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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Do you need a job search buddy?

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On Monday morning I met Deborah DiRago because we were both guests on the public radio show, "The Takeaway."  We were there to talk about DiRago’s efforts to find a “job search buddy” -- someone who would help her stay motivated and accountable in her job search.  DiRago has been unemployed since May, when her job in international event planning suddenly disappeared and her company announced it was shutting its doors. 

After a while of navigating the job market on her own, DiRago decided that it would help if she found someone to meet with regularly to move along her job search. She says she is looking for the kind of person who’d hold her to task if she said she was going to make 5 career-related contacts in a given week. 

So far, the job buddy search has been almost as challenging as the job search. While she does have a few friends who are out of work, none of them seem interested in creating this kind of group. But she thinks it’s depressing to do the job search completely on her own. So she placed ads on Craigslist and Quentin’s Friends (an invitation-only online community) to see if she could find someone near her Upper West Side neighborhood in New York City. 

DiRago got a few responses to her ad and even had a meeting with two men, who appeared to be good candidates. That group fizzled. “One of them got a freelance job. The other seemed too busy. Neither seemed motivated enough,” she told me. “To me, you’re either in this or you’re not. It’s not half-way.”  She’s now thinking of going to a networking event and approaching people rather than doing this all online. 

With the unreliability of today’s market, DiRago is also developing a few side businesses -- what she calls her Plan B and Plan C.  She is a professional organizer and a practitioner of Reiki, energy healing and tarot readings, and as we parted she handed me separate business cards for each of those activities. She plans to use her job search buddy to also get the entrepreneurial side of her career moving along.

Even if she talks to some other people who aren't the best matches, DiRago says she believes you can learn something from every person you encounter. She even got a few useful tips from one of the guys from her first meeting.  “I’ve been looking to volunteer without something that involves a lot of paperwork, and this guy told me about One Brick, where I’m now going to volunteer,” she said. He also recommended she read Keith Ferrazzi, whose new book, "Who’s Got Your Back," gives advice on how to create groups like the one she’s hoping to create. (I recommended Ferrazzi's book too, as well as Tory Johnson's resources on how to start a job club. )

Anyone else out there looking for a job search buddy? Has anyone succeeded in creating this kind of arrangement? If so, tell us about it in the comments. And if there’s anyone in New York City interested in meeting with DeRago, leave a note for her along with your email in the comments as she’ll be checking in.  

Listen to our interview here.

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  • Mary's Avatar
    Posted by Mary Wed Jul 22, 2009 7:21am PDT

    I think looking for a job search buddy would be helpful to me....I'm interested in meeting with Deborah DiRago and seeing if we could good job search buddies to each other. I don't want to post my email for all the world to see, is there a way to get each others emails without posting to the comments?

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  • Catherine's Avatar
    Posted by Catherine Wed Jul 22, 2009 8:18am PDT

    This fall I had a " job Buddy" My new neighbor and I both were returning to work, after taking time for the family. My neighbor, let me call her Mary, and I would go to job clubs, job fairs ect together. One of our contacts offer her a part-time teaching position! just perfect for her. I lost my job Buddy in January

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    Posted by Wed Jul 22, 2009 10:14am PDT

    I have a job search buddy -- a friend who actually lives in another city, but same state. We're both looking for jobs, so we send each other encouraging emails, job listings and even try to get together for coffee when we can. It's been a positive way to keep our spirits up while we both look for our new challenge in public relations. We're both looking in North Carolina which has 11% unemployment, so having a job buddy has really helped us both.

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  • Abigail's Avatar
    Posted by Abigail Wed Jul 22, 2009 10:40am PDT

    How do you feel about an electronic "buddy"? I recently learned about Upwardly Mobile (UpMo.com). They help you create an action plan and send you reminders to help you stay on track in order to meet your job search goals. It might be a nice tool for you, or at least a good fall-back plan if you can't find a live job-search buddy. Good luck!

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  • Back on the Career Track's Avatar
    Posted by Back on the Career Track Sat Jul 25, 2009 7:53am PDT

    In Back on the Career Track, our career reentry strategy book, we introduce the topic of "Relaunch Circles" and "Relaunch Buddies" as a helpful resource for people on career break looking to return to work. People in this situation often feel isolated, and the momentum that builds because "every Wednesday at 10 am" they are going to have a call with their Relaunch Buddy or meet their Relaunch Circle, is effective in keeping the job search process moving forward. We formalized the process and set up coach led Relaunch Circles, which we run in different cities a couple of times a year. The groups often end up meeting after the official, coach led, four session series is over for exactly this reason. Circles members share resources, do mock interviews with each other, give support when someone is deflated, and cheer them on when they are moving closer to their goal. So I really believe in the concept.

    Through our career reentry programming company iRelaunch, we also have an iRelaunch LinkedIn group - people who are actively engaged in the "relaunch" process, so Deborah may want to investigate setting up something similar for those who are more recently laid off (our group is for those who have been on a multi-year career break so the issues and experiences are different from those recently laid off, although there is certainly significant overlap). Also, I'm wondering if Deborah could identify a buddy through her alma mater - alumni career services departments at schools are sometimes helpful in knowing who else is looking. I'd encourage her to not limit her search to people who live near her because a regular phone call can be almost as effective as an in-person meeting.

    --Carol Fishman Cohen

    Co-author, Back on the Career Track

    Co-founder, www.iRelaunch.com

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  • Mitchell York's Avatar
    Posted by Mitchell York Sat Jul 25, 2009 6:40pm PDT

    Hi Marci,

    Anyone looking for a job search buddy should check out The Five O'Clock Club (fiveoclockclub.com) which is a national job search coaching company. I am one of their coaches in the NYC area. We have three NYC meetings a week on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Everyone who attends get a job search buddy. I also provide private job search coaching, more about that at my site e2ecoaching.com. Hope this is helpful to your readers.

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  • Marci Alboher, Working the New Economy's Avatar
    Posted by Marci Alboher, Working the New Economy Mon Jul 27, 2009 6:58pm PDT

    Thanks everyone for reaching out to Deborah and for offering suggestions. I'll spread the word about both the iRelaunch program and the Five O'Clock Club offering.

    In addition - for those who wanted to get in touch with Deborah, she is open to receiving your emails at ddirago@hotmail.com.

    -- Marci

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  • Muhammad's Avatar
    Posted by Muhammad Tue Jul 28, 2009 1:06am PDT

    I need money more than more. But i dont know. how can i do? I am Stenotypiest in Government sector. From this job i am not satisfy. I earn more than more money for my family and my future life.

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  • Millicent's Avatar
    Posted by Millicent Wed Jul 29, 2009 7:33am PDT

    yes i would like to have i lost my job but i believe you good buddys

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  • Koodi's Avatar
    Posted by Koodi Tue Aug 25, 2009 11:15am PDT

    Yes i would like to have job search buddy. I am 34 yr old, instead joining once again diffrent company I would prefer to open my own Business If any one can help me by giving CAD/CAM Related business.

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