When Lamar and I were dating, he said I had a wall up. I had that wall up because of my past pains, past disappointments, past relationship failures, and past bad choices. I put up this wall to protect me, but what I failed to realize is that it also prevented me from moving on, from letting go, from allowing Lamar to love me fully, and from loving Lamar freely. Now that we are married, people ask us all of the time to tell them the one thing that makes our marriage work. And, I always tell them..that it is really hard to pinpoint one thing as there are so many things that we do to make it work. But, I would put good communication at the top of that list. There's nothing that we don't talk about and that we can't share with each other. We talk all of the time about everything and about nothing. Click through for 7 conversations every married couple should have! -By Ronnie Tyler
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When Lamar and I were dating, he said I had a wall up. I had that wall up because of my past pains, past disappointments, past relationship failures, and past bad choices. I put up this wall to protect me, but what I failed to realize is that it also prevented me from moving on, from letting go, from allowing Lamar to love me fully, and from loving Lamar freely. Now that we are married, people ask us all of the time to tell them the one thing that makes our marriage work. And, I always tell them..that it is really hard to pinpoint one thing as there are so many things that we do to make it work. But, I would put good communication at the top of that list. There's nothing that we don't talk about and that we can't share with each other. We talk all of the time about everything and about nothing. Click through for 7 conversations every married couple should have! -By Ronnie TylerRead More »from Talk is Key: 7 Conversations Every Married Couple Should Have...Often
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When it comes to weddings, few things are more controversial than the gift registry. You can't mention the wedding invitation you just received without someone launching into a rant against the "greedy" couples who use registries to scam innocent distant relatives out of all their hard-earned money for stuff the couple will never actually use. Forget religion and politics; wedding registries are the topic to avoid in mixed company.
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The latest person to hate on wedding gift registries is Matthew Yglesias at Slate. In Stop the Scourge of Wedding Presents, he calls wedding gifts "outdated, inefficient, unfair, and unnecessary." He writes:
"Traditional wedding presents no longer make sense in a contemporary context. Our gifting is based on the outdated (and, needless to say, sexist) assumptions of near-universal marriage, a very young age at first marriage, and extremely low expectations of male housekeeping skills. If you
Searching for outing ideas that are more exciting than visiting the same old rooftop bar that everyone else goes to? Look no further! By Jane Bianchi, REDBOOK.Read More »from The 15 Best Outdoor Dates in America
Bike in the big city
Head to NYC to try out the city's newly launched bike-sharing program, CitiBike. Sign up for a one-day pass ($9.95 plus tax) or a seven-day pass ($25 plus tax) that allows you to unlock a bike from any of the 600 locations, ride it for 30 minutes, and then return it to any station. "Rousing physical activity may boost adrenaline, a hormone that is associated with attraction," says Bela Gandhi, president of Smart Dating Academy, a consulting firm that provides dating advice.
Take a thrill ride
Feeling a little scared can make your heart pound, and amp up the romance when you instinctually squeeze your partner's hand, or fling yourself into his arms, says Elana Averbach, a Cleveland-based dating coach at KickStartLove. That's more than enough to prompt a trip to Cedar Point amusement park in Sandusky, Ohio.
by Terri Trespicio for HowAboutWeRead More »from The Secret to Getting Him to Commit
The Secret to Getting Him to Commit So you think that the man (or woman) you're dating will never commit to you, because he can't or won't, or both. And that you'll never, ever be able to find a man who will commit to you, because men suck and then you die. Ok. Rewind.
A woman I know from Miami told me about a brief affair she had with a gentleman. They had delicious chemistry and kissed with their mouths open and all kinds of lovely, sexy stuff happened. "But it won't work out because he's noncommittal."
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They had just met. How does she know this? She doesn't. She made up a story that no one would want just her, and then blamed him for it. How would you know someone is or isn't or could be committed to you after knowing them a week? You can't.
This persistent idea here - that some people JUST CAN'T commit - is bullshit. Why? Because anyone can commit. It's a decision, not a personality trait-it involves a specific set
eggsIf you caught The Today Show this week, you may have witness coverage of the new campaign sweeping across Britain to promote fertility awareness in women as they age.
Basically, the thought goes a little something like this: in the quest for women to have it all, they often settle into their careers before "settling down" and starting families. Which is all well and good, until many of them are surprised to find out…
Getting pregnant isn't as easy as they thought it would be.
