Odyssey of Marriage
- Reader S Digest Magazine | Odyssey of Marriage | Mon, May 14, 2012 10:28 AM EDT | CommentsDon't go from lovey dovey to angry birds: Here's your guide to a having a long, happy marriage right from the start.
What to watch for: When University of Oklahoma researchers studied newlyweds, they found that expressions of love and affection between a wife and husband drop by half in the first two years of marriage, and researchers find that most couples experience a significant drop in happiness about 18 months after the wedding. Perhaps that's the reason why national divorce statistics show that most marital splits occur in the first five years-and that couples married for about three years are especially vulnerable. This early, important stage can seem scary, marriage experts say, because we see our own shortcomings reflected in our spouses' actions now, just as we saw our own sterling qualities reflected in our partners before. Now: It's time to make love happen instead of waiting for it to happen to you.
1. Uncover your hidden marriage expectations. We all come into marriag...Read More »
- Good Housekeeping | Odyssey of Marriage | Mon, May 14, 2012 3:05 PM EDT | CommentsThanks to the best-selling erotic novel "50 Shades of Grey," women around the country are doing more than just turning the book's pages - they're looking to turn the heat up in their bedrooms, as well. Whether you're taking inspiration from E.L. James's titillating trilogy or just feeling a little bit frisky, a lukewarm sex life can easily be a complaint of the past. With just a little bit of effort and an open, positive attitude, you can take your sex life to a whole new level.
Spice Up Your Relationship
1. Say Farewell to the Flat-Screen
It's time to take the television off the wall and out of your bedroom so you and your partner can be each other's primetime entertainment. Rather than zoning out to the latest reality show, de-stress with your spouse by offering him a massage or simply lighting a candle and trying to unwind in bed without outside distractions. You'll be surprised what of night focusing on each other can lead to.
2. Send a Not-So-Subtle Message Sending racy text messages (otherwise known as "...Read More »
- Bridal Guide | Odyssey of Marriage | Mon, May 7, 2012 1:25 PM EDT | Comments
Finally, alone at last! Top experts offer their best tips for keeping your relationship hot and exciting long after the honeymoon!
One of the fabulous things about marrying your soul mate is experiencing a unique connection and level of familiarity. But when things are too comfortable in the bedroom, it can cause problems. "Before you're married, your sex life has little competition in your relationship," explains Debra Macleod, coauthor of Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex. "But after you're married, sex has to compete with conflicting schedules, money concerns, in-laws and eventually children. It takes a toll on your sex life, especially when compounded by the increase in sexual familiarity and the decrease in honeymoon hormones flowing through your veins!"
Though it's important to recognize that your love life will change over time, there's a lot you can do to maintain that spark. Here, tips for keeping things hot long past the honeymoon.
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- Bridal Guide | Odyssey of Marriage | Tue, May 1, 2012 9:33 AM EDT | Comments
For many brides, the transition from "I" to "we" doesn't come naturally. So we consulted the experts for ways to steady yourself as you make the leap. Their advice: See your engagement period as a "trial run" for adjusting to your new status.
Of course, becoming a "Mrs." doesn't mean you will abandon your independence completely. You will still be an individual, with your own career, interests and relationships. But in your new role as a partner in marriage, your husband's needs and desires will factor into almost everything you do. Part of building a successful marriage is recognizing, appreciating and embracing this new role without losing touch with the single woman you were before. It's a balancing act.
Here, 5 ways to have a happy marriage without losing yourself.
Prepare to Share
"The first step in all of this is beginning to feel married," says Judith Coché, Ph.D., a marriage and family therapist and director of The Coché Center in Philadelphia. And that doesn&...Read More »
- Redbook | Odyssey of Marriage | Wed, May 2, 2012 10:16 AM EDT | Comments
By Elizabeth Weil, REDBOOK
Here, tips for how to save a marriage and avoid divorce from 13 extraordinary people who believe in doing whatever it takes to sustain the biggest love of your life.
Whatever it takes...Read More »
There you are, trucking along in your life, your marriage. Maybe you're six months out from the altar, or two years, or 12, or 20. Your husband is unaccountably late coming home from work again. Or he's distant or cranky again. Or, as in my case, he leaves his rancid gym clothes on the clean bedspread again. Or he butchers an entire pig in your kitchen again (yes! He's taken the whole know-where-your-meat-comes-from thing to the extreme). And you think, no matter how happy or in love you felt just yesterday, Good grief, wouldn't all this be easier without YOU? Marriage is long and hard. It's no picnic, yet at times it feels like a joke: Millions of us are trying to move - and grow, and breathe - while shackled to another person, as if in a three-legged race.