Long Beautiful Hair.....pfttttt!

I hate when they advertise products that promises you long luxurious hair. All they want is to make a profit out your misery. I hate when they advertise products that do not work. And guess who the idiot that buys these products is? Me. I know..... but you won't know if it works or not until you try it.
But I notice in the commercials how easy it is to style your hair and how fast it works and blah blah blah. Do you know how long it takes for me to achieve that level of smoothness and shine? TWO HOURS, and then five minutes later my hair poofs into its natural self.
Sure, you should embrace your hair for what it is and for what you got because some people do not have any to work with. I did embrace my kinky curls and let them wild and free to curl which ever way they want, they even poofed and frizzed and I had the audacity to smother them in all types of gels, creams and serums. For a while I tortured the poor b------ s to yield to a curling iron and the crazy heat of a straightening iron to change my hairstyle..... and it left me..... WITH LESS HAIR TO BEGIN WITH!
So, what I find is that everybody could say whatever they want about what's good for your hair, what's good for curly hair yadda yadda yadda and it will never apply to everyone. Maybe it will work for a while and then you notice more damage, less hair and more frizz.
My hair is very different. I have what you call biracial hair. It's not nappy but it's not curly. It's fine, thin, dry and super uber curly on top. I've been to salons and when they see my hair they want to relax it with harsh chemicals and put in hot rollers and have two stylists trying to tame the poofiness with sweat pouring down their faces and clearly giving up quickly. I did not let them do that. If I did I would be bald. When I was younger my mom use to cut my hair like a boy, really short almost like a buzz cut. She claims that I had just a few tuffs here and there on my scalp and she and only she made my hair grow to it's fullness. She relaxed my frizzy hair on the front with a soft chemical relaxer, the mild one and used Mirthas products to keep my hair soft and shiny. I remember the days.... ahhh the twenty minutes of smoothing my hair onto plastic curlers and the horrible hour under the hair dryer. But afterwards my hair was so nice! smooth and you could see my hair length, which at some point went past my shoulders and half way down my arm... the glory days. I was at some point going back to use the Mirthas products again but they do not work anymore, either they changed their formula or my hair has morphed into an uncontrollable frizz monster. Well, it is my fault, trying to change the hair color to make me look 'different' or to make me look more 'alive' or to 'change it up', yeeeaaahhh and seven hair dye jobs later I'm left looking the same but with a more pronounced frown on my face. I cut it short and grew back but it refuses to go past my shoulders.
I learned my lesson mom. My hair is not like everybody else. I have really nice caucasian hair at the bottom near my neck,and on the sides and crazy kinky curls on the front and middle. I get the nice hair from my mom and my crazy curls from my dad and although I appreciate what I have it becomes very frustrating when I walk out the door with my hair nice and smooth and straight to when I reach the train station and look at my reflection on the train doors to see the frizz monster looming at me. I know now that I have so far to go to regain control over my hair. So far, after my mom has treated my hair to the old school curlers and homemade treatments of egg and mayonnaise and an hour under the dryer my hair is looking almost fit again. I have not dyed my hair in four years and I do not plan on it ever. Although I do have a henna dye but for reporation purposes not for color, but it says brown but that's the color of my hair anyways. I am using the Aussie Moist line and only wash every three days. The frizz pops up now and again but instead of getting mad and grabbing at it and screaming 'why oh why?' at the top of my lungs every morning I realize I have so far to go and we'll get there frizz monster, we will achieve HEALTHY frizz free hair again.