I've been friends with "Emily" for going on 20 years (we are both
29 now) and i'm at my wit's end. Though Emily and i have certainly
had some good times, her negativity and depression continue to drag
me down. She is one of those constant complainers (someone who can
see the bad in almost any situation...fun, huh?!) and believes that
life sucks and that she'll most likely never find happiness.
So you ask, why do i keep her as a friend? Well, for one thing, our
parents are good friends and so i know that it would be very
awkward for everyone if i told her i couldn't be in her life
anymore. And she does have some good qualities -
she's very smart, funny and i respect her love of the environment
and the fact that she has high morals. But she's one of those
people who can ruin an otherwise happy day after spending just a
few minutes talking with her. She also can be sarcastic and angry
and has made comments that really hurt me and those around her. I
could go on and on, but my question is, how can i move on from this
friendship? I have no idea what to say to her. She's pretty fragile
and doesn't take criticism well, so i feel like i'm walking on
eggshells. But i'm also fed up and just want to move on with my
life. Thanks for any advice....
Please help - what's the best way to get rid of a "toxic friend??"
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Posted by Mon Sep 1, 2008 2:40pm PDT
Report AbuseI would either distance myself from her but not cut her off completely or be moral support for her to get some counseling.
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:33pm PDT
Report AbuseI have a friend who I think needs counseling,she has had it before but how do I tell her she needs it again?She has an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder type of personality.People like this tend not to want to hear the truth.They know the truth but it is a fear.I see her feelings getting soon and I want her to start talking to someone before it really happens.I have told her to be careful but she does not listen.
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:29pm PDT
Report AbuseI wrote her a letter explaining all the resaon why I was ending the friendship, and her reply was she will not "even try to fix it"..which proved that she did not care and I was "correct" about her being a very selfish person and she did not hold the same morals or values on life/relationship as I did...I am happy I ended that and now I have no more "monkey on my back, "her lies" , her cheating ways etc...I buried them all...
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