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Saturday, September 6, 2008

Girl-on-girl action: Why we get into b*tch fights with other girls

Jackie Warner of Work Out

Jackie Warner of Work Out

I don't watch Jackie Warner's Work Out regularly (but I admit, there's something appealing about her, in a bi-curious yeah-I'd-hit-that kind of way) so I totally missed the huge controversy surrounding last week's episode. It seems that Warner was snarking with her assistant about one of their trainer's client's fake boobs. Drama ensued when the client's boyfriend overheard them and explained that his girlfriend was a breast cancer survivor and had implants as part of her reconstructive surgery. FACE! This somehow led to Jackie firing the trainer in question. So, not only was the client, famous fitness model Jamie Eason, getting hated on because she had implants due to cancer, now she's got to either find a new trainer or switch gyms? Sucks to be Jamie Eason.

And it also sucks to be Bravo, who is being pummeled by emails from angry viewers who vow to cease watching the channel (what, no Runway?) and also, to boycott the advertisers' products. And it's worked: Gatorade has ended its relationship with the show. Ooooh. Harsh.

Ladies, I love a good drama escalation as much as anyone else, but what's really at the heart here? Someone got called out for being a mean girl. It's delicious and irresistible, but I really wonder if some of the titillation isn't because it's girl-on-girl action? I mean, nothing turns heads like a catfight, right? In fact, to this day, one of the most surreal things I've ever witnessed was a fight between two girls in a karaoke bar (one was screaming that she was going to pop the other's silicon implants) while the guy up on stage continued to sing the most beautiful rendition of Louis Armstrong's "What a Wonderful World." It was like I had stepped wholesale into a David Lynch movie.

The truth of the matter is that girls get angry at girls, just like guys get angry at guys. The difference here is that it's societally acceptable for men to express their anger and rage, whereas a feminine ideal requires you to maintain control at all times, leaving us with passive-aggressive, partially effective little outlets like bitchfests and gossip. And like too many rats in a cage, we'll bite the girl next to us rather than questioning why we're trapped in the first place.

Would it be weird to suggest that many of our body image problems stem from the fact that we have to suck up everything that is unfair, everything that is unjust, just suck it up and take it? It's unladylike to question authority, to make a fuss, to voice demands or be impolite. So instead, we become our own worst enemy, transferring those emotions to a safe outlet. If I were a conspiracy theorist, I would have to applaud whomever came up with the strategy. After all, women outnumber the men on this planet, but if we're distracted with worrying about the size of our thighs (or whether that girl over there has an unfair advantage due to her unnatural breasts) then we'll never have time to focus on the true injustices in our lives. Huh. What's a girl to do?

The comments want to know if breast implants make you angry.

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  • BEADBUNNY's Avatar
    Posted by BEADBUNNY Tue May 13, 2008 8:34pm PDT

    Breast implants don't make me angry, but the women who get them surgically implanted into themselves just to make men look at them makes me sad and makes me look at those poor low self esteemed women with pity.

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  • emlit's Avatar
    Posted by emlit Wed May 14, 2008 6:57am PDT

    I don't really think that this situation really qualifies as a "b---- fight". I think what is going on here is that Jackie and her assistant, Lisa, made comments that were unprofessional in an environment where people should feel safe and supported (and in which Jackie herself is constantly calling other people out on their "unprofessional" behavior, which she clearly feels herself above). Furthermore, the fact that she chose to fire the trainer who asked her to apologize to the client for the comment that was made makes this whole thing sound like a pride thing or a test of the ego--I'd say this has far more to do with Jackie and her behavior than it does a heated feud between two women. And I hate to say it, but I don't think society's treatment of women was a factor in this at all. I don't think the comment was made in a passive-aggressive way because Jackie and Lisa felt they had no other way of addressing the subject. I think it was just a reflection of the kind of environment that the gym is, in spite of what it's owner says to the contrary.

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  • luvsplant's Avatar
    Posted by luvsplant Wed May 14, 2008 7:49am PDT

    Jackie would never tolerate such unprofessional behavior from her trainers. Apparently the same rules don't apply to her. She had no right to fire Brian. She was out-of-line and he wanted an apology made to his client. I love the show, but am disappointed in Jackie...Don't know if I'll keep watching.

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  • Maria's Avatar
    Posted by Maria Wed May 14, 2008 8:01am PDT

    It's one thing if you had to have your breasts surgically removed due to cancer. But when did it become normal to fill yourself with plastic to make you more "attractive"? This is akin to that victorian trend of wearing corsets that squashed your internal organs to make the waist an unnatural sixteen inches!

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  • Niki D's Avatar
    Posted by Niki D Wed May 14, 2008 8:13am PDT

    Did anyone actually watch this episode? Jackie didn't make the comment towards the client, her assistant did. What Jackie really needs to do is dump her assistant, that girl is always trying to start stuff in the gym, she must have been planted there by Bravo to kick the drama level up a notch.

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  • texas flower's Avatar
    Posted by texas flower Wed May 14, 2008 8:27am PDT

    Jackie is so immature. For her to be a business woman and always calling her trainers out for being unprofessional is a double standard on her part. First she should never had been talking about other people with one of her staff. Jackie's problem is that she tries to have her cake and eat it too. She is the boss and a business woman and therefore she should act like one. She had a relationship with one of her trainers how unprofessional is that? And people actually expect her to behave like an adult? I don't understand why anyone would give their money to Jackie or any of her trainers for that matter. Skylab is all about Jackie and anyone else that happens to get in her way.

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  • texasjhw's Avatar
    Posted by texasjhw Wed May 14, 2008 8:56am PDT

    I completely agree with Niki D--that assistant (she is so unremarkable that I can't remember her name)--seems like a very unnatural addition to the show and doesn't fit in at all. I'm disappointed in the current season.

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  • Wendy's Avatar
    Posted by Wendy Wed May 14, 2008 9:15am PDT

    I don't even watch the show. But hello ladies you are such haters, who cares if someone has fake boobs, it's none of your business. If you don't like them don't get them. I would love to have some myself. Women hating on other women, get real we have men for that. I bet your wearing make-up, why I wonder, isn't that also fake.

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  • Leah's Avatar
    Posted by Leah Wed May 14, 2008 10:50am PDT

    I saw the episode, and I don't think it was confirmed that Jackie said anything. It was Lisa the assistant commenting on the implants. I agree with the others who said that Lisa is added drama. That girl is in everyones business! As far as implants go, I feel that it is a personal decision that everyone is entitled to. Who cares if they have a low self-esteem, or their just doing it for a man!? Who are you to decide what is right for an individual you know nothing about? I've never had any plastic surgery, but I have not completely ruled it out either. I'll be damned to let a stranger tell me what's right for me! So....God forbid anyone lose a boob from breast cancer, but if that happens, and you decide that you rather fill yourself with "plastic" to capture that feeling of normalcy that you've lost...then you go girl! It is totaly your business, and I wouldn't blame you. The same people who make comments on fake boobs are the same people who will make comments on a woman with one boob, so you can't win.

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  • Alison W's Avatar
    Posted by Alison W Wed May 14, 2008 10:50am PDT

    I too have been guilty of watching this show and also Bravo's mean girls. I think there is definatly guilty pleasure in watching woman or girls fighting and being mean to one another, maybe it goes back to our own childhood of when sometime or other that we were picked on or poked fun of by a bully, and see this as revenge, as the reinactment on the screen. Oh and by the way , breast implants don't make me angry especially if the lady had cancer and they helped her in her recovery. Also to the editor of this article I noticed the word weetabix, myself being a Brit I love that cereal !!!

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