The Queen of Swords card suggests that you may be influenced by the skill of this Queen to advocate for reasonable means and impartial decisions. Use her strength to open up discussions and persevere in the face of conflict while keeping emotions in check. This situation may serve to complete the connection between wisdom and experience. Consider delegating authority to her or deferring to her impartial opinions -- she can go head-to-head in a battle of wits, making her a natural choice for compassionate mediation or legal assistance. Stick to the facts, know your own mind, follow the rules and keep your distance, but be willing to listen and let your perceptions grow out of the evidence rather than from prejudice or spite. You might be able to better articulate your relationship concerns or demands without getting sidetracked by distractions, gossip or rhetoric.

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When Blackistanis Run Wild, is an interesting piece written by Clarissa Queen of the Pen Burton, where it talks about Black women being under violent attack for dating White or Other race men. Recently there was a violent attack according to the blog The Bloggersphere Authored by Burton who is a Phd. Candidate and Published Author of several truthful controversial articles on the state of Black America, particularly Black Women and Children.

In another controversial piece according to the State of Texas black women are the leading group applying for licenses to carry concealed weopons. The site Your Black World states that
"According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, 93% of the more than 8,000 black homicide victims in 2005 were murdered by someone of their own race. Of those 8,000 victims, 15% were women. Also blacks account for only 13.1% of the U.S. population but are nearly half of the homicide victims in the country." She continued, "With numbers like these, it is imperative

You know what I mean? No "guys" not a car, ladies are you with me? I mean making a relationship work. A real grown up relationship. What are the commitments that we are really making? How do we keep the love alive but still manage to get rid of the "clingy-ness". I have answers for you, and some questions for those of you out there as well.

Okay, so if your willing to keep working hard at the relationship your in now, why let that die. I mean you've come so far already why not get back into the groove of things. Simple enough? WRONG its twice as hard when you've been in a long term relationship and all they say is "you should know me by now", which on their case your other half is right, but in all reality do we really know.. Over time things change and the relationship becomes dull. All in all we are still learning everyday with relationships whether were 18,19,20 and so on. Everyday should be treated as a learning experience.

The commitments we make a long the way don't involve

Action packed date? He's trying to see if you can be friends.When you go on a first date with a dude, he usually picks the place. And good thing, because Bill Nichols, co-founder of 100RedFlags.com, says you can tell a lot from a man by what kind of date he takes you on. Here's how to suss out his intentions.

By Korin Miller

The Neighborhood Bar
He's a laid-back guy, and while it might not seem like he's trying, he is. Chances are, he's conscious of where he took you since he's looking for a girl who is equally laid-back.

His Deal: He's open to having a relationship, but his life isn't dependent on it.

The Indie Coffee Shop
He's making an attempt to be different. There's a certain level of maturity and confidence needed to choose a date that involves a lot of (sober) conversation. He places value in getting to know someone and isn't aiming for a one-night stand, which is more than you can say for a lot of guys.

His Deal: He knows what he wants and doesn't want to waste time finding it. If a connection is there, he'll explore it.

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Don't react to suspicion without concrete proof!Think your man is cheating on you? Be sure to avoid these 3 common mistakes! You've noticed something weird about your man. He's all about himself and away from home a lot more these days. He's on his phone a lot and never lets his phone out of his sight. You just can't shake this feeling that he might be up to something…and that something is cheating.

Mistake #1: Reacting to Suspicions: Your emotions can run away from you when you suspect that the man you love has been cheating on you. You can lose your cool and go on a rampage of, ""How could you do this to me you cheating &*^#?" While this is the natural reaction to suspecting that the love of your life has been cheating on you, it isn't the best reaction. Your man will naturally defend himself and tell you that you are crazy and in all seriousness, you probably do appear a bit crazed-cheating will do that to you! What this reaction will do is just turn the tables back on you making you look like the crazy, jealous, paranoid woman

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after the breakup: from breakdown to breakthrough
We've all been there. You just broke up with a boyfriend, husband, or long-term partner. Whether you thought he was "The One"... or the one for the year or month, it never feels good.

Breakups are hard because they represent the loss of a shared commitment. Even breakups that make logical sense are still emotionally painful. Moving on can be hard, but there are essential steps to getting past your breakup that can ensure it takes less time to get from breakdown to breakthrough.

Here is the Dating with Dignity "Break Over" 4-Step Program to help you heal post-split.

4 Steps for Getting Past a Breakup

Step 1: Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of your relationship.

Even if it was the "right choice," it still sucks. Whether it's in your journal or talking with your sister, expressing how you're feeling will help you feel less alone. However, this doesn't mean that you should dwell on these

Women are overtaking men in the workforce. Are men 'over'? This is really a question being debated, in new books like The End of Men: And the Rise of Women, by Slate editor Hanna Rosin. "Who wears the pants in this economy?" The New York Times Magazine asks this weekend, in a story adapated from Rosin's book that focuses on female bread-winners who have been forced into the workplace by their partners losing their jobs. In the shifting American economy, higher-paying jobs traditionally held by middle class men have disappeared and job-creation has been in lower-paid but female-dominated sectors, where the hiring bias may even be against men. Rosin writes, "It's not hard to imagine a time when the prevailing dynamic in town might be female bosses shutting men out of the only open jobs."

Rosin's work focuses on men and women who have a traditional, religion-based definition of 'man' as a breadwinner, head of the household and authority figure to whom a woman is supposed to be submissive. The men in the story want to be able to

In a quick and dirty poll of my girlfriends, I learned about half of them enjoyed talking dirty in bed while the other half preferred to let their bodies do the talking. When it comes to verbal communication between the sheets, there's a distinct difference between dirty talk and phrases that should never, ever be uttered in bed. Check out the 9 things you should never say in bed here! - By Lori Garcia

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