Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Question of the day: Do you tell the truth about your sexual history?

Dating someone new is super exciting -- a whole new person to get to know who has a whole new set of likes, dislikes, interests, and experiences. And then there's the whole dating history thing. Sometimes that part of the conversation can get a little rough, since no one really loves to hear about the exes.

But there is one reason to bring up that somewhat difficult conversation. You really don't want to be surprised by any problems that could've been passed on to your new special someone by a former special someone. That's the topic of Love + Sex editor Erin Flaherty's recent story, "Do you tell the world (or your partner) about your STD?"

The fear, of course, is that your new love interest isn't telling you everything you need to know. And they may be worried that you aren't either. (All the more reason to practice safe sex, girls.)

So, my question to you ladies is this: Is it or was it important to you to be honest and upfront about your sexual history? Or do you hold off on sharing too much information before getting to know someone better? And more importantly, if you have an STD, how do you reveal that part of your history?

Tell us in the comments below, and if you really have some kiss-and-tell secrets to divulge, maybe even go blog it!
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    Posted by Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:00am PDT

    I don't think a new relationship warrents full disclosure. I talk about the important relationships, the ones that had a profound effect on my life, but I find it completely unnecessary to rehash EVERY sexual experience. There is such a thing as TMI

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  • Maharet's Avatar
    Posted by Maharet Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:20am PDT

    yes, though there has to be a point. can't just go around telling the world that i'm more experienced then most men i know. and i don't mean numbers wise. it's quality sisters, not quantity.

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  • ღ♥Beauty Within ღ♥'s Avatar
    Posted by ღ♥Beauty Within ღ♥ Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:30am PDT

    It depends with whom I am talking to. If I trust that person enough to tell him/her about it or if i want that person to be with me, then i still have to know if it's a TURN ON or a TURN OFF...

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  • ladywolf's Avatar
    Posted by ladywolf Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:34am PDT

    I did not give that info. out untill I made up my mind that I was going to have sex with that person. yae 100 persent honesty. If I am to that point I have nothing to hide. If someone has an std You have to tell the person no matter

    thast just the only choice. I dont like to decide something with only half the info I should have. and It proves you are an honest person right from the begining

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    Posted by ladywolf Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:34am PDT

    I did not give that info. out untill I made up my mind that I was going to have sex with that person. yae 100 persent honesty. If I am to that point I have nothing to hide. If someone has an std You have to tell the person no matter

    thast just the only choice. I dont like to decide something with only half the info I should have. and It proves you are an honest person right from the begining

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  • Karen's Avatar
    Posted by Karen Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:02am PDT

    yes because you never know what might come back and bite you on the butt.

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  • B's Avatar
    Posted by B Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:23am PDT

    Yes! Because honesty is the best policy. I feel if people would lie about there sex life they would lie about anthing else, you know like a Lay Potato Chip can't just stop at one. People have know problem with discussing sex with there friends but when if comes there Significant other they sugar coat the truth.

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  • Mrs. 4Jones's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. 4Jones Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:24am PDT

    No. Only because I feel like the past is the past, why bring up the drama in a new relationship?

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    Posted by Mrs. 4Jones Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:25am PDT

    But, on the other hand, is you have a STD, please tell!

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  • boomer1944's Avatar
    Posted by boomer1944 Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:26am PDT

    I dont have any history on sex,sorry

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