My son is having social development problems. He gets frustrated easily and then lashes out physically or screams. He's bossy and has a temper. At school, his teachers find him anxious and so shy around other kids that he barely talks to them, though he chatters to grown-ups with ease. They recognize that he's a nice kid deep down, and obviously smart, but he's having trouble connecting with his classmates and has begun getting into altercations when not supervised.
I'm trying to change this situation, but everything I do seems to be wrong. If I don't talk with him about his behavior at school, then it feels like I'm doing nothing to help him and that I'm avoiding the problem. And yet when I raise the subject in a gentle, reassuring way, Felix becomes uncomfortable and resistant. He's only four years old and has yet to work out how to articulate his feelings or understand the connection between his emotions and his actions. If I insist on discussing his problems in school, FelixRead More »from Where Do Our Kids’ Personalities Come From?