Divorce and the downturn: Is the economy the reason for the high divorce rate this year?

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  Posted by Frenchy Thu Dec 18, 2008 10:08am PST

  I THINK THE ECONOMY CAN CHANGE THINGS AS FAR AS WHEN THEY GET A DIVORCE, I HAVE KNOWN COUPLES THAT STAYED TOGETHER FOR HEALTH BENEFITS AND THE LACK OF RESOURCES....EVENTUALLY THEY DID DIVORCE, BUT SOME WAIT UNTIL THE OTHER ONE CAN GET ON THEIR FEET OR THE KIDS ARE OLDER.

  I DON'T THINK MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE SHOULD BE OR NOT BE BECAUSE OF MONEY, BUT THESE DAYS I HAVE HEARD A LOT OF FOLKS STAYING TOGETHER BECAUSE THEY CAN'T MAKE IT OUT THERE ON THEIR OWN. ITS HARD TO GO FROM A DOUBLE INCOME TO A SINGLE ONE, ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN BECAUSE SOME WOMEN STILL CHOOSE TO STAY HOME AND NOT WORK OUTSIDE OF THE HOME.

  I WAS BLESSED WITH STAYING HOME AND RAISING OUR FOUR CHILDREN, BUT WHEN WE DIVORCED IT WAS HARD ON ME, I HAD TO WORK A LOT OF ODD JOBS TO MAKE THE ENDS MEET SINCE I STILL HAD TWO CHILDREN IN GRADE SCHOOL. IT'S REALLY TOUGH TO GO FROM 50K A YEARLY TO 7K. WE ATE A LOT OF PASTA I REMEMBER, WE DIDNT HAVE STEAK FOR YEARS, BUT EVENTUALLY I WAS ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR THE THREE OF US QUITE WELL. P.S. THE CHILD SUPPORT WAS A MUST, I COULDN'T HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT THAT AND DOLLAR STORES!

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  Posted by DeAnn Fri Dec 19, 2008 9:29am PST

  Wow. Such lawyer-ish answers! LOL

  Yes. No. Maybe. 42.

  But seriously, I think people fight a lot about money but they don't necessarily get divorced over it. People who can't afford a divorce are staying legally married - I know this because several acquaintances are going through this.

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  Posted by arscuore Sun Dec 21, 2008 6:04am PST

  It was a factor in ours because my ex wouldn't even try to get off his butt and get a job. Now he is not sending us child support even though he has a job. Ironically, he was all about the money in our relationship. Can't wait to get his hands on my retirement (yes, MY retirement), but couldn't send us a red cent to help with the costs of his son's birthday party.

  Yes, money can be a factor.

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  Posted by melinda p Sun Dec 21, 2008 10:52am PST

  I think people are forced to stay together right now due to the decrease in jobs and income as well as due to the rising cost of housing (rentals) and food and the credit crisis. I personally am counting down the days until my youngest graduates High school. Two more years, I plan to serve him divorce papers the day after graduation. By then I plan to have a better job, my credit where I need it to be. That way the transition will be easier. He has horded money as well as refused to pay household bills, christmas, birthdays etc..to keep me broke so I cannot leave. Im at my wits end.

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  Posted by Name Sun Dec 21, 2008 7:26pm PST

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  Posted by Monique Mon Dec 22, 2008 10:19am PST

  No one is ever forced to do anything they don't want to do. People end up staying in relationships because they feel they don't have any choices. We were all born with the power to choose and create a better life for ourselves. If we get caught up in what media is saying about our life and the economy we'll never get anywhere and would all be miserable. The inventions in our society were created and perfected during economic downturns and so called "recessions." We must take responsibility for the choices we make in our lives and stop blaming things on outside influences. What does the economy have to do with divorce? You either believe that you can make it out there or not. These days everyone's looking to blame something on why their life isn't going the way they desire. Don't believe the outside hype. Ladies, take responsibility for your life and live your life powerfully. You get what you believe. What you focus on expands. If you believe you can't afford something then you won't. You can make it out there ladies!

  Much success to all.

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  Posted by Joe Fri Feb 20, 2009 2:14am PST

  Most, not all, of the women I've come across in my 42 yrs were looking for a man to take care of them financially so they could quit their job or simply couldn't contribute enough to the household financially. Although, I never dated a Professional woman. They are different. They seem more independent and stronger than the type I've found myself mixed up with. I can clearly see how the economy would affect the divorce rate. It's not rocket science! For example, HE loses his job for whatever reason, the money is no longer there. She isn't about to sacrifice the lifestyle in which she's accustomed to. She says, "See Ya!" Time to find another man with a bigger wallet, bigger bank account, and more job security. Don't tell me I'm loopy either. LOL! This is such a common scenario in America that it makes me sick to my stomach. Yes, I AM single. This is the main reason why. Most women marry for money. I could be the sweetest, best looking guy in the world. The best at everything. If I were broke and every woman knew it, I would NOT get a date! Yes, the economy has a LOT to do with the divorce rate in America. Don't kid yourself people. If you happen to be broke, she's not gonna stick around long. Unless you've always been broke, I guess! LOL! It's sad, but that is what American society has become. I didn't make it this way. I'm just the msgr for those who want to complicate this question, "Does the economy have anything to do with the divorce rate?" What really gets me is that women went for equal rights. Fine. They want ALL the mens jobs. Fine. They don't want to be stay at home moms, etc. Fine. But yet, men are still reguired to "take care" of them. I'm not saying all you girls are like this. I know better. Just the type I've been "lucky" enough to attract! LMAO! For those of you who can't understand how the faltering economy is tied to the divorce rate pull your heads out of your you-know-whats! Wake up people and get real. If some of you "broke" husbands who have lost your job due to the economy are reading this, here's a word of advice. Just lie to her by telling her it's all going to get better soon! LOL! We'll never see at so good as it was in the 90's in OUR lifetime. All that is history. She doesn't have to know that though. LOL! You may be able to stay married for a few more years. This is gonna get WAY worse before it gets better. Remember these words people. In 4 or 5 yrs maybe you'll believe what I'm saying here. Good day.

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  Posted by Anshuman Sat May 23, 2009 4:07am PDT

  Yes it is true, the divorce rate is increasing because of recension since it is the cause of Job cuts

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