Confession: I have body issues.

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  Posted by Appletini Tue Oct 27, 2009 1:09pm PDT

  I know how you feel. And yes I admit that I don't eat three meals per day because of the dreaded Latina booty. It sneaks up along with that fking muffin top.

  But don't despair. You can have a good body and feel good about what you eat. It is better to work with a nutritionist to see what is best for you. and always have fruit and veg to snack on at home and bring it with you during the day. What helps me is cutting out the damn potato chips, chocolate, and soda and working out regularly with power yoga and pilates. Accept yourself as you are, and then treat your body accordingly. Take a dance class. do things that make your metabolism work with you and have fun in the process.

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  Posted by Coco Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:05pm PDT

  Sorry but maybe if you exercised and ate right you wouldn't have this problem. Please stop complaining to everyone about your body and ur weight gain or w/e, teenage girls all have low self esteem (except the pretty thin ones) so this isnt some sort of confession. stop starving yourself and eat right and exercise, this is why americans are so obese.yeah sit on ur butt all day and blog cause thats rlly whats gonna help you.

  -Adam

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  Posted by Trish C Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:24pm PDT

  hey, don't listen to that adam guy. he's clearly got his own demons that he needs to deal with. and let's not forget that he may act like he has the balls to say this to you now, when he's anonymous and behind a computer screen, but we all know he'd NEVER have the balls to say it to your face. if he even has balls.

  anyway, let's focus on you. i completely understand how you feel. i listen to friends of mine every day talk about how awesome they are at starving themselves -- "oh, i only ate three pretzel chips today!!".... kill me. that is not healthy, and i don't care how effing skinny you are, IT'S UNHEALTHY. so don't do that. you've got to start taking your own advice, because if you don't, then the advice you are giving to others is empty. if you can tell someone else that weight doesn't matter and they are beautiful no matter what size they are, but you don't believe that and apply that to yourself, then those words mean nothing to that person. you have to believe what you say and you have to understand that you aren't unworthy of feeling beautiful. you have a boyfriend who clearly loves you for you, and you are very lucky in that, because i know plenty of people who cannot say the same -- and they range from sizes 2 to 20, so it's not about the weight.

  i'm not sure what you are thinking if you are reading this, but you might be thinking, "why should i listen to this random stranger?" well, i think you should listen to me because i am literally the same person as you -- or at least i was. after my last breakup my ex decided to lash out at me and told me that no one will ever love me again because i'm fat, that he was always embarrassed to be seen with me, that people always wondered what a guy like him was doing with a girl like me. and i got depressed, and i stopped working out, and i ate. a lot. and i gained -- a lot. i felt like, what is the point? then one day i woke up, and i snapped out of it. i got up, and i started to exercise again (which I always enjoyed, because i was a soccer player myself, but never thin like your cousin). and i did it for me. and i lost the weight i had gained, and i felt so much better about myself! it no longer mattered what my mom or my friends or my ex or some person on the street thought about me or my clothes, all that mattered was how I felt in my clothes and in my own skin. you have to get to the point where you get SELFISH and start taking care of YOURSELF because YOU deserve it, not because anyone else thinks you should (even your own mom).

  and here's another little piece of info that once i accepted, i slept better at night: no matter what size you are, no matter what you look like, someone somewhere will have a problem with it. whether i'm a size 6 or a size 16, someone will have something to say. maybe it won't be about weight, maybe it will be about my hair color, or my skin color, or my choice of clothes that day, or my nose, or something. people will ALWAYS find something to say, because it makes them feel better about their own insecurities. and understand that it's natural to feel insecure -- EVERYONE feels insecure at one time or another, and anyone who says they don't is lying through their teeth.

  just start waking up in the morning and focusing on the things you DO like about yourself, and try to eat healthy and keep up that good workout, and you'll start thinking and feeling better about your body. i'm sure you are way too critical on yourself, as most people are (I know I am)...and it's okay to critique yourself from time to time. but remember that you've got great things going for you -- you're in college so you're smart and you will be successful, and your mom loves you (despite what she says about your cousins) and your boyfriend loves you. take a deep breath -- a lot of people out there are a lot worse off, right?

