Ask Dr. Kate: STD risk without condoms?

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  Posted by Thu May 22, 2008 8:33am PDT

  I have had between 200 and 300 sexual partners in my lifetime. I have always insisted on safe sex practice and have even taught partners how to use a condom. There were 2 breaches in cases of rape. After a breach of safe-sex, I would remain in a 6-month term of celibacy before being tested. To this day no disease has been found by any physician. My last test for HIV was last January prior to a surgery. It came up negative.

  The requirement for condoms and dental dams cannot be underestimated in any case of penetration. And at the same time, because of those breaches of safe sex, I regard myself as having dodged 2 bullets.

  If one truly cares for a partner, safe sex practices will be observed. Those who try to discard them should be automatically disqualified as a partner. That is one disqualification I maintain with any partner, including intoxication by alcohol, tobacco, marijuana, and any recreational drug. It isn't just an issue of safety. I want my partners to fondly remember their experience with me forever and to have no regrets. Drunk and high people won't. The rules don't limit. They enhance.

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  Posted by S. M. Fri May 23, 2008 2:01pm PDT

  First off, Nephthysya, I applaud you for being so safe. But how can you talk about caring for your partners when you've had so many? Even if this is over a 30 year span, that means you'd have had a new partner about every month or two. And how can you talk about wanting them to remember the experience, when you yourself won't? Practicing safe-sex is extremely important, but people should also consider SELECTIVE safe sex.

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  Posted by choochiscute Fri May 23, 2008 2:45pm PDT

  There were 2 breaches in cases of rape????

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  Posted by Valery Mon May 26, 2008 8:01am PDT

  When was the last time the woman/girl in the photograph had a good meal?

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  Posted by estanina Mon May 26, 2008 1:17pm PDT

  Same question about the meal?????? Isn’t this blog about healthy living?

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  Posted by Beth Tue May 27, 2008 6:03am PDT

  I don't think how many partners Nephthysya has had should be frowned upon, I think the fact that they practiced safe sex every single time shows that they are a good, caring, considerate person. They care about themselves and their partners.

  My partner and I have used condoms on and off during our long term relationship, but we were both complete virgins so there was no worry about STDs. It was mainly for birthcontrol. With any other partner though, it's important for me that condoms are used.

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  Posted by Suzanne Tue May 27, 2008 2:18pm PDT

  To stick to the topic:

  My boyfriend and I use condoms every time. We don't really count previous sexual partners with each other, but each of us has basically had under ten. Prior to getting together, he hadn't been with anyone for about a year and I hadn't for more than a few months. We prefer using condoms to birth control. I react badly to hormonal birth control (mood swings, depression, etc.), and with the dangers of spermacides, we both feel like condoms are our best bet. We use them every time (regardless of penetration point) except for oral.

  Also, although it may sound odd, I think we both have a notion that we'll stop using condoms when/if we get married.

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  Posted by Pretty Tue May 27, 2008 2:58pm PDT

  i think all women should read and learn more about them sucking and f------ dicks that are not clean.

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  Posted by pintu Wed May 28, 2008 5:21am PDT

  always use condom

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  Posted by Maree Tue Jun 3, 2008 11:39pm PDT

  Yo Brothasista,

  U R freakishly funny! good day!

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