by Gena Kaufman
Nobody would understand my pain as much as Hannah Horvath.
If you'd like this story to be about the inspiring feeling of reaching your goal, either in running or love, abandon ship now. This conversation is not for you, running lover. Or dating lover, for that matter.
I started an eight-week Couch to 5K program about six weeks ago, which means I've been complaining for approximately, oh, six weeks. I've always loathed running. It's not just that I'm lazy, per se, it's that I've always preferred other forms of activity, like yoga or dancing or sitting on the couch with a box of Hot & Spicy Cheez-Its. However, I got it in my head that I wanted to be able to run at least a few miles without keeling over, so I've been forcing myself to do the supposedly easy training. Surprise: I STILL HATE IT. But I keep doing it. Which kind of reminds me about how I feel about dating sometimes, especially when I was first getting back in the swing of it last year.
Here are some similarities I've found:
1. Love hurts. Running really, really
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by SELF Staffers
Now that the sun's back in the picture, you're more open to some guy attention, a new study in the journal Social Influence suggests. Research has shown that sunlight increases serotonin levels, boosting your mood, which can make you happy to accept even bad one-liners. So we say: Start flirting now! Love expert Lauren Frances shares her tips.
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Your most steamy dreams get decoded here.Dreaming about sex can be totally mind-blowing-or really effing creepy. According to research performed by the University of Montreal Dream and Nightmare Laboratory, eight percent of our dreams contain sexual content (though men reportedly dream about doing the nasty more frequently than we do). To help you find the meaning of your nighttime sexy-time, we've consulted the experts to decode the most common themes of x-rated dreams.Read More »from The 8 Most Common Steamy Dreams—Decoded
By Natasha Burton
1. The Mystery Lover
Dream expert Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, author of Dream On It, Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life, says the most common steamy dream involves some kind of faceless dude totally ravaging us. Interestingly enough, this guy isn't some mysterious soul mate: His presence in your dreams actually signifies that you need to enlist some stereotypically masculine traits in your waking life-i.e. be assertive and speak your mind.
2. The Big O
According to analysis on DreamMoods.com, dreaming of climax-or maybe
secrets & whispers
Dirty talk can terrify even the most seasoned sexual adventurer-people are afraid of sounding stupid or afraid of like a pornstar… or perhaps they're afraid of not sounding like a pornstar. But when you break it down, dirty talk is actually much simpler and more approachable than you might think. Here are five easy ways to try it out:
1. React to What's Happening
If something feels good, say so. Start with moans and sighs (they count, too!), or a breathy repetition of your partner's name, and work up to "Yes!" or "That feels good" or "I love it when you do that"-and eventually you can build up to "I love it when you [BLANK] with your [BLANK]."
2. Ditch Your Thesaurus
Speaking of the [BLANK]: As a general rule, the more words a term for the genitals contains, the more likely it is to induce giggles or a wince. On the other hand, you probably want to steer clear of terms that a gynecologist or urologist would use (kind of a buzz kill!). You're safest sticking to theRead More »from 5 Easy Ways to Talk Dirtier Tonight
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The Knight of Wands card suggests that proposals or ideas could come out of the blue, and you may need to think fast on your feet or improvise. This could be an opportunity to add spark or zest to your love life or relationship or to follow through on romantic plans. You might feel lost or crazy in love. Things could go too far or too fast, however, especially if one of you is unable to keep up with the changes.
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By Jeff Wilser for TheKnot.com
Vitalic Photo / The Knot1. Fact: They'll like the wedding that you like
The best weddings are the ones where the bride and groom did it their way. Formal and ritzy? Great. Casual and festive? Also great. Do what you want. Your guests won't judge. Okay, some will. But remember what you learned in kindergarten: If they judge you by your cake display, they're not your real friends anyway.
2. Fact: They want you to register
You will have many difficult decisions in life. (How many kids? Rent or buy? Public or private school? Ground or whole-bean coffee?) Opting for a gift registry is not one of the hard decisions. Trust us. Your guests want it. By registering, you get exactly what you wish -- no duplicate gravy boats -- and spare your guests confusion. Easy call. Plus, it's easier than ever before: You can now use your iPhone as a scan gun, sip champagne if you're registering in store (you can do
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Cly Creation / The KnotEveryone's got a know-it-all in the family: the uncle who spits out World Series stats at the drop of a hat, the sister who can list all the James Bond flicks in reverse chronological order, the reptile-enthusiast cousin. We're proud to be your wedding equivalent -- here are 50 wedding facts to ponder as you plan your big day:
Good Luck and Bad Luck
1. Hey, brides, tuck a sugar cube into your glove -- according to Greek culture, the sugar will sweeten your union.
2. The English believe a spider found in a wedding dress means good luck. Yikes!
3. In English tradition, Wednesday is considered the "best day" to marry, although Monday is for wealth and Tuesday is for health.
4. The groom carries the bride across the threshold to bravely protect her from evil spirits lurking below.
5. Saturday is the unluckiest wedding day, according to English folklore. Funny -- it's the most popular day of the week to marry!
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Lamar and I want everyone to be empowered with the right tools that will enable them to have healthy unions and to be able to face every storm or trial that comes their way. We believe that you should have thriving relationships, and not just relationships that are simply surviving. And while every relationship goes through it's trials, there is a big difference between a bad spell and a 5, 10, or 20 year period of suffering arguing, fighting and just all out dysfunction. Lamar and I get letters, almost daily, from people that are hurting. And they are staying in marriages, for 15 to 20 years or more, with a spouse that is a serial cheater, or that is verbally or physically abusive. These people in are relationships with no intimacy, no affection, and no cohesion. And my answer to them is, GET OUT. But wait…GET OUT does not necessarily mean leaving the marriage. To me, getting out means doing what ever you need to do to move your relationship from it's current state. And for someRead More »from Relationship Wreck: 7 Reasons to Get Out of a Bad Marriage NOW
There's a reason that sometimes they can't help but stop and stare.
We Asked: Viren Swami, Ph.D., YouBeauty Attraction Expert and Reader in Psychology at the University of Westminster in London, England.
The Answer: They stare, they ogle, they pat and they pinch. But what is it that draws some men so intensely to the female behind? The long held theory that an hourglass figure, including a full lower body, is attractive because it suggests health and fertility has been largely discredited. It has yet to be replaced by a convincing alternative.
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What we do know is that a booty is a uniquely female trait-and therefore uniquely feminine. After puberty, sex hormones begin to dictate the distribution of fat on the body. In men, fat accumulation is stimulated around the gut and inhibited in the seat. It's the opposite for women, who tend to carry fat in their gluteofemoral region, that is, the butt and thighs.
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