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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

5 reasons you should not quit a job you hate

I get to write a post like this because:
  • I’ve quit many jobs I hated and many of those were for the wrong reasons
  • I’ve not quit two jobs for some of the reasons I list below and I think it was the right thing for my career

Now that we got that over with, here are 5 reasons why you should not quit a job you hate:

1. It’s a means to an end.

I once quit a job I hated 2 months before my contract there was up. (Long story, it wasn’t a contract job but I was hired for a certain period of time.) At the time, I thought I could not take it any more and another opportunity came along. But I lost a lot by not waiting an extra 2 months: My bonus, but more importantly, a great relationship with this particular firm. My career turned out fine and I ended up going in a different direction all together, but if I’d wanted to stay in that field, I would have had a harder time getting a great job at another company.

A job is a way to make a living but it’s also often a means to an end. Sometimes you have to pay your dues for a while before moving on to a different position, one which you will like more. You might have to work for a company where the culture is hideous but one that has great reputation, which will help you with other jobs in the future. You might be learning a great deal. Think about this before you quit.

2. It pays well and you need to save up money.

One of the most boring and annoying jobs I’ve ever had paid more than I’ve ever made since. I knew soon into it that I didn’t like it and there were days when I was ready to run my boss over with my car and drive away. But we needed the money and we were able to save a ton while I worked there. So I stuck it out for an extra year and we got enough savings to start a publishing company and pay for our wedding.

I am all for finding a job you love and are passionate about (I quit my last job to do just that). But there is nothing wrong with being practical and realizing that you might need to stick it out at a place you hate because you’re saving up.

3. Other things in your life are in flux.

The last time I quit a job we also moved to a different city at the same time. Let me tell you, bad idea. I almost lost my mind. (Well, my husband claimed that I DID lose my mind, but what does he know.) Lesson learned — not the smartest move to quit a job while other major things are in flux in my life. I know I could have sequenced this career move differently and I should have. If you have a lot going on outside of work, it might be a bad time to quit and look for something new.

4. You’re not prepared to look for another great job.

Finding a job takes energy and time. If you don’t have enough of either and you can’t realistically make time or find energy, then it’s not a good time to look for work. I was having a very hard time at work when my daughter was born. But I knew that I’d be a horrible interview candidate after staying up all night with a four-month-old. This was not a good time to look for work so I stuck it out at a job I really disliked.

Don’t quit a job you hate to JUST make a change. You need to work hard to find a new job you like better and you should make sure that you have physical and mental energy to do it.

5. You don’t really hate the job.

You’re wondering if I made up this reason because I ran out of others. I didn’t. Before you quit a job you hate you have to make sure that you hate it and get very specific about what you hate about it. Do you hate what you do? If yes, is there a way to change what you do, by say, moving to a different role or a different department? Do you hate your boss? If yes, how long-term is this? (E.g. What are the chances your boss will move on, be fired or promoted?) Do you hate who you work with? Colleagues can get annoying and a poisonous work environment is bad for you, but is there anything you can do, like working with a different team or talking to HR about moving departments?

Make sure that what you hate is something that can’t change before you quit.

Have you quit a job you hated or stuck one out? Do you think you made the right choice? Do you regret your decision to do either? Sound off and share your experiences and thoughts about this topic.

Nataly Kogan is the co-founder and CEO of WorkItMom.com, an online community for working moms. For more career tips, to connect with working moms, share advice about balancing work and family, quick recipes, and growing your business, and to read working mom blogs, visit www.WorkItMom.com.
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  • annie's Avatar
    Posted by annie Tue Apr 1, 2008 4:22am PDT

    My life changing experience came when I changed careers at 50. I don't care what they say about discrimination, they don't want you if you are that old. I went from 16 years as a licensed nurse to online medical transcription. Not an easy transition, irregardless of the nursing experience. Just hang in there if you have good benefits. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, just more bull....over there!

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  • Debbie P's Avatar
    Posted by Debbie P Tue Apr 1, 2008 4:45am PDT

    I hope this sight stays around I simply love it!

    I have been in my job for 10 yrs.though I would love to able to stay at home and make my Tupperware 3 yr business stronger it's just can't happen at this time so I will continue to do both. I worry about down sizing in the company also but I do have something to fall back on if that does happen. I can't really complain and I am always greatful for the good paying job I have.We are all like family there.

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  • Karissa's Avatar
    Posted by Karissa Tue Apr 1, 2008 9:59am PDT

    I quit a job in Janauary (did not agree with the company's morals and ethics) of this year to take on an opportunity contracting with the state. Unfortanately, the contract never started cause of the state budget. I have been selling Tupperware online and now Im thinking maybe i need to do more with my Tupperware business since who knows...maybe its time to jump in full time...i just needed the little push that i didn't want to ask for.

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  • Kathrien's Avatar
    Posted by Kathrien Tue Apr 1, 2008 10:40am PDT

    I agree with most of these points. I guess my advice would be to find how to use your talents and passions and figure out how to use it at work. Taking a break and going for coffee or bringing your i-pod always helps. You get what you give out.

