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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

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I used to be partners with this old man for five years.  After our partnership was dissappating over time he asked me to have sex with him.  He kept saying things like " I must have seduced you 100 times".  What do you say to that?  He then proceded to ask what sexual acts I do with my husband.  He also told me he has ED and his wife doesn't like having sex.  He was telling me about sex with his wife.  I couldn't believe my ears but I eventually told him that our friendship is over.  We still have communication at work about work but I can't get those disgusting comments out of my mind.  Every time I see him, I remember his words.  How can I move past this?  I still have to work with him periodically so how do I handle it?  He's old enough to be my father and looks like a potato on toothpicks.
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  • Amber's Avatar
    Posted by Amber Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:24pm PDT

    you are a better person than i would have been, you did not deserve to be tortured like that for five years or five days even, you must be a kind lady,

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  • *~Jessica~*'s Avatar
    Posted by *~Jessica~* Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:24pm PDT

    omg creepy ew o god im sorry i wish i had some advice but i dont but thats just nasty ew o god sorry bye

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  • Jude's Avatar
    Posted by Jude Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:26pm PDT

    Try telling him he looks like a potato on toothpicks to you.

    What he did shows no respect for you. Never encourage talk of that sort from ANYONE you are not interested in. It doesn't matter who they are. Stop the conversation immediately and find a different job/partnership venue if it continues.

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  • Straightfoward(lovely lady)'s Avatar
    Posted by Straightfoward(lovely lady) Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:27pm PDT

    I think this affected you in a bad way. First you no longer need any kind of contact with this person. Talk about perverted. I mean, he has problems. You need to tell him to back off, and not to even say hi to you. I think you need some kind of counseling, what he did and said is wrong. Pray really hard to get these thoughts out of your head, and shame on this man, for doing that to you.

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  • Amanda's Avatar
    Posted by Amanda Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:29pm PDT

    first, let me just say "EEEWWWWWWW!!!!!" lol. ok i'm good now.

    i've never been in your situation, so it's hard for me to suggest anything.

    is it possible for you to request to your supervisor NOT to work w/ him or around him for personal reasons? unless HE is your sup? although, i'm sure you would be asked if he is sexually harrassing you or something like that if you were to do that. so i'm not sure.

    the other thing would be just to try to put those thoughts out of your head. sorry i couldn't be of any other help. maybe someone else would have a better suggestion!

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  • Wen's Avatar
    Posted by Wen Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:31pm PDT

    Thats creepy and also known as sexual harrassment, did he say those things to you at work? If so find out the policy on sexual harrassment and report his ass, that is soo not ok.

    I know how you feel, its very uncomfortable, tell your boss you dont want nothing to do with him?

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  • m@r!@'s Avatar
    Posted by m@r!@ Wed Sep 17, 2008 12:33pm PDT

    That's called sexual harassment and it's against the law, so tell that potato on toothpicks to f*ck off... OR ELSE!

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  • browneyedgirl's Avatar
    Posted by browneyedgirl Wed Sep 17, 2008 8:43pm PDT

    i dont know how you handled it ! did you feel close to this man as a friend? that would blow any kind of respect you had for him out the door like a cold wind. if you dont have to have contact with him dont and move on.some guys dont get the message unless you cut all ties with them.

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  • cetannae's Avatar
    Posted by cetannae Thu Sep 18, 2008 8:26am PDT

    We were friends for 5 years. It wasn't until the partnership was disappating when he decided to be a pervert. On my cell phone I have him listed as "Perv" so that I know if he calls and not to answer it. This whole thing was out of the blue. I was friends with his wife and everything!

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