We all know that an active sex life is important for a healthy long-term relationship or marriage. I bet when you first started going out with your significant other the sparks were flying and you pretty much couldn't keep your hands off each other. You would have to make excuses to your friends about why they don't see you anymore and it's because you're busy having fun between the sheets with your loved one. Time changes things. I've been married for going on 9 years now and three kids later, plus pregnant with number 4, there have been times where we've been like that early stage and times where we are the complete opposite. It happens in many relationships, and like anything else long-term and real, that fluctuation will happen from time to time. But, truth-be-told, no matter how much you love someone, there are times where you really don't feel like doing it. There are times where your libido is the total opposite of your partner's and in those times, we - being both women and men

Let's face it, we're all busy people. Between work and kids and driving around, there sometimes leaves little time for our partner. That's when we see the troubled times where the two once-madly-in-love partners begin to feel more like roommates than lovers. No one wants that to happen and like anything, our partnership needs our time, attention and, love. I, myself am not a "lovey" person. I don't naturally say the words all the time and lately, I have been kind of off the extra cuddle attention. I have a bit of an excuse being in the first trimester of pregnancy and sick all the time, but the truth is, that extra strain on me puts an extra strain on my marriage. Even though I am busy, preoccupied with my hard-to-manage pregnancy symptoms and still not really comfortable with saying those three words (you know, "I love you"), there are ways I can make sure my partner knows how I feel. They say that actions speak louder than words and I am true believer in that statement. When it comes

Evolutionary psychologists tell us that women (and I'm talking cavewomen here) were originally monogamous out of necessity. Females have a limited number of eggs, so their time and resources had to be devoted any children they managed to have in order to, you know, continue the human race. Therefore, they needed to be choosy about procreation partners. Men, on the other hand, have an unlimited supply of sperm, so they want to spread their seed as much as possible to pass their genes on to many members of the next generation.

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But what if this long-believed gender dichotomy isn't true? In his new book, What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire, Daniel Bergne topples society's ingrained notions that women crave intimacy, monogamy, and emotional connections and are passive in their pursuit of sex. In fact, several studies "are beginning to hint that female eros isn't in the least programmed for

By QuickieChick Laurel House

12 Ways to Drive Your Partner Into Someone Else's Arms… (And How-to AVOID it!)
Is he cheating?1. Don't be so insecure
2. Don't point out and bring attention to your flaws
3. Don't point out and bring attention to someone who you think is "better" for them
4. Don't be a cold fish
5. Don't use intimacy as a tool against them- only letting them touch you if they "deserve" to
6. Don't be so needy- like jello, if you squeeze too hard they could slip through your fingers
7. Don't constantly question them, ask them if they are cheating, what they did last night, or look in their phone. If you make them feel like they have something to hide, they might feel like they should start hiding things.
8. Don't be such a nag
9. Be Confident
10. Flirt
11. Put some effort into it
12. Make them feel lucky to be with you (without telling them that they are lucky to be with you)

Laurel House

by Gena Kaufman


photo by William ConnorsIn case you still have lingering doubts about online dating, here's yet another reason to get over it.

A study of 19,131 American couples who married between 2005 and 2012 found that more than a third of them met online, and those couples tend to be happier in their relationships. And lest you think they're just overcompensating to prove meeting online totally works, you guys, I swear, not only did couples who met on the Internet report higher rates of satisfaction, they also were actually less likely to separate or divorce.

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A few interesting tidbits:

* Of the one-third of couples who met online, only 45 percent actually met on dating sites. The others met through social networks (21 percent) and a combination of other online communities like gaming sites, chat rooms, and discussion groups.

* Divorce rates for this study, by the way, were nowhere near the 50 percent you hear people claiming. For couples who met "the

This month marks the arrival of summer. While the allure of summer might not be what it was back when we were school-aged and anxiously awaiting the bell to ring on the last day of school, summer can still be a season filled with fun and excitement. During the summer months the days are hot but they also last even longer, giving you plenty of time to squeeze in fun activities for two before sunset even during the work week (if you can arrange child care). Summer nights are often some of the most beautiful nights of the year and are perfect for evening strolls and embarking on new adventures. Although it is likely you will spend most of the summer engaging in family activities and keeping your little ones busy and entertained, be sure to make an effort to have some fun with your own "summer love." Click through for 7 sweet and sexy summer date ideas! -By Krishann Briscoe

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By now, Game of Thrones' cultural influence is as wide-reaching as the great continent of Westeros itself. There's an official cookbook. SNL hilariously spoofed the show's fans. And now, we've stumbled upon an ingenious save the date from Vancouver couple Aaron and Liz, who, if it even needs mentioning, read all George R. R. Martin's books and watch the HBO show faithfully.
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Instead of sending word of their August wedding via raven, Aaron, a video editor, and his bride-to-be Liz picked scenes from the show and spliced them together to deliver their big-day deets. (They didn't even need to dub names-there really are characters whose names sound like Aaron and Liz on GoT.) "Most of our friends went crazy for it; others accused us of being terrible nerds," the couple wrote to us in an email. "In all cases, mission accomplished." Now for the million-Golden-Dragon-coin question: Will their backyard nuptials be GoT-themed? "While that would

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1. April and Andy, "Parks and Recreation"

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He's a lovable oaf, who loves everyone and is always up to help (though… you may just want to do it yourself). She's a sharp-as-tacks sarcastic lady whose complete disinterest in anything is astounding. But there is one thing April Ludgate is interested in - her husband, Andy Dwyer. You know that saying, "Opposites attract?" These two balance each other out in perfect harmony, and to extremely funny results. But there's also something pure and genuine about their relationship. Two peas in a weirdly shaped pod.

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2. Jenna and Paul, "30 Rock"

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She's the famous Jenna Maroney, and he's a well-known Jenna Maroney impersonator. What they have most in common is their intense love of Jenna Maroney. But they also both love unimaginably kinky sex, playing mind games with people, and all things alt culture. Basically, if anyone is going to those clubs that Stefon