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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Kissing off caffeine, Day 2: I look and feel like h-e-l-l

I made my way through my half-pot of half-caffeinated coffee one cup at a time. I  spaced out the coffee like it was tequila, alternating big glasses of water with the good stuff. I took time to get up, walk around, stretch. I tried my best to think positively with kind reminders to myself about how good I am being to my body, what a good job I am doing of taking care of myself.

But I'll be honest, this whole thing bites it. Big time.

I had moments all day when I felt OK, when I was distracted by work or a phone call. Those moments quickly melted into feeling like a thousand pound weight was resting on the bridge of my nose or someone was pulling my brains out slowly through one of my ears.

Dramatic? Yes. But this is one of the side effects of caffeine leaving the body -- drama. The other is crabbiness. One more is an inability to focus on work, my mother, and small children, which is tough since those are three of the major components in my life. Oh yeah, and let's not forget looking like death.

While I was not concentrating on a conference call, I glanced over at a mirror hanging near my desk. I saw myself, eyes at half mast and mussed hair and a look of pitiful surrender on my face. If I had more caffeine in my system, I might have been startled. Instead, I was just too tired and felt too awful to care that I looked so tired and awful.

So I did what I do when the mirror mocks myvaliant efforts to be healthy and I closed up my laptop and took a nap. Please know that knocking off midday, even for lunch, is a rarity for me. So taking time to gobble a sandwich and gulp water, then fall into my bed for an hour is a big, big deal. Seriously, though, I felt that I could not go on another minute.

I woke up to my cell phone alarm feeling no better than I did when I fell asleep. Apparently, my body was that tired from the work of not consuming so dang much false fuel.  Plus, my nap hair and wrinkled clothes seem to call even more attention to the bags under my eyes. If it was possible, I looked even worse than death after my supposed rest.

The good thing is, it was time for my final shot of half-caf for the day.

That got me through the last hour of work and picking up my son at preschool. I somehow scraped through dinner and his bedtime. I'd like to say I went to bed early, but I didn't. I'd like to report in that I put on extra eye cream and took a bath to ease the blegh-ness, but I didn't do those things either. Instead, I put a plea up on Facebook to all of my friends to kindly stop commenting on my decaffeinating status update about how much it sucks to give up coffee. Why do people have to do that?

Please, I begged them virtually, no more of your horror stories. Only positive vibes. Only cheers and regaling of what a cinch Day 3 is.

I got some words of encouragement back, which was just enough boost to get my awful-looking, tired feeling to bed. Only two thoughts made it through my weary brain before I fell sound asleep: I cannot wait to get that coffee pot cranking in the morning. And tomorrow, this better be a whole lot better.

And if it isn't, I hope at least I look like it is.


Now you 'fess up: Have you ever attempted to give up caffeine but quit as soon as it got tough?


Read more about my journey out of caffeine addiction:

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  • mommaofsun's Avatar
    Posted by mommaofsun Thu Apr 2, 2009 12:26pm PDT

    Hang in there!!!

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  • Jessica Ashley, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Jessica Ashley, Shine staff Thu Apr 2, 2009 12:46pm PDT

    Thanks, mommaofsun!

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  • Ashley's Avatar
    Posted by Ashley Thu Apr 2, 2009 12:50pm PDT

    Listen, coffee is my thing. I don't care if it's good for me, bad for me, causes cancer, cures cancer, makes me look old, makes me look young, keeps me thin, makes me fat...WHATEVER! Everything is good and bad depending on what website you're on or what doctor you see. And I'm never going to "give it up." I don't understand the obsession with giving up everything one likes in an attempt to be happier and healthier. Resisting yourself only seems to make you more miserable and irritated! I highly doubt drinking a few cups of coffee is worse than breathing our polluted air everyday. ENJOY your coffee TODAY! "Never pass up the promise of today for the promise of tomorrow."

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  • Jessica Ashley, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Jessica Ashley, Shine staff Thu Apr 2, 2009 12:54pm PDT

    Ashley, I do believe that healthy living includes enjoying pretty much everything in moderation. I am cutting out caffeine for health reasons (there's a link in the post above to my scary wake-up call experience). I also really felt I needed to cut back on the amount of coffee I was drinking anyway. If you can be healthy and happy and drink your joe, then -- believe me, sister -- I say, do it.

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  • M Pie's Avatar
    Posted by M Pie Thu Apr 2, 2009 1:10pm PDT

    Hang in there! I gave up coffee and chocolate. Yes, chocolate! I didn't have as many withdrawal symptoms as I thought I would and I feel SO MUCH BETTER! My mood is more pleasant. I am more patient. Life in general is so much better! And i can tell the difference in mood change as soon as I drink caffeine. Some people are not meant to have caffeine in them and I think I'm one of them!

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  • Rebecca's Avatar
    Posted by Rebecca Thu Apr 2, 2009 1:56pm PDT

    The horror! Please don't make me. I gave up diet soda pop for Lent but I just couldn't give up coffee. Now if at the end you effortlessly drop weight or something I'd consider it but..no. No. It's all I've got.

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  • Máirín's Avatar
    Posted by Máirín Thu Apr 2, 2009 2:22pm PDT

    It does get better. Really it does. I think Jillian Michaels a couple months ago got off of her diet coke / caffeine fix. There were a few episodes of her podcast where she talks about the experience. Not exactly the same as quitting coffee, but, I don't remember it taking very long for her either, at least, she only complained about it over a 3-episode stretch, and lately when she brings up her diet coke detox she talks about how much better she feels and how glad she is that she did it.

    So maybe try to focus on how good it's going to feel when it's all over with. :)

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  • sita's Avatar
    Posted by sita Thu Apr 2, 2009 2:37pm PDT

    Hang in there it will get better!!! I went through the whole withdrawal symptoms too, gave it up cold turkey, and yes sometimes you feel you would rather die than well have to go through that another day.

    But I gave it up for 3 reasons. Well it started off because of Lent, figured it was worth trying this year. Second, I would love to have a baby in a couple of years and figured I would have to do it sooner or later. (Yes I know some studies say you can still have a cup or so, even while pregnant, but I'd just rather not take my chances. And it's so much easier for me to just not drink as opposed to trying to remember how much I've already had.) And well my last reason is because I hated the idea that I HAD to have something to get me through the day. That somehow myself or my body was not able to give me the energy I needed.

    There are some days when I am really craving it and wish I could have that pick me up, but I try to remember why I started this in the first place. Later on I may go back to decaf, but if so just everyonce in awhile.

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  • Shanasia's Avatar
    Posted by Shanasia Thu Apr 2, 2009 3:05pm PDT

    I gave up caffine about 2 months ago, which is hard because I work for a coffee shop. I have seen amazing results: my skin has cleared, I eat better, and i've even dropped a few pounds. Hsng in there, and warn all around you!!!

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Thu Apr 2, 2009 4:59pm PDT

    I gave up caffeine when I was pregnant. I thought it would be really hard, but surprisingly, it wasn't. I reduced consumption gradually, so I never got withdrawal symptoms or headaches. Started with 3 cups per day, then 2.5 cups for a couple of days, then 2 cups for a couple of days, and so on until I got down to half a cup a day and then finally none! Of course, I picked it back up after giving birth to prepare for those sleepless nights and round-the-clock feedings.

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