Real dads dish on what had them scared out of their minds before baby arrived.
By Erin van Vuuren for TheBump.com
Jupiter Images / The BumpEven if your guy is super-pumped to be a Dad, chances are he's a little freaked out too. Here are a few of the biggest new-daddy fears (and some things you both can do to ease the pressure).
FEAR #1: "Will I do everything right?" --Andrew
MOM TIP: Let him know that it's okay to be clueless. "Any father can care for his child," says psychotherapist Tammy Gold, founder of Gold Parent Coaching. If he doesn't know how something works, help him learn and then back off to give him a shot. Practice makes perfect.
FEAR #2: "I fear not being able to properly provide for my family once baby is here." --Brian
COUPLE TIP: Do your homework to get a feel for what you'll really need to spend. "You can get a rough enough estimate," says Gold. "Then make a baby budget -- no different than how you'd make a house budget." Having a written game plan can relieve some serious stress.
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- TheBump.com | Parenting – Tue, May 21, 2013 4:45 PM EDT
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Shutterstock / The BumpThe latest study to come from the journal Breastfeeding Medicine found that children with children who breastfeed for shorter durations may be more likely to have ADHD.
Researchers at Schneider's Children Medical Center studied over 50 children (age 6-12) who had been diagnosed with ADHD between 2008 and 2009. These children were compared to two control groups: the first consisted of healthy (non-ADHD) siblings of ADHD children and the second control group was composed of children of similar ages without ADHD. Researchers also presented a questionnaire to both parents of children in all three groups that addressed: demographic, medical and perinatal findings, as well as feeding history during their child's first year of life. Parents were also given a validated adult ADHD screening questionnaire.
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From cutting back on caffeine to putting the kabosh on workouts, find out what's fact and what's fiction.Read More »from 9 Pregnancy Myths Busted
By Alonna Friedman for TheBump.com
Thinkstock / The BumpDon't do this. Don't do that. With all the pregnancy "advice" out there, it's hard to know what to believe -- or whom to believe. But remember, every pregnancy is different, so follow your doctor's orders above anything else.
Myth 1: Eat three healthy meals a day
False! You should be eating six or seven small meals (every two to three hours). "Eating frequently and from various food groups will keep your blood sugar in a constant range, which is healthy for you and your baby," says Stuart Fischbein, M.D., coauthor of Fearless Pregnancy.Don't obsess about food and don't diet. What was good for you pre-pregnancy is good for you now. And yes, that includes an ice cream sundae with butterscotch sauce if you so desire.
Myth 2: Decaf only
False! One small cup of coffee a day is perfectly fine. While a recent study at McGill University in Montreal did
- Elise Solé, Shine Staff | Parenting – Tue, May 21, 2013 3:10 PM EDT
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“When I received the email, I was confused because just a few weeks ago, Kaylee had received an award from her principal for stopping a bullying incident at school,” Olsen told Yahoo! Shine. “I confronted Kaylee who explained that she had called another girl ‘sleazy’ for wearing Daisy Duke shorts and a tank top. We’ve taught Kaylee to dress conservatively but never expected her to
- Disney Baby | Parenting – Tue, May 21, 2013 2:11 PM EDT
10 reasons I'm thankful for breastfeeding.
I often get asked why I breastfeed. Each time I'm asked, I reply, "It's the best thing I've ever done." Because it is. It's also one of the hardest things I've ever done. I breastfed my first baby until she was 8 months old. When I became pregnant with my second, I made a promise to myself and my baby that I would do everything I could to breastfeed for at least a year. With much persistence, hard work, and support from family and friends, that date has since come and gone. (Fist pumps!!!) At 13 months old, Ingrid is still going strong. I'm sure she'd gladly nurse until she leaves for college, but I've got weaning on the mind. I know that sometime in the next year, our breastfeeding relationship will come to a close. When I think about all that breastfeeding has given my daughter and me, I become full of gratitude. Here's why…1. I Have a Happy Baby
Nursing makes Ingrid such a happy baby. She finds complete satisfaction when she's eating from her mama…2. I Get Quiet Time
- Babble.com | Parenting – Tue, May 21, 2013 12:38 PM EDT
Some parents opt to not find out the sex of their baby until the big day. If you're among this group of parents-to-be and you're planning a baby shower, you'll want to set the tone with the invitations. Heck, maybe you know that you're having a boy but don't want to overdo the blue! Gender neutral is a great way to go for many reasons! So check out these 7 awesome gender neutral baby shower invitations from Etsy. I'm tempted to order them all…
-By Aela Mass
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I used to be a big NBA fan. I grew up in Utah during the era of John Stockton and Karl Malone. Those two sports figures were always elevated figures that I looked up to. Neither ever rose to the level of John Elway in my mind, however, but they were the two sports icons that fell right behind John Elway.
