User post: When It's time To End The Friendship

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  Posted by Mumbles Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:15am PDT

  I feel what youre talking about! We all have or had those friends before. It happens But you should never knock them because the path they decided to take didnt go the way they expected. If they are truly a good friend of yours, just be there to watch them and give them a boost from time to time. They will appreciate it in most cases and you might even become an example or role model to them. By all means, never end a friendship, jsut try and sit back and see what becomes of them. They might even just push you away...

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  Posted by DBTheGreatOne Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:33am PDT

  i have felt the same way and im glad u moved on..but those who are close to ur heart and want the best for you..never ever let them go

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  Posted by MrsKlingonPasadena Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:35am PDT

  My sister is all three of your friends combined so I know what your talking about.

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  Posted by Am I there yet? Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:38am PDT

  I totally agree with your logic of moving on and finding new friends that are more fitting for where you are in your life right now. It's always hard to stay friends when you grow and change, but your friends dont - or they grow and change into a totally different person altogether. I think as yourself this: If you just met your friend/s today for the first time - would you be friends with them or would forget you ever met that person? If you wouldn't befriend that person, then it's time to cut the dead weight on your life.

  I think maybe just try not to burn any bridges along the way. Who knows...down the road you and your friends might grow and change back into the same direction and your paths might cross again. They might eventually again be the kind of friend you are looking for. Why slam the door on it when you can simply shut the window? :)

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  Posted by Melissa Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:38am PDT

  i had friends like #3 and the most important thing is we live seperate life's now

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  Posted by Jamieann Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:51am PDT

  I completely agree with you. Until recently I had relocated from across the country to a new state because I believed in a man so much that I wanted to build a life with him. Until recently I realized that we were on "two separate paths" and he is several years behind where I am in my life. He is a wonderful person but sometimes you have to let the friendship fall where it may and move on. I try to be his friend but he continues to try and "fix" the unfixable. Sometimes its like we are all in a fog and one day....I can see clearly now. :)

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  Posted by tamara Mon Apr 13, 2009 10:08am PDT

  A little harsh but it is up to you to live your life! I hope you get better friends and hae a great day! Great post very intresting. I think I will have to make that choice about one of my friends very soon!

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  Posted by opiniononly Mon Apr 13, 2009 10:08am PDT

  I hope as you develop new friendships you don't let the bitter, critical, judgmental tone of your article spill over into them, or you run the risk of them thinking less of you. You have described three difficult situations and I applaud your decision to move on. No one should associate with people who drag us down or choose to live their lives complaining about everything but doing nothing to change. Instead of trashing your former friends, it might be beneficial to vent your considerable anger on Shine, then take the high road and put it ALL in your past.

  BTW: Linking "Praise the Lord", and "What a son of a B----" in one sentence is really pretty offensive. I suspect you consider yourself a good Christian woman, but in one sentence, you've shown that you still need to work on compassion and tolerance.

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  Posted by gracious432003 Mon Apr 13, 2009 10:10am PDT

  I finally had to give up on a set of friends over a decade ago. It was for the best. They kept knocking me off my feet. Since then, I became much wise in choosing friends.

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  Posted by Aeris Mon Apr 13, 2009 10:29am PDT

  #3 reminds me of a past friend... while on unemployment (she knew her job was going to be over when she finished going to an art academy but didn't look for a backup job), living with her parents and right after her dad bought her a brand new car, she had the nerve to tell me that I needed to think and act like an adult after I mentioned missing a boy when I was out of town doing on the job training for a new job (so I could better afford my apartment bills and buy a new car for myself). I was like, "um, hello? Turn that critical eye back onto yourself for a day or two!"... we're no longer friends. When you're growing, you gotta cut the dead weight, move on, and keep your head high.

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