There have been many people telling me lately that there's someone they can't get off their mind and they're tired of it. While some of them were referring to an ex or someone they were casually dating, for others it was someone they were interested in that they just never dated for one reason or another. One of the most frustrating things when it comes to the heart is that its matters are often complicated. We've all been in the situation where there was someone we couldn't get out of our head, and while it might seem impossible, there are several ways to make it happen.
Fill up your dating calendar
One of the best ways to get your mind off one person is to redirect your focus. Some have a bad habit of shutting other potential guys out as soon as they become interested in one. Rather than put all your attention on the one person you can't forget, fill up your calendar by scheduling dates with other guys who caught your interest.
Stop playing the "what if" game
Don't ruin your mindset by playing the "what if" game especially when it comes to an ex. It can make you doubt yourself and your decisions and could lead you to make the wrong choices. Playing this dangerous game is going to do nothing but cause you to be annoyed and frustrated. Every time you start, switch your mindset and tell yourself that everything already happened and there's no changing it.
One of the most difficult things you have to do when it comes to trying to get your mind off someone is to be realistic about where you stand. Ask yourself the hard questions including why the two of you aren't together and how he really feels about you and you about him. It's not easy; in some cases it's a hard truth to face, but it's necessary in order to get the guy out of your head.
Keep the bad in mind
It may seem awful to focus on the bad that happened between the two of you rather than the good, but sometimes it's the only way to get your mind off the guy especially when it comes to one you had an established relationship with. Unfortunately when you focus on the good more than the bad, it can keep him on your mind longer and convince you that he should be in your life. Remind yourself why the two of you aren't together and the reality will likely clear your head sooner than later.
Get a second opinion
We're responsible for our own decisions, but sometimes we need a second opinion to help us to make one. Ask a trusted loved one what they think you should do. If possible, ask someone who doesn't know the guy. It's often that we already know the answer and don't want to admit it to ourselves, but a second opinion can help us come to the realization.
It's not easy to get someone off your mind and it's likely going to take some work before it happens. It can cause quite a bit of heartache and sleepless nights, especially if you genuinely like the guy. However, the more effort you put in to making it happen, the sooner you won't have to worry about it anymore and you can focus your mind - and heart - on better things.
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