Question of the day: Who's your "one who got away?"

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  Posted by RhondaVoo Tue Apr 22, 2008 1:09am PDT

  Dated a guy years ago and think he was "the One". It was a bad time in my life for many reasons. I bailed!! Too much on my plate at the time, which really was probably for the better. But now looking back, I let him go and miss him greatly. He was great and probably would have helped me through those rough spots if I had given him the chance. Anywho.... My loss and another womans gain. He is taken now! I wish him the best and maybe someday I will find another keeper! Rhonda

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  Posted by Piphiet Tue Apr 22, 2008 6:06am PDT

  It's hard to think about 'the one that got away' it makes you keep imagining and playing 'what if' scenario thousand times in your mind.

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  Posted by Traci Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:01am PDT

  Hmmm...Until 2 years ago, the one who got away was Brien---we lived together for almost a year, but broke up due to a bunck of different issues...but I never stopped thinking about him and wondering..what if? Didn't see him for almost 10 years. But 2 years ago in May, I was standing in front of my bank, and he rode by on his motorcycle. We started talking, and I asked him over for dinner that night---he still hasn't gone home!!! :} So sometimes, the one that got away is eventually the one you end up with.

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  Posted by Krystal Tue Apr 22, 2008 9:38am PDT

  I had the "friend from childhood" that I let get away :( he was everything I looked for In a man and now he's with some one else. Whenever I think about him I wonder how It could be if it was him and me and not him with that other chick!!! But one day I will look up and he'll be there!

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  Posted by cris Tue Apr 22, 2008 11:13am PDT

  2 1/2 years ago, I was a scummy dive bar and struck up a conversation with the (cute!) guy next to me. People at this bar kept walking by, saying what a cute couple we were and we would correct them, telling them that we had just met. It became uncomfortable! Anyway, the conversation was great but I had to be somewhere, so when he went to the bathroom, I left. I regret that STILL!! I had even gone back to that crappy bar a few times, but I haven't seen that guy since. In hindsight, I should have given him my number and said something like, "Since we look so good together, maybe we should do this again?" But I'm not that smooth! Maybe it really is all about timing?

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  Posted by martha Tue Apr 22, 2008 1:14pm PDT

  my one who got away , was clint he was the most loving ,romantic man i knew at the time , it was about 17yrs.ago or so he was great just to much of a player , i mean he was younger than me by about 2,3yrs younger than i , he was so caring , he stood by me through all my worse times , i could always count on him to save the day ..my kids liked him his family was great too ..I can say now He has been my bestfriend and i will always hold a special kind of love for him and his family they were like my second family they have not let me down yet , i know that if i ever needed them to this day i could still count on them .... and yes , if there was still a chance to re-ignite this flame i wouldn't hesitate to do so and i would not make the same mistakes i did then of letting him go,,,,it had alot to do with my family ,my parents didn't like him they thought he was not right for me because of his race , and they caused us alot of problems ....he knows i still care for him and even now his own kids. We've been through it all together even now we still know we are there for eachother , in any case ...I do miss him in everyway , as a freind that we soon became , and as the man i once loved truly. Now I'm just sad this going back in time ,just saddens me .

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  Posted by IZZY Tue Apr 22, 2008 2:20pm PDT

  Well, mine just recently sort of got away. No I guess I pushed him away, were both in careers that won't "allow" us to be together. We just click, he's younger than me which I've never ever done, but I've NEVER had such great chemistry with anyone. Oh I'll just stop the B.S. were both in the ARMY and well I live in TX, he in another state right now for training. We talked on the phone and text 24/7 since 02/08,but when I realized how deep my feelings were developing, I started dating all these guys and stopped communicating with him for a few weeks. Then when I recieved a text from him I very cooly and bluntly said, "yeah so I'm dating other guys now," and obviously he said, "thanks for your honesty." That was it. I haven't gotten him out of my mind, I've dated soooo many guys and the only guy I go to sleep and wake up thinking about is him. I just recently recieved a random text from him and it said,"guess where my duty station will be?" You guys guessed it, in Texas. BUT I was just informed that my Unit will probably be deploying to Iraq in August.....we still talk and I tell him often that I still care, but he doesn't really want to hear it which I get, but at the same time I only did it cause yes, like many of us single gals, I got SCARED and just freaked out. Who knows what will happen with he & I, I keep telling myself if it's meant to be, it will be.

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  Posted by Honeygirl Tue Apr 22, 2008 2:38pm PDT

  I can't decide if he "got away" or not, since I had no real feelings for him.

  He was a "good on paper" guy...handsome, fun to be with, really intelligent, all that stuff. Problem? I had absolutely NO feelings for him one way or the other. Sure, it was extremely flattering that a guy THAT GREAT thought the world of me, but honestly, I felt NOTHING for him. NOTHING. And I tried, spending time with him in hopes of eventually appreciating him but nothing.

  Later, I saw him with another girl and heard they were getting married. They looked SO happy. I started wondering "did I give up too quickly? Should I have stayed a little longer?"

  And to this day, years later, I still wonder.

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  Posted by maggiemae Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:00pm PDT

  butch. blonde curls, blue eyes, crazy in love with me, and i couldn't commit. somehow i thought i could get back to him later because we so obviously were meant to be together, like two halves of the same person. then it got complicated and the timing was always bad and too many years went by. we both had some hard times but he's made a good life for himself and his family and by all accounts is very happy. me? still having the occasional dream and wondering, what if...

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  Posted by kopchaser01 Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:11pm PDT

  I met my "one that got away" about 10 years ago he was my advisor for the Police department. I was so in love with him, it didn't matter that he was 19 years older then me. He was so fun,smart,sexy,a police officer,and caring,such a "REAL MAN". He had a girlfriend then, but when we had free time I was with him too. I so wish that he would not have been pressured into marrying her. I have never met anyone like him before and I'm sure I never will again, so one day I hope he gets divorced, and maybe just one day he will come back to me.

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