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Friday, November 27, 2009

Manage Your Anger

Even Taming Your Inner Brat author Pauline Wallin, Ph.D., a psychologist who helps patients manage their rage, sometimes gets steamed. Here's how she deals:

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Photo Credit: Katja Govorushchenko/ iStock

Start by saying "At least." As in, "At least I won't have to see this rude waiter ever again." It shifts perspective from problem to solution.

Actively decide not to pick a fight. Say you have a dollar's worth of energy to spend every day. Is this person worth 80 cents of that energy? In the grand scheme, unless the situation is life-changing (like a maniacal boss, in which case you might consider a new job), taking deep breaths and letting it go is a wise choice.

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  • MrsKlingonPasadena's Avatar
    Posted by MrsKlingonPasadena Fri Nov 13, 2009 2:37pm PST

    This is so true. I used to lose my cool. Then I realized I was acting like a raving lunatic whether it was justified or not...not to mention driving up my blood pressure. Now I am a much calmer person. I don't let things that don't directly affect my life bother me anymore. I live and let live. If my boss works my nerves I let him know in a courteous way. If my family works my nerves, I let them know before I explode. My life is better now.

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  • 1kitkat's Avatar
    Posted by 1kitkat Sat Nov 14, 2009 1:25pm PST

    What I usually say is: " It matters not" and then move on toward focusing on the positive side of life. There's always going to be something or someone to un-nerve you if YOU open that door of opportunity.

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  • First L mile's Avatar
    Posted by First L mile Sun Nov 15, 2009 6:30am PST

    if you are standing pl seat down, take a glass of water and drink slowly, just relax and read some book as your friendly book . your anger will fully under control. try this is the way of all proffet the messengers of GOD . ismail patel

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