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  Posted by smileyaguss Thu Oct 29, 2009 2:35pm PDT

  i feel youu lol i hav body issues to becuase i used to be very curvy! but ilost alot of weight and now im skinnyyy.. and my YOUNGER sister has the body i used to have which makes me pretty jealous becuase i used to be like that and i makes me unsecureee.. ahhh

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  Posted by Tanyalyn Sun Nov 1, 2009 8:43am PST

  I used to be 285lbs 2 years ago i watched biggest looser and said no more can i live like this its very hard to loose wieght. i lost 135lbs in two years it took 6 days af working out everyday and eating oatmeal for breakfast terkey sandwich for lunch and rice beans and chicken breasts 4 dinner. and were poor so it doesnt take 2 much money 2 eat better you have 2 just be able to give up all the foods you really love. but now i can eat a little different but im pretty obbsessed about my what i eat and working out. i now weigh 150lbs and im 5feet 11inches. it is not easy now i eat all day and now im happy. you can loose all your weight and still feel like you need to loose 20 lbs. everyone says im nuts but in my eyes im still overweight. i am in the best shape of my life i have 3 kids and im 28 years old. i did it all on my own no help from anyone.

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  Posted by sat Sun Nov 1, 2009 10:44am PST

  Well since I read ur post on other computer and saw that ur in college and busy and all. Try to workout or join swimming in ur college if u haven't already, its way fun and it will take that stress which comes from studying, also drink more home squeezed juices, I have a machine which i use regularly, it doesn't take time like cooking food.

  Remember no one is perfect everyone have there problem or something negative about themselves but its how u control and other's see it counts, in ur case ur BF loves ur curves and so it should be fine for u or otherwise change ur habits little by little.

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  Posted by M22 Mon Nov 9, 2009 3:57pm PST

  Beauty comes from within. I can say this because Ive had a long long long struggle with my own body image, to the point where I would get so skinny, but couldnt see it. It was never enough, never qute good enough. And my jealousy of girls I thought were prettier than me put a huge stress on my relationship. I began to research. My childhood, my environment, the people in my life...and I began to see why I had issues with myself. Call it media, a health-freak mom, obsessed friends...etc, it was crazy and made my life miserable so I had to change something. I began to exercise more often, BUT, not to lose weight...because it made me feel good and healthy. I read self-help books, and tried smiling more, bought more "right fitting" clothing and began to highlight things about me that are unique and beautiful. Slowly but surely, I became content, happy. Forgot about my appearance! And suddenly, what I saw in the mirror was great, and everyone noticed I was glowing. So, when youre happy, youre beautiful.

  Drinking lots of water also helps ;)

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  Posted by Sarah Wed Nov 18, 2009 2:29pm PST

  Loving your self is the hardest for anybody.. Everybody always tells me I am skinny and beautiful even when I have clearly gained more than a few pounds, but I am taller than some girls so they can't see past that and my friends and family love me.

  I always want to believe my loved ones when they say something like the aforementioned where they see me as a raving beauty whose life should be perfect as they think I look.

  But then I see a photo of me that shows the few pounds I have gained but my sisters get angry with me if I say something so I don't.

  Lately I get up at 5 am every morning rain or shine to do 45 mins of some sort of workout. I run, walk or do a video..

  It helps me feel like I am doing something. On the weekends I take it easier but it's hard when u work 2 jobs. I have always eaten foods that are good for me along with my junk food.

  My point is you’re not alone..We all look at ourselves that way at one point in our lives some of us are stronger and fight it sooner in our life’s then others do.

  My younger sister still is trying to love her body she is short and just had her second child. Her body changed..Older sister (short and curvy too) never has found complete peace but she is getting further after meeting her awesome hubby.

  It takes all different times in our lives to reach that point. We all have our own body issues.. I have a larger waist and a tummy roll that won't ever go away but I have big breast and a fuller bottom then most so I focus on those things.

  I am the only one who can make me love myself enough to not want to die at the sight of myself from behind in my bathroom mirror.

  This is my battle..My Venda if you will to hold my head up high and feel good in my own skin again.

  Rage this war within yourself..Nobody can fight it for your only cheer you on and the beauty is that you’re the only one who can win it too :)

  Good luck to you my friend..Fight the good fight everyday and live healthy!!

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