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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Get more bang for your entertainment buck -- finding fun for free

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I've been flush and I've been broke. Obviously, flush is better -- but not always when it comes to having fun.

When I found myself a very young, very broke single mother throughout my twenties, we couldn't afford Chuck E. Cheese or first-run movies and forget anything like Sesame Street Live. Being broke forced us to be creative. So what we did was go to the free bonfire/marshmallow roast/storytelling at the nature preserve. We went to the free Jelly Belly factory tour. We caught fireflies and played freeze tag with the neighborhood kids.

As my financial situation improved, we slowly added the pay-for-play venues into our leisure time repertoire. Yes, we did the pricey miniature golf, laser tag and an indoor playground called Jungle Jims. And we went to the theater and bought those kiddie packs of popcorn with soda and a candy treat. And it was fun. Sort of. Chuck E. Cheese was always a bit of a bittersweet event. There were tears when the tokens ran out. And disappointment when no one had the bazillion tickets necessary for the flashy $2 trinket. Maybe it was because expectations were so high -- all the expense and excess led us to believe we would reap a greater reward. But with our freebie activities, the kids always seemed to walk away happy. Or at least satisfied.

When I ask my teenagers now about early childhood, they had no idea we were so desperately broke. They have rich memories of home birthday parties with homemade cakes and pinatas that took us many weeks and many pounds of paper mache to make. They know make-your-own-pizza Fridays as a fun family tradition -- not the result of a budget that had zero room for delivery. While they remember the later trips to the pricey venues, they don't have the same great, warm memories that they do about the fun we had to make for ourselves.

I've been happily remarried for nearly ten years now and my husband and I have cycled through financially thick and thin times. And every time we find ourselves feeling flush, we slowly go back to those habits of over-spending on entertainment. Why? Because like so many things that cost more these days, they're a conveniece. We don't have to think about it. Have a sitter? Great, we'll have dinner and a movie and be $100 poorer. And, expensive entertainment venues are marketed so strongly we feel like we need to want them. That we deserve them. The exorbitant theme restaurants and full-price theaters are the Twinkies of recreational activities; they seem enticing, but once you indulge, you're left with a funny aftertaste and a bit of regret.

So now that we're spending more on groceries and gas and practically all restaurant prices are through the roof, we're back to being creative and making better decisions about where our dollars are going. So these are the activities me, my husband and my kids will be doing this summer:

Movies in the park with picnic dinners
Days at the beach
Bike rides in the forest preserve
Books from the library
Movies in the yard shown on a sheet hung from the garage
Free concerts at downtown parks and in neighborhood squares
Checking out museum passes for free admission from our local library
Potluck dinners with friends

What's your favorite way to have fun on the cheap? And are you looking for low-cost ways to spend your leisure time?

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  • Martin's Avatar
    Posted by Martin Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:21am PDT

    Don't forget the marshmallow roast/storytelling/bonfire at the nature preserve. I love the relaxed pace of enjoyment/pleasure produced from within ourselves inherent in the activities you listed as opposed to the Pressure to Have Fun when you're spending a bunch of money to buy manufactured fun. Homemade pizza tastes a lot better than Twinkies.

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  • Dory Devlin, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Dory Devlin, Shine staff Tue Apr 29, 2008 2:24pm PDT

    Another great post, Micki. I have to agree: The times we've spent big bucks on mega-arcade outings and mini-golf outings that are memorable more for mosquito bites and sibling bickering than all-out fun (those outings come readily to mind), you leave wondering if it was worth all we spent. You're also right that kids won't remember how much money we spent when we were spending time with each other, but they will remember how it felt to be together. I'm banking on that.

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    Posted by Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:21pm PDT

    With a culture that's obsessed with "bling-bling", it's refreshing to read comments from others who understand that $ does not always = fun. My most vivid childhood remembrances include horseback riding, lying around on the beach, and playing freeze tag with neighborhood friends. Priceless. I don't have children yet...b/c I haven't met Mr. Right, but that's an entirely different blog! However, when I babysit my girlfriend's children, I conduct little mini experiments. Dave & Buster's vs. the Houston zoo...ordering pizza and playing pool volleyball vs. movies. Unlike many adults, children are creative and FIND ways to turn the simplest things into major events. While I do believe in splurging every once in a while (ok...alot of the while), I've come to the conclusion that nothing's "funner" than free!

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  • Teri's Avatar
    Posted by Teri Tue Apr 29, 2008 11:35pm PDT

    This brought back bittersweet memories of when my kids were little and after all the bills were paid, we only had enough money for groceries. We played board games and went to the park and the library. When we did go to McDonald's it was a hamburger happy meal split between the 3 of them, and then playing for hours at no charge in the play area. My kids are all college age and one is married, but they still include me and my new husband in their board game get-togethers with their friends.

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  • Nancy's Avatar
    Posted by Nancy Wed Apr 30, 2008 6:53am PDT

    There's a lot of things that cost little or no money-how about the zoo? Here in Ohio it's free on Mondays. You can also rent movies at the library or go to a park-where you can bike,skareboard,walk,etc. for nothing. Pack a picnic lunch to save from going to Mickey D's.

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    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Wed Apr 30, 2008 7:34am PDT

    So true. I am 25 (today!) with a 4 year old daughter, and we are expecting our 2nd in the next couple of weeks. Petting zoos, free concerts, puppet shows, if it's free and local we are there. We did splurge on tickets to Disney on Ice a few weeks ago, bought the stale pop corn and the way over-priced glow wand, and I left feeling almost violated. The next day we went to a free, church sponsered Easter Egg hunt. My daughter looked back on the whole weekend with smiles, and both events as equally fun. Next year, we'll skip Disney on Ice.

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  • __A_YAHOO_USER__'s Avatar
    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:10am PDT

    This summer will surely be hard with the gas so high and everything else getting excessively expensive. My friends and I have to an agreement that we will take turns planning little events that the children can enjoy and share the expense. For example, scavengers hunt in the park, water gun tournaments, golf night, handmade crafts, bug adventure, and name that star. We have already started to raid the kid’s closet and our garages for things we can use and for things we do not have we will just have to make a trip to the Dollar store or garage sales. Do not forget the older kids believe or not they might just have fun.

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  • BBJane's Avatar
    Posted by BBJane Wed Apr 30, 2008 2:07pm PDT

    Don't forget that many libraries also have an extensive collection of videos and DVDs. I go online weekly and request books and videos and then pick them up at the library closest to us. Sometimes we have to wait a few weeks to get a video/DVD that was recently released, but that's just fine.

    State and county parks are also a great deal. Here in Wisconsin an annual family pass is reasonable. The parks are wonderful for hiking, biking, picnicing and relaxing.

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  • nature9irl's Avatar
    Posted by nature9irl Thu May 1, 2008 12:45am PDT

    After quiting my job to go back to college at 30, I decided to find fun, inexpensive things to do...I found out I love frisbee golf at our local park (not to mention great workout), flying kites at the park or beach, anything at the beach for that matter, a game of chess on a blanket at the park with music and sandwiches (romantic date), bike riding on a local trail with a friend, video's and dvd's from the library (one of my fav..the college has a lot!), camping, hiking & picnic, fishing, home crafts, board games (big one most ppl love), lawn games (I forgot how fun it is...right in your own backyard), take the dogs for a walk (park, doggy park, around the block). So many fun inexpesive things to do so little time...=) Enjoying life one day at a time.

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