The American College of Obstetricians & Gynecologists states that a woman's fertility "declines gradually but significantly beginning approximately at age 32 years." Babble blogger Devan McGuiness shared her difficulty getting pregnant at the age of only 30.
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by Marla Pachter for HowAboutWeRead More »from ‘He’s like Sour Patch Kids: Sour, Sweet, Gone’: Redditors Describe Their Exes as Food
We all have exes; it's a valuable part of growing up. As my mom always said, "You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince." It's good to have those experiences, because dating the wrong person helps you figure out when you've found the right person. Sometimes we're bitter about our experiences, and sometimes we're able to stay friends. 'He's like Sour Patch Kids: Sour, Sweet, Gone': Redditors Describe Their Exes as Food
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In responding to the question, "If You Could Describe Your Ex as a Piece of Food, What Would it Be?", Reddit commenters channeled however they were feeling about their exes into creative expression. The responses are thoughtful, cathartic, and largely hilarious. Here are the best of the bunch:
"As an oatmeal raisin cookie. At first, you think it's a chocolate chip cookie and you're so fucking excited to eat it. Then you take a huge bite and realize it's not what you thought it was, and isn't nearly as good as you hoped it would be. You find that
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Photo: Bryan Gardner Kid-Friendly Decor
For this whimsical spread, we slipped crayons into packets and supplied a doodle-ready paper runner, wooden figurines, child-friendly dinnerware, and playful extras like milk bottles and striped straws.
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Go the extra mile to provide smaller guests with supersized fun, and guarantee that their night is just as entertaining as their parents' with these downloadable activity booklets.
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Photo: Kate Mathis Coloring Book Runner
Transform a plain table runner into a coloring book by rolling out a length of white kraft paper at the kids' table and stamping a design down the center for them to color in (large, linear stamps work best). Be sure to include a cup of crayons or pencils.
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We've all been there, at that point in a reception where the bride sways with her father on the dance floor to a song that just…well…makes you want to cringe a little. It's not that we're cold-hearted. Or that we don't like Bob Carlisle. It's just that the father-daughter dance is special moment, and it deserves a song that strikes the ideal balance between sincere and fun. In honor of Father's Day impending arrival, we've rounded up our favorite fresh songs for brides and their fathers.Read More »from 12 Dance Songs that Remind Us of Dad
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"Next To Me" - Emeli Sande
Sande is a vocal powerhouse, and her recently-released upbeat anthem will have your guests clapping and singing along to its gospel-y chorus.
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"Father and Daughter" - Paul Simon
This one's a daddy/daughter classic, but the lyrics ("I believe a light that shines on you will shine on you forever") are "awww," not "awwwful."
"Twist and Shout" - The Beatles
Unconventional? Sure. A total blast? Most definitely. One
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Wed, Jun 12, 2013 5:28 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Everybody's Doing It: Publicly Shaming Dudes for Bad Relationship Behavior
photo by Grant CornettThis week's headlines appear to showcase a hot new trend: Ladies, fed up with the appalling behavior of certain dudes, are not quietly rolling their eyes anymore. They're taking to the Internet to Call. Them. Out. Emphasis because they're doing it in a major way.
Exhibit A: The Pennsylvania woman who endured a two-hour train ride listening to a cheating husband brag to his friends about his multiple affairs. She got so sick of listening to his vulgar talk that she snapped his photo and posted it on her Facebook page along with the caption: "If this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh please repost ... "
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It's been shared at least 183,000 times. No word on whether it's been shared with the guy's wife, and I can't decide for her sake if I hope it has, or hasn't.
- Beth Greenfield, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Wed, Jun 12, 2013 4:40 PM EDT
Thames Town has much of what you'd expect to find in a quaint English village--cobbled streets, Tudor architecture and a Gothic church. But it's actually just a full-scale replica of such a place, in the suburbs of Shanghai, created in 2006 as a cool place for students and hipsters to hang. It was a flop, though, and soon became a ghost town--until photo-happy brides and grooms caught wind of it, that is. Now the entire town serves as an atmospheric backdrop for an endless stream of elaborate wedding-photo shoots, with a whole slew of them usually happening at once, often side-by-side. Talk about surreal.--Beth Greenfield
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