I looked up to John Stockton and Karl Malone not as people, but as basketball players, and I modeled how I played basketball after how they played the sport. Hours were spent out in the front driveway practicing my passing to match John Stockton's passing and my low post moves to match Karl Malone's low post moves.
Modeling my football playing after John Elway wasn't realistic, but I always looked up to him, and I even shed a few tears when he won his first Super Bowl. Watching him retire from the Denver Broncos was very surreal for me. I had never known the Denver Broncos without John Elway, and in my mind he should be Denver's quarterback until the day I died.
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gay teensWe can talk about supporting marriage equality and gay acceptance all we want, but LGBT teens still struggle with all sorts of bullying, homelessness and other issues related to oppression. Even legal issues. A Florida crisis case right now illustrates the precariousness of being an LGBT teen in a frightening way.
A high school student is facing felony charges because on her 18th birthday the parents of her girlfriend decided to legally harass her. I don't understand why law enforcement is assisting this, because if Kaitlyn were an 18-year-old boy they wouldn't be involved. In Florida, typically legal action about consensual relationships between teens would only be pursued if the one person is 24-years-old or older.Read More »from Is it Illegal to Be a Gay Teen in Florida?
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It seems clear that Kaitlyn is in trouble because she's gay. There is a window of time where she has already turned 18 and before her girlfriend turns 16, and carefully timed prosecution is
- Beth Greenfield, Shine Staff | Parenting – Mon, May 20, 2013 5:57 PM EDT
Cozy Belly touting its “pregnancy shapewear,” reminding me that it is, in fact, a thing.Ah, to be pregnant and gorging again… I don’t know about other women out there, but personally, I loved using those nine months as a reason to eat two (or three) desserts without guilt and, finally, to unequivocally love every inch of my body. So it made me totally sad this morning when I received a press release from Read More »from Pregnancy Shapewear: The Baby Bump Girdle No One Asked For
But really, why?
I tried to block out word of the depressing trend when Kim Kardashian blogged about her love of belly shapers recently. “For any concern that my clothes are too tight, I have so many pieces custom fit for my growing body! They make pregnancy Spanx which are tight,” she wrote. “So this theory sounds ridiculous! I feel my best when I am in heels and chic clothes!”
But then came the clincher, so to speak, from Cozy Belly:
"For pregnant women who want to gain a little extra control over the shape of their body, we offer pregnancy shapewear. If you want to cover up some of
- Disney Baby | Parenting – Mon, May 20, 2013 4:34 PM EDT
Daddy's girlMy oldest daughter, Adair, is a daddy's girl. I used to think it was just a phase because when her baby sister was born, she spent lots of extra time with her daddy. But now, her sister is a toddler, and it's clearly not a phase. Addie is a daddy's girl to her core. Some days, this makes me a bit sad. I wish I was the one she wanted to comfort her when she was scared or hurt. I wish I was the one she preferred to read her books. Instead, it's her daddy. Always. Some days though, it's pretty cool to see their bond. The way they love each other, the way they "get" each other - it's pretty rare.Read More »from She Prefers Daddy Over Me (and 9 Reasons Why I'm OK with It)
Here's why I'm OK with my daughter being a daddy's girl:
Phil has a big heart for adventure. He spends nearly all of his free time exploring the woods, working in the garden, and dreaming about backpacking trips for the whole family. From a young age, he started taking Addie to explore the wilderness and now, it's her favorite place to be!
Phil has always
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