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  • Shawn H's Avatar
    Posted by Shawn H Tue Apr 1, 2008 5:36pm PDT

    I am considering leaving my position at work at the end of the summer. I am headed back to school to complete my degree in sociology and I can't be a mom full-time, work full-time and go to school part time. So I had to weigh my options... I plan to work as a subsitute teacher, which allows me to be free to go to school a couple of days a week and then be home with the kids and still keep my sanity. I am a very good employee however honestly some of my time at work is not very productive and I can only do so much with what I have at work so I aplan to approach my VP to ask to reduce my work hours and if that does not fly then my two weeks notice will be handed in and I will go back to subsitute teaching.

    Having said all that I love my job, my VP, and even my immediate boss, but I have to get myself together now before it's too late and I've wasted my time at a dead end position with no degree and then who is to blame for not trying to improve myself?

    ME! Nobody but me!

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  • Brainy Sweetheart's Avatar
    Posted by Brainy Sweetheart Sat Apr 5, 2008 6:04am PDT

    This is really a great site and comes just so right for me. I joined my current employer which is one of the renowned international companies for almost 2 years. Basically people here are not bad but naive and hard for me to communicate with. The only job they do is to follow instructions and ass-kiss the management team. What really upsets me is the incompetence of the Management team. They don't even know what strategy is about and keep draining out employees' energy the way that 30 years ago people worked.

    Such situation has badly disappointed my former boss and she finally quit. My boss stayed in the company for 2 and a half years and hired me and another manager in our department. The other manager followed my boss' suit. Both of them kind of not happy about I still stay in the company. The reason for my staying echoes almost exactly the comments found in this site. Without a job sometimes makes you feel going nowhere, then you start wondering and regretting what you've done. So the best tactics is to adjust the mindset to clearly understand what this job can offer you, while looking around for better opportunities. I now shift my focus to making my life more enjoyable out of the office. I'm thinking of improving my health, finding a hobby, giving more time to think or even idle around. When the right opportunity comes, it would just knock on the door. For the time being, focus on what makes you happy, OK?!

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  • Lobster's Avatar
    Posted by Lobster Sat Dec 20, 2008 11:35am PST

    Please check my post: Rebel to success. I do want to quit my job for the following reasons...

    1) I was hired to do analytical work with various duties surrounding the position -yet apparently, their new project never picked up and they redirected my job to more of an admin assit job (I'm an MBA with investment acct experiences and sitting for the CFA exam).

    2) If the admin assist job is 20% of my duties, I don't mind doing it if it helps the company. Lately, however, they wanted me to take over some receptionist duties as well. I once said no in the past to some things, and one co-worker told my boss I was not a team player. Be that as it may, I stand by my skills and experiences and my education. I was a little upset that someone did that to me. I was upset that that they thrusted 80% admin work on me. I've diminished 40% of that work by automating the stuff - automation I could've done to make my co-workers' jobs obsolete.

    3) The department I work for are comprised of vindictive folks. It's corporate culture. In the past, I worked with laid back people who are interested in increasing their skills and learn more. The ones I work with now, just want to force everyone to say they are right. (if I were that gullible and lacking in knowledge, I'd invested blindly with Madoff).

    4) The one remaining job duty that I was promised originally, will not remain in my possession any longer because someone is requesting that be taken away from me. I don't mind. That will hopefully be an excuse as to why I will finally up and leave -- "due to restructuring".

    However, I can't quit my job because...

    1) I've held 3 jobs in less time. I don't want to come off as a job jumper.

    2) as long as I automate my work, I can jump into the projects that I was originally hired for.

    3) I took up a second night job in close proximity to the office job and learned marketing, sales analysis & trends, & management training in the hospitality industry. May I be honest and say that I learned more at the night job than my day job? The day I no longer work at the night job, is the day I leave my office job.

    I'm not worried about not having a job now. I'm still young. And as a witness to this economic recession, I've been saving so much money. With my night job, I've saved twice more than people who made double the money I do. I'm also being taught to be prepared and invest wisely as I get older, because as I've seen, society will not be kind to an elderly's finances and needs.

    But my question is, should I really quit because of the reasons above? Am I being irrational? If I have no degree, no skills, no talents, no connections, and no experiences - the answer is a no-brainer. On the contrary, I have all these assets, and I'm picking up more knowledge-based skills from my night job that my day job should be exposing me to.

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  • cres's Avatar
    Posted by cres Wed Jan 21, 2009 4:36am PST

    i really love my job honestly, but sometime its come in our life to choose family or work. especially if your work is far to your family and u need to give up it because of the family.. its hard to make a decision especially is this matter but we should think what is our priority in life..

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  • Nadia's Avatar
    Posted by Nadia Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:04am PST

    Im in the manufacturing industry where i work with the boys and im the only girl in the office.ive been working here for nearly 8 months and the same day i came was with this other guy friend.we were pretty close but in a friendly basis.but today he is quitting after finding a better job.now im at lost and pretty sad coz im losing a good friend and someone who always help me when in need.due to that, i feel like changing my job too and starting a new life.but after thinking rationally, i stand firm n am still working here.

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