- BabyZone | Parenting – Tue, Oct 29, 2013 1:18 PM EDTWhen it comes to all things babymaking, pregnancy and parenting, everyone around us is an expert. They offer unsolicited comments and advice in an attempt to "fix" whatever you are struggling with at the time. Most people are coming from a good place while others have lost their brain-to-mouth filter or have forgotten what's appropriate dinner conversation. Despite my own infertility issues, I'm guilty of having said a couple of these things to other women because I didn't know where they were coming from. But I know now what it's like to burst into tears when someone asks why you aren't pregnant yet. Click through to find out the 7 things you shouldn't say to someone being treated for infertility.- By Darcy Zalewski Read More »from 7 Things NOT to Say to a Woman Undergoing Infertility Treatments
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Oct 29, 2013 1:07 PM EDTHoughBlonde, fair-skinned actress Julianne Hough wore dark makeup as part of a Halloween costume this weekend, apparently blithely oblivious to the history of blackface in America.
Ms. Hough and a group of friends went to a Halloween party as the racially diverse cast of the Netflix show Orange Is the New Black, which takes place in a women's prison. Although none of the other people in her group altered their skin tone, Ms. Hough seems to have applied a heaping helping of dark bronzer in an attempt to look more like actress Uzo Aduba, who plays the character of Suzanne "Crazy Eyes" Warren.
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In response to harsh, immediate criticism, Ms. Hough tweeted an apology:
"I am a huge fan of the show Orange is the New Black, actress Uzo Aduba, and the character she has created. It certainly was never my intention to be disrespectful or demeaning to anyone in any way. I realize my costume hurt and offended people and I truly apologize."
- leaky gutEvery year, there are a few buzzwords that float around the health world like fire spreading through a forest during a drought. This year, those hot topic words unofficially seem to be "Paleo," "probiotic," "CrossFit," and "leaky gut."
It's weird to have a favorite of these trendy terms, but I do: it's leaky gut. Why is it my favorite? Because it looks past one type of food or diet and has nothing to do with weight or shape. It's about how what you eat can affect your health in ways you'd never imagine.
The more accurate term for describing a leaky gut is "intestinal hyperpermeability" or "increased intestinal permeability." Let me give you a little background without trying to bore you. Our gut, or intestines, isn't just a solid tube that carries digested food from our stomachs out of our body; it's porous, meaning extremely small particles can cross the barrier from inside the intestine to outside. These small objects end up in our blood and are then carried to other parts ofRead More »from New Study Links Stomach Problems to Depression
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Oct 29, 2013 11:12 AM EDT
These days, we give a lot of lip service to the idea of being a "good-enough" mom. But sometimes, even when we know we SHOULD feel okay with blowing off the housework for one evening or saying "not today, honey" to our child's 146th request to play Candy Land… deep down we often feel like we're failing.
Now that I have the benefit of almost 16 years of parenting hindsight, I can clearly recognize 8 incorrect, limiting beliefs I secretly held on to for years…that did nothing but hold me back:
1. "I can't spend money on myself."
Several years ago I noticed a strange pattern in our family spending. When we'd create a budget that included spending money for both my husband and myself, he'd spend his on, well, himself. I, on the other hand, would wind up using a big chunk of my stash on kids' clothes, activities and art supplies (that they already had plenty of anyway.)
Why? I guess I just felt strange about having money set aside just for me to blow, and I tried to dampen myRead More »from 8 Things Moms Secretly Believe that Hold Them Back
If I had a nickel for every mother that emailed me saying, "Hey, I get you! I'm like you! I'm a better mother because I'm a working mother!" I'd no longer need to be a working mother. It's a phrase I'm all too familiar with, one that comes up in conversations in play groups and social circles and dinners with friends more often than I'd care to admit. And I often nod my head in agreement, because I get it. I truly do. We need creative outlets, and for a lot of us (the lucky ones), those creative outlets are wrapped up in our day jobs. We love what we do, and we're blessed to have the opportunity to do it. But here's the truth:
I am not a better mother because I'm a working mother. Yes, there are days where I feel lucky to be in the flow of work and life and parenting. Where I arrive home from writing at my local coffee shop at a decent hour and I manage to get a quick dinner prepped before it's bath and story and bed time. And then there are the rest of the days.
