Not too long ago I was in a committed relationship with a great guy. However, he wanted to be a bigger part of my life than I was really hoping for, and we ended up breaking up because of it. I'm nineteen, in college, and figuring my own life out. I know a booty call isn't for me, yet neither is full blown let's-be-together-always relationship. At the end of the day I don't want a boyfriend, but I don't want to give up intimacy altogether.
When I told this to my ex he said that people don't have relationships like that, and later all of my girlfriends concurred. Can I have a casual intimate relationship while remaining independent? Is there even such a thing as a zero-calories relationship? And how can I tell a guy that this is what I want?
- Free(ish) Bird
First of all, we think your ex was seriously over-defining the term boyfriend. The whole let's-be-together-always is for fiances and spouses. Sure, we understand that some people find it depressing to be in a serious long-term relationship if they know it's going to end at some point. But that's your boyfriend's problem for pushing the issue. Nobody should have to decide at age 19 what they're going to do or who they're going to be with for the rest of their life. Of course you were going to push him away. We'd have slapped you around like Cher in Moonstruck if you'd even considered making a permanent relationship decision at your age.Read More »from Is There a Happy Medium Between Boyfriend and Booty Call?