When Alyssa Genshaft gets an email alert from the private online group to which she belongs, asking her and others to greet a new member, there are no exclamation marks implying celebratory hugs, virtual high-fives, or symbolic welcome wagons. A new member means another infant or very young child has died, and his or her disoriented, devastated, and destroyed parent is looking for something -- anything -- in the way of an explanation or just some emotional support from others who have unfortunately been in the exact same position.
Alyssa's youngest child, 17-month-old Max, was found dead in his crib on Jan. 18, 2013 by her husband, Ben. Max wasn't sick. There was nothing wrong with him on the evening of Jan. 17. He cheerfully bathed with his two older siblings, chatted animatedly on Skype with his cousins in Ohio, and blissfully snuggled with Alyssa as she read and sang to him in the rocking chair in his room before she kissed him softly and laid him down to sleep for the night.Read More »from SUDC: What Parents Need to Know About the Lesser-Known Cousin of SIDS