Why teens need condoms

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  Posted by Angela Mon Jun 22, 2009 8:52am PDT

  Sorry, Katie B. I disagree with you.

  Abstinence only was Bush's baby, and it has led to an entire generation of people being "Left Behind" in sexual education and human biology.

  We don't expect parents to teach kids chemistry, algebra, or geometry. Why would we expect them to be able to teach human sexuality with any degree of accuracy?

  MORALITY is what should be taught at home, and that's it. When I see the vulgar, outrageous, and wrong things written about sexuality by adults here, I don't trust them to educate children.

  As far as purchasing condems goes, most kids won't, and most kids don't have their own income. They need to be free and easily available.

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  Posted by Katie B Mon Jun 22, 2009 9:02am PDT

  Sorry Angela... I guess we are just going to have to disagree... I think parents need to step up to the plate here... sexuality is a part of morality... and are you saying that any teenager can't find a couple of quarters to go buy a condom from a bathroom?

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  Posted by Angela Mon Jun 22, 2009 9:06am PDT

  No, Katie, I'm not saying they can't. I'm saying most won't.

  Actually, around here, we don't have those anymore. We used to, but not anymore. They just sell tylenol and lip gloss for some stupid reason.

  There's more to sexuality than morality. There's important science and biology to it, and kids need to learn that too.

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  Posted by Katie B Mon Jun 22, 2009 9:15am PDT

  I understand that Angela... but there is a fine line in teaching sex education and handing out condoms... If I were a parent I would much rather have my children come talk to me... and yes, I do realize that most parents aren't that way... I have seen it myself, the selfishness of supposed parents....

  I'm sorry if I am coming off brash... I guess I am still tired from my day trip on Saturday.

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  Posted by pretty much amazing Mon Jun 22, 2009 9:30am PDT

  Katie B, I think you're missing something. Parents have an issue with teaching their kids about sex...because they don't (possibly just refuse to) see that their 13 year old daughters are doing such a thing. Times have changed. Yes, jr. high girls are having sex. I coached a swim team last summer and had to hear of a girl ----- to copy a guy's homework. Homework?! Most parents think the subject won't come up until their little angel goes off to college. That isn't the case.

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  Posted by mother1 Mon Jun 22, 2009 9:49am PDT

  DON'T BLAME IT ON THE BUSH ERA. TEENS HAVING BEEN HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX FOR DECADES. WHY, BECAUSE THEY DON'T COMPHEHEND THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS--THEY ARE KIDS! AND, THE VALUELESS ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY DOES NOT HELP.

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  Posted by pretty much amazing Mon Jun 22, 2009 10:05am PDT

  Mother1, please don't shout. I am 23 now. When I was in Jr. High, few kids were having sex and were viewed as skanks if they were. Things have quickly changed. The numbers went WAY up when a certain somebody supported abstinence: a method proven not to work. Sex ed is how the "kids" you are referring to learn about those consequences. When I was in school, we saw disgusting photos, had a woman come and speak about getting an abortion when she was little, and how to go about it the safer way if we were going to. Because of the sex ed we had before the Bush era, I didn't want to have sex (and was a "kid" too.)

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  Posted by liwiad3 Mon Jun 22, 2009 10:33am PDT

  It would be wonderful if the whole abstinence plan were to work, but it won't. I got pregnant at 18 and my mom told me all about sex. I took sex ed in high school (before I got pregnant) and still ... the guy I was with (who is now my husband of 9 years) simply said "I don't wear them (condoms)". So we just went on about our business, as most teens now do, and we ended up getting pregnant.

  It's going to happen, handing out condoms IS going to encourage it to happen more often, it will encourage teens to have more sex. Unfortunately, just because you hand them out, doesn't mean they will know what to do with them or use them every time. You have to see that just because they have a rubber in their pocked doesn't mean we're going to save a new generation from an outpouring of pregnancy and STD rates. You may see a minute change but you will see an impressive increase in the number of kids becoming sexually active and more likely at earlier and earlier ages than currently reported.

  I think handing them out at school is a terrible idea. Sex education should be a parental decision... understanding the failure of many parents to inform their children, Sex Ed shouldn't go away, but the supply of condoms 'at will' for kids without informing the parents is underminin parental authority and personally I feel that's the government stepping in where I, as a parent should have total control. If I don't want my daughter to have a condom, she shouldn't be able to get one from school without my knowledge. End of story, period, no further discussion...I'm the parent.. that' MY right, not the school's, not the shcool nurse's, not the principal's, not the state's... it's no one's right but mine. And it is a private matter that should be between she and I.

  She's 9 now...we've talked briefly already b/c I know by 13 the statistics of how many girls have had oral sex are shocking... and most of them don't consider that sex at all. I'm totally prepared... but It's all my decision to make. No one else desereves that right.

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  Posted by elitzab Mon Jun 22, 2009 10:38am PDT

  TEACH THEM SAFE SEX AND LET THEM HAVE ACCESS TO CONDOMS .THEY WILL DO IT ANYWAY.WE WERE ALL TEENS...DON'T YOU REMEMBER...

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  Posted by Angel Morbid Mon Jun 22, 2009 11:54am PDT

  I don't think any school would do anything to "encourage teens to have sex". I mean there is already a girl pregnant, my age too. And you can't believe how *many* rumors I heard of "this girl sleeping with him", or "that couple already had sex with each other". All of this was just freshmen too! It's happening *a lot* more than people would like to believe.

  When my grade was to be taught sex ed this year, I just thought it was going to be a huge waste of time. It was taught 4 days a week for two weeks straight. The PE class in each particular period is twice the size of a normal class (since it is co-ed PE). They were not split into groups or anything, just the PE class sitting in the bleachers for almost two school weeks.

  They brought in a nurse from Planned Parenthood to teach us, but everything went incredibly *slow* because the boys (and some girls) took it as a big fat joke and asked questions that couldn't be possible by any stretch of the imagination. "Hyuk hyuk, will period blood melt a condom?" Yeah I know they're just teens, but come, on we have to hold them to some sort of standard.

  She wasn't allowed to hand out condoms either.

  Not only is sex ed non-existent in some places, it is dangerously inadequate in most others. And honestly, I think parents should take a little more responsibility too in educating their kids. It should be a joint effort between the parents and guardians and the schools. One side doesn't always do the job...

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