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  Posted by Lori Thu May 1, 2008 8:13am PDT

  Sign me up for the "ridiculous" side of the argument. Cuddling is personal, a time to share unspoken understanding and closeness with someone, well, that you understand and want to be close with. The trend seems to constantly be moving towards anonymous and distance everything. Before long, we will be living out that whole scene from Demolition Man with Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone. What will be next? The three sea shells?

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  Posted by Chanel Thu May 1, 2008 8:22am PDT

  In my personal opinion that I am expressing and not subjecting to anyone else, this sounds like a gauche display of zealous self-indulgency.

  I’d give my boyfriend heck for cuddling some other beezy. Not because of any of that psychobabble ----- of “insecurity or jealousy” but because it is just plain inappropriate and embarrassing, does no one comprehend the idea of commitment anymore?

  You made your choice, to be with this one person, but want to cuddle this other one because you feel your not getting enough affection? Sounds like a personal problem to me. Kind of like bi-sexual people, they aren’t bad, but I see them as self-indulgent people, solely for the reason that they want it on both sides of the fence.

  So my answer to the original question… No, there isn’t anyone I'd want to cuddle other than my beau, (except of pets and cute ----- like that) I am a one man woman. Also, agree with Annette, cuddling just the word seems judicious enough, however I believe it’s the exact opposite: it is too intimate, to be doing with some random acquaintance.

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  Posted by april h Thu May 1, 2008 9:33am PDT

  nope there sure isn't the one i cuddle with is the one i love

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  Posted by PORKCHOP Thu May 1, 2008 9:46am PDT

  The guy I want to cuddle with is the same guy I wanna have sex with. my boyfriend Mike.

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  Posted by Notmai Rheelnaim Thu May 1, 2008 9:46am PDT

  Ugh. In response to Chanel's comment about bisexual people: Bisexuality is a hard-wired orientation, just like heterosexuality or homosexuality or asexuality. It's not all sunshine and rainbows and doing whoever you want. Its also persecution from both straights and gays who just don't stop and think. There have been multiple times when I would have gladly chosen straight orientation to make my life easier, but it doesn't work that way.

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  Posted by Chanel Thu May 1, 2008 10:25am PDT

  Regardless of whether such is hardwired or not, is irrelevant. Sticking to my original statement, I never mentioned anything about it being easy, relationships period are difficult whether you are two males/females, etc. does not make a difference. “It's not all sunshine and rainbows” your abulia between the two sexes fails to point out any inherency in my argument.

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  Posted by instrumentjamlord Thu May 1, 2008 10:40am PDT

  Look at all the responses here, where people can't tell the difference between cuddling and sex. Sheesh. What do you people do when your kids crawl into your lap for story time? If you know how non-sexual touch works when children are involved, why not with other adults?

  Admittedly, cuddling with complete strangers seems a little contrived, and in some way debases the touch because it's a bit impersonal. But I don't see anything wrong with lounging on the couch with a friend, giving a casual back rub, or other similar gestures.

  Do a little research into the beneficial properties of touch. Our culture is seriously touch-deprived, and it shows.

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  Posted by Chanel Thu May 1, 2008 11:02am PDT

  Instrumentaljamlord:

  "Erin's question on her post was whether or not these cuddle fests are cute or creepy." in direct reference to:"an increasingly-popular non-sexual slumber party where you and a bunch of folks who you may or may not know lay around snuggle each other."

  Mentions nothing about cuddling be wrong...

  In reference to our "seriously touch-deprived" culture, that is what your significant other (children, family, friends, pets, etc) is for, maybe one should be working on strengthening ones' own personal cuddled-deprived relationships before leaping into the arms of strangers/acquaintance/etc.

  Do a little more thorough reading next time.

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  Posted by you.know.you.love.me.xoxo Thu May 1, 2008 11:33am PDT

  I'd cuddle with a guy that i like but not some random guy lol. But yes sometimes i'd rather cuddle then well ya know... cuddling is fun and ya its personal, but a great way to feel closer and get to know that person.

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  Posted by Dee Thu May 1, 2008 12:11pm PDT

  I can't think of anything more pathetic than a group of unfulfilled individuals who want to hang out and cuddle with some strangers...

  I don't think this is a trend...Are you sure this wasn't made up by some man in your office who just wants to feel around on random women?

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