Your healthy self-esteem grows by the year, and that means you'll be more successful and more satisfied as time passes, since you're no longer comparing yourself to others but are measuring your accomplishments by an internal ruler...your own desire to be authentically you.
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After years of so-so dates and useless self-help books, one woman discovers the secret to loving her life.You'll bounce back more quickly from a bad event, since women in their 30s and up tend to be able to refocus and move forward after bad news than those in their 20s. Maybe it's life experience, but when I find myself ruminating on the negative, I think: Snap out of it! You're lucky you have this day and this chance to do things right and sometimes understanding that means figuring out a way to get beyond a slight insult. (I know that whenever I don't want to make that phone call, it's the first one I should make.) The truth is, perspective helps you deal with most anything, and you gain more every year you're on the planet. Well, from where I sit I have a very long view of things, and it really does help in times like these!
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You'll have more satisfying bonds. I know that. I have shed many a friend who just wasn't there for me, or me for her, in a significant or meaningful way. My daughter calls these "faux-rends," and what she means is they look like a friend and talk like a friend but they aren't really a friend. Instead, I am blessed with a small number of truly meaningful women friends I would do anything for and they for me. It's special and you cherish those bonds since they last a lifetime. At least I hope we grow old together. New studies show that while you have fewer friends as you get older, the ones you do have keep you young and involved and enjoying a longer life. OK, ladies. Lets get together and celebrate that!
Prioritizing is easier. Yep, it's true. My kids, my family, my job, my health... those are top of the list. The little things seem to easily fall down the list, and I would say that's appropriate, given the fact that I used to stress about the nothing details that don't matter and fail to appreciate the biggies that do. My way of thinking about this is: is it an A, B or C problem? (Meaning life or death, survival or long-term satisfaction? Will I remember it 10 years from now?) If not, it's an X, Y or Z problem and I should let it go. I know this now, but back in college and my postcollegiate years, I'd let something small really bring me down. Now, if it's not crucial or vital to the things at the top of the list? I just allow it to roll off me. You will learn this, too. Trust me. And then it gets easier to be happier all the time.
That's my advice for all you birthday girls out there. You're not getting older, you're getting better.
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