Unfortunately people don't grow out of temper tantrums the way they do shoes or car seats. Here's how to defuse a fit of rage, whether the person throwing it is 5 or 45.
By Elizabeth Passarella
Article originally appeared on RealSimple.com.
Luke PearsonIf you have a child, you have at some point peeled his red-faced self off the floor of the baking aisle because you told him no, you're not buying sprinkles for dinner. (Was he still wearing pants when you exited the store? Congratulations.) "Tantrums are common from ages one to four because kids become frustrated when they can't get what they want," says Robert G. Harrington, a professor of psychology at the University of Kansas who specializes in child development, behavior management, and parent education. "Younger kids may also lack the language skills to voice that frustration." Since a two-year-old doesn't know how to tell you exactly where to stick that gummy worm you aren't handing over, he loses it.
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Let’s be honest, given the choice, most high school kids would choose school lunches over homemade lunches. But not David Laferriere’s kids Evan, 15, and Kenny, 14, because they’d miss out on their dad’s hand-drawn surprise lunch bags!
“I’ve been doing it for my kids since they were little,” the graphics designer, known as D Laferriere on Flickr, tells us in the accompanying video. “They love it and nothing makes me happier than hearing their reaction at the end of the day.”
David started making these decorative lunch bags back in May 2008. It all came about one morning in an attempt to do something special for his boys.
“It was just a way to have fun with the kids,” David says. “And also start my creative juices before work. I had already been making their lunches and I experimented with a few things.”
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Time-Management Apps for KidsBy Betsy Bozdech, Common Sense Media editor
Gnashing my teeth the other day after yet another frustrating morning of badgering/begging my 3-year-old to get dressed/go potty/put on her shoes so we could get out the door even close to on time, I found myself thinking that there had to be a better way. What I needed was something that she found more compelling than making faces at herself in the mirror -- or the hundred other ways she finds to dawdle every day.
Enter the iPhone. My daughter loves any excuse to use my phone or tablet, and I'd heard about morning routine apps, so I started poking around. I found a few likely looking options in the App Store, but before I laid out any cash, I wanted to see whether the idea would actually work. So I used an app I already had called AnyList, which my husband and I use to share our weekly grocery shopping roster. I set up a new list just for her that includes all of her morning to-dos, like "Eat breakfast," "Wash hands and face,"Read More »from 7 Apps to Help Your Kid Be More Responsible
mealtimes for many families may actually be harming your kids. A new study has found that urging your kids to join the "clean plate club" by finishing all the food on their plates can prevent them from learning healthy eating habits.A routine part of
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Photo credit: DCLQuestion from a "19 Kids and Counting" fan: What was your biggest challenge when you became a mother with your first few babies?
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“I’m objecting to the fact that government can come in and change the rules without asking parents. That’s an abuse of authority,” parent Charlotte Nijenhuis told the Courier News Monday about the ban, instituted by principal Sharon Moffat at Readington Middle School and backed by superintendent Barbara Sargent.
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I'm pregnant...now what?!It's an exciting announcement no matter when in your pregnancy you make it! But even just finding out for yourself can bring on anxiety and an overwhelming feeling of not knowing what to do first or where to start! Here are 10 things I think every woman should do when she finds out she's pregnant, based on my own (somewhat comical) experience…Read More »from I'm Pregnant...Now What?! 10 Important Things to Do when You're Expecting
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Do you love being out in nature? Do you find yourself drawn to epic movies of heroes and adventure? Are you planning on having a baby boy? If so, then one of these 20 wild baby boy names inspired by adventure and all thing "boy" might be just the name for you! Click through for the most manly, bold, and adventurous names I could round up! By Becka Robinson
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After the birth of your first, once the coos, oohs, and ahhs have stopped, well-wishers give you the third degree about feeding, sleeping, and childcare. Often, I've found, these questions come loaded. People aren't simply asking out of curiosity - because who cares whether your child is feeding from the breast or the bottle or some combination of the two, or how much the baby's eating, and how often? Rather, they're sussing out whether you're doing things the "right" way or not, whether you're part of the same club they decided to join. "Good for you, I breast fed too…." Or, "Oh, bottles, really…."
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webBy Rakhi Kumar
Dear Michelle Obama,
I'm addressing this to you because I admire you. Because you're smart and a mum to two young girls. And you're the First Lady of the USA. And because you were recently quoted as saying that Beyonce is a great 'role model' to your two daughters, and because you recently tweeted, after the Superbowl, that you were 'so proud' of her. I'm writing because everything you do is admired and emulated by so many; but when you endorse a recording artist like Beyonce, I see the most misogynistic aspects of the music industry (that prefers girls to be no more complex than dolls) interpret your comments as a seal of approval for the thoughtless cultural currency that they flood the youth market with. I'm writing because I think it's time to stop suggesting to very young girls that ultimate feminine success - in the music industry or anywhere else - comes with the need, or the expectation for them to undress.
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