our lives stayed in sync: We had babies around the same time, bought houses near each other, took vacations together. On Sundays, when it came time for dinner, the only question was, our house or theirs? Married 20-plus years, Kelly and James* had weathered some tough times - his incessant travel for work, her struggles with low moods - but their relationship seemed solid. Or so we thought until last July, when James confessed to Kelly that he was in love with another woman and had been cheating on Kelly for months.
I'd seen agony up close, but never quite like this. Kelly called almost daily, sobbing through her recitation of hurts.Read More »from How to Keep Your Marriage Strong
I (Lo here) consider myself a pretty hardcore feminist. And I love Jezebel.com. So I expected their recent "Woman-Child" article to be just my kind of internet candy. My best guess about its focus? The media's obsession with infantalizing women to make them seem cuter, softer, more likeable. But it actually turned out to be one writer's poop parade on grown, successful women choosing to have fun, be lighthearted, dress up, and not take things so seriously. (I know by choosing the phrase "poop parade" I may only be proving her point, but I'm sticking with it.)
The article talks about the female counterpart to the man-child: grown women who increasingly don't act their age. Now, far be it from me to get in the way of someone going to town on Katy Perry's lollipop-licking, Candyland-prancing, cherry-nippled persona -- hey, go to town! But in the process, the piece totally dismisses the benefits of being young at heart, of maintaining a childlike wonder about the world, of alwaysRead More »from In Defense of the "Woman-Child"
couple sharing a strawberryBy Denise Schipani
Food and sex: you need 'em both, you want 'em both-and, as it turns out, they're closely linked. A poor diet can lead to a lackluster sex life, while some foods have the power to make you feel sexier or prime your body for some mind-blowing booty. A healthy balance of vitamins and minerals keeps your endocrine system humming, which in turn regulates the production of the hormones estrogen and testosterone, essential for sexual desire and performance, says Cammi Balleck, PhD, a naturopathic physician and author of Making Happy Happen. "Enjoying an active sex life is essential to our wellbeing, and the foods we eat play a large role in ensuring we feel in the mood," she says. So you could call good food and good sex a positive feedback loop. Here, eight foods (plus one meal!) with proven power to up the sexy. Photo credit: Getty ImagesCelery
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- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 12:33 PM EDT
Autumn LeavesBy Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWeRead More »from Your Fall Makeout Checklist: 25 Places to Hook Up Come Autumn
While the summer days are behind us, we can only look forward to the beautiful autumn days ahead and feel content. The smell of apple cider and the sound of crunching leaves is all it will take to get us out of the gloom from mourning the end of the summer. We already gave you a checklist of summer hook-up spots and we hope you got most of them done! If not, here's your chance to catch up before things get too chilly for a nuzzle session outdoors. Print this out and tuck it in your jacket pocket before you head out into the cooler days of fall.
In a pumpkin patch
At an apple orchard
Back of a haunted hay wagon
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Dressed up for Halloween
While grocery shopping for Halloween candy
Buying the thanksgiving turkey
Between sips of apple cider
Decorating for Halloween
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At the Thanksgiving day parade
On top of a
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 11, 2012 12:32 PM EDT
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWeRead More »from 11 Steps for Coping with Amy Poehler and Will Arnett’s Split
The news the America's favorite funny couple Amy Poehler and Will Arnett are separating took the nation by storm, sending people into fits of despair and wondering if love could possibly exist. But while this is devastating news, love DOES exist, Amy and Will are going to LOOOOVE AGAIN stronger than before, even if it takes a life time to get over it, heaven only knows, and we are all going to be okay. We can get over this together. Let's do this.
1. First, let's have a good cry.
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