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Do you dress "your age"?

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Did anyone see Meryl Streep's amazing acceptance speech at Sunday night's SAG Awards? She was named Best Actress for Doubt and was so exuberant and joyful and seemed genuinely shocked over the win. So much so that she held out the sleeves of her blouse and pointed to her black trousers and said, "I didn't even buy a dress!"

Dress or no, I thought she looked incredible. She had her hair pulled up in a loose, low ponytail; was wearing subtle, pretty makeup; and had on elegant, dangly earrings and a pair of kick-ass heels. The overall effect was a great, classic, age-appropriate outfit.

And I couldn't help comparing her to another actress who attended the show. Susan Sarandon (who's 62, Streep is 59) was wearing a massively low-cut sleeveless gown. It showed tons of cleavage and also her arms, which are not what they once were. (I'm not knocking her, we all can relate to this. Even with working out, at 35, my biceps have begun to resemble grande burritos.) It made me start thinking about something I hate: Clothes look different on you as you get older and that difference is often not good. Now, of course, we should all wear whatever we're comfortable in—but what if what you're comfortable in is not the most flattering and actually makes you look bad and a little tacky? Do you want to know? Should you just say "Screw it. I like what I like, and that is the end of this thought"? I can't decide.
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I'd like to live in a dream world where none of this matters, where we can all continue to pull off miniskirts, tank tops, tube tops, and short shorts for all time. A world where I don't have to start buying support bras because my boobs are starting to fly south like some kind of flying south pancake bird. The style I—and many of us—grew up loving was showing off the best of what we had; Be it bare arms or long, smooth legs or (for that weird brief period of half-tops—yelp) a perfectly toned, tanned midriff. That was sexy when we were in our '20's. But, sadly, I think as we get older what's sexy changes. Not just for how our bodies look in things, but for our position in life as well. Sarandon brought her 19-year-old son as her date to the SAG's, and, God, I hate myself for saying this, but honestly, I might be uncomfortable if my mom was showing off so much of her breasts.

There are two sides to this, obviously. One could argue that Sarandon looks great and younger than her 62 years. That celebs like Goldie Hawn who dress in a youthful manner seem to be in a completely different age bracket than those who choose to cover up like Helen Mirren (Mirren and Hawn are both 63). 

But I think it's almost exciting to allow your wardrobe to evolve over the years and transition into new styles. Even since I've gotten married I've noticed subtle alterations in my look—not that I don't want to be sexy, but I no longer desire the overt sexy appearance I might have put on when I was single. And, also, some of what I used to wear now just makes me feel dumb. 
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I ask you: Have you changed your style as you've gotten older? Do you think there's a such thing as "dressing your age"?



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  • Emily's Avatar
    Posted by Emily Thu Jan 29, 2009 3:59pm PST

    I think you absolutely have to dress your age, but that doesn't mean you have to leave sexy behind. Personally, I feel that Goldie Hawn looks completely trashy in this pic, while Helen Mirren looks amazing - so fresh and youthful yet appropriate to a woman of her calibre. When a woman in her sixties shops in the juniors section, it's always a bad idea.

    While I agree with you about Susan Sarandon maybe making her son feel uncomfortable, I have a large chest, too, and I hope that when I'm 62 mine looks as good as hers.

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  • V.H's Avatar
    Posted by V.H Thu Jan 29, 2009 4:13pm PST

    My wardrobe has evolved as I have gotten older. I look sexier because I know what to cover and what to flaunt whereas when I was in my 20's I showed it all because I could and be damned what actually made me look good. Now I wear more tailored clothes that skim my body, rather than hip hugging teenie-bopper clothes. I show skin, but not gratitous amounts. But I also don't hide in dark colors. It is important to feel comfortable with the way you look but if you don't look appropriate (at any age) don't be suprised if someone points it out to you.

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  • Zeplin522's Avatar
    Posted by Zeplin522 Thu Jan 29, 2009 4:51pm PST

    And pray tell, just what does a 62 year old wear? We all age

    diffrently. I'm not wearing a sweatshirt with birdhouses on

    it cause I'm a certain age. And this is Hollywood people.

    A nip here, a tuck there and they have people do their makeup

    So who knows what they really look like. Goldie Hawn may look

    good for her age, but ya still dont dress like your in your 30's

    or 40's for that matter. I think people in Hollywood have their

    own set of rules. Famous or not when ya look crappy, ya look

    crappy!!!!

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  • G's Avatar
    Posted by G Thu Jan 29, 2009 5:32pm PST

    I think adding touches of youthful trends to classics is the way to go. By this I mean a great shoe,a piece of jewerly,a cute top thats not too flashy ect. I think wearing your hair stylish and make-up lighter and not over done goes a long way too. I think showing too much looks gross and does not make you look more youthful.

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  • Veronica's Avatar
    Posted by Veronica Thu Jan 29, 2009 6:37pm PST

    One of the marks of aging well is knowing that your power doesn't rest in the overt expression of your sexuality or in your attractiveness to the opposite sex but in your wisdom, experience, and ability to enjoy life.

    When you feel good about who you are, confident that you have something to offer the world other than cleavage, it shows.

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  • Authoress's Avatar
    Posted by Authoress Thu Jan 29, 2009 8:46pm PST

    Hi, well I am in my "young" years and I dress like I am a middle aged mom with no time to look good. Always big t-shirts and jeans of bermuda shorts. My mom, who is in her late 40's, dresses like I should. Tank tops with little hearts and butterflys and capris. She shops in the junior section, I shop in the women and mens section. Our styles are crossed! If you can pull it off, then go ahead. She can, but sometimes it's just too young for her. But dress how you are comfortable, but make sure that your not offending anyone. (Boobs hanging out, vains and cottage cheese on the legs.)

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  • tlnu's Avatar
    Posted by tlnu Thu Jan 29, 2009 9:12pm PST

    Dressing your age means not showing everything and being more modest. A lot of women don't realize that if you dress your age, you will look younger, hence Streep whose outfit was fabulous! Susan, we don't want to see all that! I don't like seeing it on women in their 20s either. If you dress with classic style (which doesn't mean old), you will look good no matter your age.

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  • Shelia's Avatar
    Posted by Shelia Thu Jan 29, 2009 11:02pm PST

    I think that age is just a number, how ever I!m 54 years old and to this day I haven!t a cue on what to wear, yes I have clothes running out of the closet but not to mention I have some wears of 100 pairs of shoes of all kind and 80 pairs of mis boots, hat purses, so how do I no what fashionable for me who is 54 years old.

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  • ace's Avatar
    Posted by ace Fri Jan 30, 2009 3:38am PST

    i am little torn with this piece...i feel like our bodies are in a particular form for one time that moment, day, year and so on...will one look back later if they were "susan" and say my breast were great and i was 62 and i did not appreciate them and show them off and feel sexy...i am only 33 and my breast do not look like that...if i had that i would celebrate my sexiness...just not in that dress...dilemma

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  • lost-n-lust's Avatar
    Posted by lost-n-lust Fri Jan 30, 2009 6:19am PST

    i think you blew over something there. you said that, "

    Even since I've gotten married I've noticed subtle alterations in my look..." we singles love the free-ness about our look. at 46, i can wear a t-shirt & jeans & people still don't believe my age. i have not migrated into the mom jeans, & doubt i ever will. yikes! as for goldie, she is f'n amazing! the dress works with her carefree, youthful hair cut. rock on sister, rock on!!! i got ur back... peace.

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