The days whereRead More »from Having a Job Does NOT Make Me a Better Mother
I regularly date my children, which is to say I go out socially with them in public with the sole intent of spending time with them. The dating I refer to is not to be confused with courting, charming or wooing - the dating I refer to is lady dating. Girl stuff. Shopping. Treats with whipped cream. Boy talk. So let's say you wanted to take my 2-year-old daughter Vivi out, socially. You thought it might be fun to hang out with a toddler for the day, and I don't blame you! Having a toddler around can be loads of fun, assuming you know the rules. Every toddler will be set off by different things; the key is to knowing what those different things are so you can either avoid or placate them before they go DEFCON 1 right before your very eyes in the checkout aisle at Target. While I can't promise you that knowing the following rules for dating Vivi will prevent all meltdowns, I can at least say, "I told you so," in complete confidence when and if you break one of the rules and send ViviRead More »from 7 "Mom Rules" for Dating My 2-Year-Old Daughter
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, Oct 29, 2013 11:04 AM EDT
Dude, the Pink Helmet Posse is like totally rad, like totally gnarly awesome. Yes, I regressed to Cali-speak - it's hard not to when talking about skateboarding. But what I said in my slang-laden first sentence is totally true, especially when talking about the three 6-year-old girls who go by the name Pink Helmet Posse.
Relz Murphy, Sierra Kerr, and Bella Kenworthy don hot pink helmets, fuzzy knee socks, and occasionally pink tutus when they hit the skate parks. And while they may be adorable, they are also inspirational and - hopefully - influencing other young girls to grab a board and go riding in a sport that's been male dominated for decades. And they are making quite the impact: they have a logo, a popular Instagram account, and even a website. Oh, and they can totally shred.
"We know it can be intimidating," the Pink Helmet Posse write on the site, "but we're here to show you that skateboarding is not just for boys." And it's just not an act, they can really ride.
- .We all think we're going to be a certain type of mother and then we have kids and reality hits hard and our ideal versions of ourselves go out the window. In my case, they went out of the window of my very messy car.
Embarrassing confession: More often than not, my car looks like a cross between a school's lost and found, a recycling bin and the land of misfit toys…with crumbs sprinkled on top. My kids and I affectionately refer to it as "the junk bus." (My husband, a neat-car freak, does not think this is funny.) I mean the car itself is nice enough—a spacious 2008 SUV—but the inside is, well…. Before I wrote this post, I took inventory of what was floating around in there: Alex's baseball glove, a soccer ball, dirty socks (his and hers), a few dollar bills, a few school projects, half-opened junk mail, a pumpkin, a baby doll, one of those Hallmark stuffed, singing snowmen things that my three-year-old daughter found in our garage (I love Christmas so hearing her lispy rendition ofRead More »from My Most Embarrassing Mom Trait
There are plenty of not-so-fun aspects of pregnancy: Morning sickness, swollen feet, weight gain. And then there's the dreaded "tummy rub," a common gesture from a well-meaning friend, family member, or co-worker who just can’t resist rubbing the woman's stomach. One expectant mother in Pennsylvania is standing up to unwanted rubs by charging a man with harassment after he touched her stomach without consent.Read More »from Pregnant Woman Files Charges Over Belly Rubbing
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A representative from the Pennsylvania State Police tells Yahoo Shine that earlier this month, 57-year-old Richard J. Beishline visited his neighbor, a 30-year-old pregnant woman named Michelle Troutman in Frankfort, Pennsylvania. According to the police report, after giving Troutman a hug, Beishline said, “I just want to be friends” and rubbed her stomach. Troutman pushed him away, and he quickly left. She has since filed harassment charges against Beishline, and if he pleads guilty, he’ll pay a fine determined by a
- As it happens, bad bosses and babies share a lot of the same traits. Here are some ways that babies could be compared to that tyrannical, nightmare of a boss. -By Andrea Wada Davies Read More »from How Your Baby is like the Worst Boss Ever
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