As much as I disdain the incessant reconstruction in Hollywood that makes for impossible beauty standards for women (and now more than ever, women who gave birth like five minutes ago), I will also admit that the thought of going under and returning to a different body is sometimes alluring. My girlfriends and I have had some honest conversation (usually and ironically while in an omelet and Bloody Mary coma) about our dream procedures. Although I am fine with my weight at the moment, I have had a baby and wouldn't mind a bit of that resulting belly being erased with a surgical wand.
Of course, it's not that easy. There are many factors to consider, cost and risks and feminist philosophy and ever having another child again among them. Would I ever follow through? Doubtful. But have I thought about it (sometimes, a lot)? Sure.
But if we can really, really honest for a moment and support each other in our questions about altering our baby-changed bodies, what would we confess? What would we advise?
Reader angeleyez needs your help as she struggles with her own belly. She wants to know if she should give in to a tummy tuck, and as a woman, as a girlfriend, I want to say, "No! No! No! Do stuff to feel good about yourself. Find time for self-care. Take a class that kicks your ass and that you love for doing that. Meditate, get centered, appreciate yourself and the body that's gotten you this far."
But as a woman speaking for myself, my honest response is, "Honey, I hear you."
Help this reader out with your own words of wisdom, and if you dare, your honest thoughts and experiences: Is it time for a tummy tuck?
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