Question of the day: Who's your "one who got away?"

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  Posted by Nastassia Wed Jan 28, 2009 8:37am PST

  When I was younger I had this dude named Freddie and I was 8 years old he was in the same class as me but he was two years older than me. I was gonna tell him how I felt about him but unfortunately, I had moved away, Two years later I went back over to where I use to live at,and I saw him and he told me that he always had thought about me...I just couldn't see him in that way anymore... But I felt like I missed out on him. back then I really did love him....

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  Posted by Nastassia Wed Jan 28, 2009 9:16am PST

  Who exactly knows what love is when you've first off never felt love? How can you possibly know when you love someone? Is love unconditional when you can fall out of love? Can someone answer my question? Love can sometimes be like a drug, it blurrs your vision, It makes you see what you want to see instead of what's right in front of you. This happened to me not once but many times there was no way I was gonna give up on love though. There shouldn't be any escuse to give up on that, You never know when you'll be missing on the one who could last forever...

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  Posted by April Fri Feb 6, 2009 1:46pm PST

  I have someone right now that I am headover in hills inlove with and I am so scared because its to good to be true kind of thing with him. I do not want to lose him. I have never in my life felt like this over any man and he is so not my type. He is redheaded blue eyed and so sexy. I am cherokee and seminole. I have only been with Native guys. He is white. My first one. So its very different for me.

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  Posted by flame-n-heather Mon Feb 16, 2009 12:34pm PST

  I had a couple that got away.

  The first was a sweet sweet guy that I knew all through middle school and high school. We took piano from the same teacher, and he was the most absolutely gifted musician I have ever known. He was so beautiful and very different from the average boys. Very smart, humble, gentle, open-minded and so insightful. Just a beautiful beautiful person. We talked on the phone a lot and were pretty good friends. I always carried a secret torch for him and was too wussy to tell him about it. I was a part of a club/civic organization that put together a pageant for the local Azalea Festival. The members who worked the hardest were granted free tickets to almost every concert, garden party, and event that took place the week of the festival. It was great fun and you got to dress to the nines for almost everything. We were supposed to bring someone as our escort, and I took him. He was such a gentleman and looked terrific in a suit. I still remember the moment I should have responded, but was so stupid that I didn't. We were at a concert, and I was wearing a terrific black dress that left the upper portion of my back bare. He was tickling his fingers along that part of my back. I remember looking at my friend, giddy and beaming to her while he did this, but too scared, stupid, dumb, whatever to turn to him and give him an encouraging smile or something, anything, to let him know that I accepted this small, very appreciated, gesture. Instead I gave him no indication that I even noticed. Stupid. So...nothing more than friendship ever occurred. Now he is married to a beautiful chinese woman and was living in China the last I heard. I always knew he would go on and do very interesting things. And I'm really glad that I can say that I ever even knew him. :-)

  The other guy was VERY different. Much more a Bad Boy. Again, he was someone I knew in middle school, and ran into again after high school. So devilish, and just oozing virile male energy. I had gone to school with his brother since 4th grade, and finally met HIM in 7th grade. There were definitely sparks between us, even back then. But, as can only be expected from a bad boy like him, he did something stupid, and I ended up smacking his face in the hallway at school and thought I was done with him. Fast forward about 5 years to my senior year in high school, and I bumped into him working with my friend. Re-ignite sparks! He had filled out and was just so very hot! We hung out a lot and became light-weight involved with each other. But I knew that I would be going away to college after the summer and he would be joining the army. So, after our summer flingish thing, we went our seperate ways. I heard a year or so later that he was back from the military, but that he had a new baby, so I didn't even look him up. Life moves on, we meet people, get married have children, and those relationships from youth get left behind. I have thought about him a lot over the years (even still do). He was just so exciting and just so ignites something in me that I don't think the embers from the torch will ever truly die. A year or so ago, we came across each other on myspace, and have very lightly kept in touch. He's now got 4 kids and is living with someone. I am married and have a son of my own. I think we both know that it is done, and I honestly believe it is for the best. Life has shown me that our personalities would not lead to a lasting relationship. But it is nice to remember what once was and to see that he is doing well.

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  Posted by cavalry_scout Thu Feb 19, 2009 5:40pm PST

  my lost love took her mothers advice and sent me a dear john letter while i was in the military ,decades ago. she contacted me three years ago and wanted to just be friends,she is married and now wants to be friends with benefits, i have told her no several times, yet she still pushes it. can some of my shine friends give me advice as to what you would do in this situation...

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